Welcome to Heart to Heart Talk everyday. I'm Ye Zhuang. Nowadays, the thing we touch most times every day is nothing else, but this thing - mobile phone. We touch it every day. It takes longer than relatives, children and lovers. From the alarm bell ringing every morning to turning off the light to sleep every night, we are caressing this little thing all the time. Don't believe it. Do you remember the last time you forgot to bring your mobile phone? Embarrassed? This is the impact of mobile phones on our lives all the time.
Now people queue up to play mobile phones, play mobile phones in meetings, play mobile phones at parties, play mobile phones when it is time to play mobile phones, and play mobile phones when it is not time to play mobile phones! Dscout, an Internet company in the United States, has conducted a survey to monitor the people's daily habits of using mobile phones. The data is amazing. On average, each person clicks on his/her mobile phone 2617 times a day, and the accumulated time that the mobile phone screen lights up is 145 minutes. The top 10% of people click on their mobile phones 5427 times a day on average. In addition, 87% of people watch their mobile phones at least once between 0am and 5:00 am. So you will understand why it is so common nowadays to "eat at the same table and practice separately". At the Spring Festival party, children and grandchildren looked at their mobile phones collectively, and Grandpa flipped the table in anger; The family took the two-year-old girl on the road. The parents played with mobile phones, and the child was hit by a car in the middle of the road; The young couple occupy a room at home and chat on WeChat······
On the surface, we are addicted to hardware. In fact, we all know that we are addicted to software. From Zhihu to Taobao, from Himalaya to Bilibili, from Yin and Yang masters to Hearthstone legends, these are the reasons why we really indulge. But then again, social networks and information platforms based on the Internet and smart devices haven't been around for long, but why are they so deeply rooted in our lives?
First of all, we must admit that the integration of the Internet, intelligent devices and social networks exceeds the information platforms we can reach at any stage of evolution. It broadens our vision, breaks through the restrictions of regions, industries and different activity spaces, greatly expands the scope of people's display and communication, and greatly increases the amount and speed of information we get - people who have eaten old corn all their lives will fall in love with braised pork after eating it, right.
But don't forget that the mobile phone itself is a "life filter" that we make our own decisions. People share photos and information on social networking sites, but is life really as wonderful as what people show? Carefully observe the social network. This is a world where people have carefully decorated, set up self-image and vigorously promote themselves. In this world, businessmen peddle our personal information, share the best side we think, and forward modified and exaggerated information - from headline parties to outrageous live viewers, all in order to cut a bigger "attention cake", Make life seem wonderful. Admit it, for a moment, "like" is the greatest affirmation for you.
But have you thought about it carefully? Are these displays genuine? Does a harvest of praise represent true love? Will the information that has been modified by the filter receive the discount recognition that has been modified by the filter? Compared with relying on mobile phones, those body language, facial expressions, hugging and holding hands mean more real experiences in face-to-face life. You brush so many fragmented and explosive anecdotes, but it is not necessarily more meaningful to life than to read a book quietly. Being a mother who is keen on showering her baby and other praises is far less important to her children than a day of careful companionship. Perhaps, the information that is constantly sent and received in the social network has become somewhat cheap precisely because of its convenience.
Maybe you have met someone who said that I would rather send messages on my mobile phone than meet offline. Indeed, sometimes we don't know whether our mobile phone belongs to us or whether we belong to our mobile phone. At this time, we don't have to think about whether some people's excessive dependence on mobile phones leads to the transition of their relationship from online to offline, which will lead to bottlenecks.
A boy who likes a girl has 500 compliments on her friends, but he may not dare to ask her out for coffee.
The social network within reach may indeed give rise to some illusions: I will pay attention to whatever I want, my audience has always been there, and we never have to be alone.
When we are alone, even if it is only a few seconds, we will become anxious, uneasy and ready to take out our mobile phones at any time. When waiting for a red light, we can brush a circle of friends. In fact, this action does not express our busyness, but our anxiety. People use frequent contact to detect their existence and put down their mobile phones, which is about isolation from the world. In this habitual addiction, many people are becoming more and more homestead and far away from physical social interaction. The convenience of the network makes us lose the courage of real social interaction, and we can not start a real intimate relationship, and then drink poison to quench thirst. We further use the social network to control and distribute energy, and experience "companionship" to prove that we are not alone.
Oh, look at my mouth. I said so many negative words during the Spring Festival. But I think it doesn't matter. If you want to pursue a positive future, you must start from the negative present. Speaking of the Spring Festival, if we want to talk about the Spring Festival this year, we still have to start from robbing red envelopes!!!
