Welcome to Heart to Heart Talk everyday. I'm Ye Zhuang. Before the program starts, let me remind you that it is the last month of 2016. In the past year, we have experienced many major events, but looking back at ourselves, I still have 13 kg to finish my plan of reducing weight at the beginning of the year. To tell the truth, the New Year's plan at the beginning of 2016, for most people, whether it is to go to bed before 12 o'clock, read a book every week, insist on memorizing 20 words every day - I'm afraid it will still be applicable to change the year to 2017! Today, we will discuss why the plan at the beginning of the year is always dead on the way.
Some special days are suitable for vows, but the shelf life is not long. Hengchen Dai, a Chinese American psychologist at the University of Pennsylvania, found a psychological mechanism called "three minute heat effect". Special days will significantly affect people's motivation related psychological activities, such as the first day of the New Year, birthday, and the first day of the new semester, although they are essentially the same as ordinary days like March 16. But these days can stimulate people's impulse to set goals more than other days. In these days, people will give greater meaning to goals, have stronger emotions about goals, and overestimate their perseverance and perseverance to persist.
In addition to this objective reason, procrastination or even giving up on those good behaviors may also be a manifestation of "passive attack". We, who are difficult to stick to our goals, have a lot in common with the children who procrastinate in doing their homework. To some extent, it is one of the only forms of resistance that the weak can choose. But not everyone treats the plan at the beginning of the year in the form of broken pots and pieces. There is also a psychological phenomenon called "false prediction" effect. Daniel Kahneman and Amos Tversky, two psychologists, believe that when people estimate the completion process of a task, they always underestimate the time required and the difficulty of the task, and overestimate their own ability.
In addition to the above three core psychological reasons, there are also some difficulties that everyone knows: those American dramas, food, and beautiful women that induce distraction; Laziness caused by people's lack of pressure; Retreat caused by too much pressure, etc.
Everyone knows that it is not just time that lies ahead of New Year's resolutions. There are also laziness, depression, procrastination and many psychological mechanisms. However, good comrades cannot hide from difficulties!
Next, we will teach you three magic weapons of ABC to fight against the little devil of procrastination. The first magic weapon is called 'concrete blade'. First of all, we need to set our plan goals as trivial and specific as possible, or even spread them evenly over 365 days. Great goals often mean scary big projects. We can turn these building like projects into small task rooms. For example, if you want to lose 10 kg, you can set the task of reducing hundreds of calories every day, so that the goal will be easier to operate. More and more apps have been able to support this goal planning. Although the effect varies from person to person, try more, and I believe we can still find a predestined tool.
Having mastered the specific blade, the second magic weapon is called the arrow of action. It is useless to have ideas. Revolution is not an empty dream. Although many distractions are tempting, they should still be forcibly blocked and the first step should be taken bravely. It is an objective fact that everything is difficult at the beginning, but as long as it starts, it may go "out of control" and can't stop! In the process of persistence, once we have completed 50% of the task, we are likely to get a blessing flow experience. At the beginning of our action, we may rely more on reason to promote, but when we experience the flow of blessings, any delay will be completely sidelined!
Now that we have mastered two magic tools, it seems that this damage is still painless for the delaying demon. Why? In fact, the biggest weakness of the plan at the beginning of the year is the lack of an effective regulatory mechanism, and we will teach you a big way to surprise. Deadline is the best productivity. The deadline of the task will bring anxiety, and the need to overcome anxiety urges us to complete the task. Therefore, we will review all night before the final exam, work overtime before the project node, and think like diabetes before the deadline. Now, we are about to reach the deadline planned at the beginning of 2016. Are you ready for a surprise attack?
It doesn't matter if we are not ready. We still have 2017. Welcome to "Daily Heart to Heart Talk" and join the 2017 New Year Goal Punch Group, let's save procrastination together.
