If your child is introverted···
Many parents always ask such a question, teacher, our family is very introverted and does not like to deal with people, and cannot play with children of the same age. Do you think our children have some problems? Parents are burning with anxiety.
As a parent of introverted children,
It's always embarrassing to socialize with children,
Especially in the face of unfamiliar environment and people,
The children's performance is always very disappointing,
I feel that my education is a failure.
Then we can really understand what is introversion?
Many voices told me that my introverted personality is not a necessity in this society, and I should try to play an extroverted role.
So I always go to noisy bars with my friends, even if I just want to sit down and chat quietly and happily.
I am determined to engage in negotiations with others. I thought it would train me to become outgoing, but I have to struggle every time.
In the end, I became a lawyer, not a writer's dream in my heart, because I wanted to prove that I was brave.
In fact, I feel in my heart that this is wrong.
My decision came entirely from my conditioning.
I lost my introversion,
I'm not very happy. It's my loss.
One in three people is introverted. Introversion is different from shyness. Shyness is the fear of social comments. Active withdrawal needs to be overcome. Introversion is more about how you respond to stimuli.
Introverts tend to be more sensitive to the outside world, so they are more comfortable in a quiet environment. Outgoing people are just not so sensitive to the outside world, so they need more stimulation to be satisfied.
Introverted people feel their presence best in a quiet and low-key environment, which is when they are most energetic and capable. At this time, their talents can be maximized.
From Gandhi to Lincoln,
From Gates to Buffett,
Van Gogh painted sunflowers,
Steve Wozniak, who invented the first Apple computer,
Darwin, who refused the dinner party and walked in the woods,
They are introverts
Solitude, for many people, is the air on which to live. Alone, with remarkable power, but it is very strange that we begin to forget it
Character is the greatest thing in the world.
There is no absolute introvert in the world,
Similarly, there are no absolute extroverts.
Parents will think that introverted children will suffer,
Mainstream voice suppression will make people think that extroversion is an advantage and introversion is a disadvantage.
It is not sweet to twist the boat. The original personality of parents and children will lead to their own bitter confrontation in the future.
However, introverted children, constantly pushed towards extroversion, will be further away from their own growth trajectory, and the quality of life will be damaged.
If your child is introverted
① Guide children step by step
Children often feel a little anxious in a new environment or when facing strangers, so parents should not expect their children to quickly integrate with other children in a certain activity.
If conditions permit, take the children to the activity site in advance to make them familiar with the environment and create a safe and comfortable feeling. Another way is to allow the child to keep a certain distance from the focus area of the activity, let the child observe silently first, and then encourage him to try.
② Tell the kid it's okay
Extroverted children will feel comfortable in social situations, while introverted children will feel tired. Tell the child that if he feels unwell, he can let himself relax in the quiet corner of the room or the balcony, bathroom and other places.
③ Help children find themselves
Outgoing children may find football clubs or scouts cool, but introverted children may prefer writing or science summer camps. Let children participate in activities that they are interested in, which is not only beneficial to enhancing children's self-confidence, but also can help children to make friends with the same interests.
④ Making friends is the child's own business
Introverted people pursue not breadth and quantity, but depth and quality in interpersonal relationships. They prefer to make friends in a small circle rather than become a "popular" person.
⑤ Children need their own world
Going to school, socializing and participating in various activities are all to pull the introverted child out of his own small world, which may make the child feel tired and weak. When the child comes home and locks himself in the room, or reads books, or plays computer games, or is in a daze, you don't need to worry. This is just a way for the child to adjust himself.
Cherish your introverted children
As a parent, you should not only accept the fact that your child is introverted, but also cherish this trait. Introverted children are usually kind, considerate and attentive, as long as they can be in a suitable environment for them.
