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We were the same age, 90 years old, and we met him on a blind date in May, 2014. Both of us felt very good after we met. We soon fell in love. Until May, 2015, my parents were more anxious to let us get married, so we began to look for a house. Then when I just paid the deposit for the house, I found that I was pregnant, which was in early June, Just three days after I learned that his sister was going to get married. I followed him home for the first time. We were still at a loss. We didn't know whether to keep the baby, so we didn't tell our family.
To briefly introduce my family background, I live in a small coastal city. My father is an ordinary employee, and my mother is laid off to do some small business. His family can be said to be rural. In the mine, my father is sick, and my mother is unemployed to serve the elderly at home. He graduated from college and became an officer here. Our specialty is seafood. Before we returned to his home, my parents prepared two boxes of seafood, and then we bought half a suitcase of dry goods. It took us all day and night to arrive at his home in the middle of the night. The next day, we got up early to go shopping with his two sisters (cousin, he is the only child) and his mother in the city, and then I went to their home to eat the first meal in the underground food city of the mall. Everyone ordered a meal of their own, and I paid my own money. At that time, I didn't think much about it. I thought it was OK at noon. In the afternoon, I took his mother to buy a suit of clothes, I also bought it for Zhang Luo. I went back to his home for dinner in the evening, but I was dumbfounded. They cooked four dishes, two of which were seafood I brought, and then cut a watermelon and fried a bean. The rice was still left over last night. Seven or eight people ate four dishes. I was very unhappy with this meal. I think it was the first time I came to your home so far, If you can't cook four dishes for me and two dishes I brought myself, I won't eat half of them. When they asked me why I ate so little, I said I was full.
Because they had no place to live for us, they let us live in his aunt's house. His mother asked him to give 200 yuan to her grandson. We did so. At night, I told my partner about eating. He said that his family was busy with marriage for his sister and didn't have time to cook. He felt nothing. He just took me out to eat without enough. I felt very aggrieved, He thought that his family didn't pay attention to me. He said that you should look back. My family wouldn't treat me badly. I said, take your time. That night his mother gave me a gold bracelet, plus 2000 yuan, as a gift. Then the next day was his sister's wedding. I participated in some links. Their family gave me a red envelope of two or three hundred yuan. After the wedding, I felt uncomfortable with my pregnancy and my legs were sore. I secretly told him if I could go back to rest. He took me back to his grandpa's house. It was a bungalow. The hut was very messy. There were cats bouncing around on the kang. The bed sheets were all cat paw prints, and there were only dry toilets. I was not used to it. I said whether I could go back to my aunt's house. I didn't want to stay here, so he ran to his mother and told her to change the bed sheets. I was not happy with him.
I said you see, you asked your mother to change the bed sheets. She must think that I was disgusted. It would be better if we went back to my aunt's house. He was also unwilling, meaning that I would not follow the overall situation. Everyone was here. It was not good if we left. She said that I could not insist on it. How sad it would be. Later, she got angry and asked his sister for the key. I didn't want his family to think that we were in conflict, I said calmly, no need, I'll just have a rest here? In the next few days, he will go to see relatives, climb mountains and go shopping. I really feel uncomfortable. As we all know, when I was just pregnant, I felt uncomfortable all over, but I didn't have vomiting. I complained to him, and he was very unhappy. He felt that I didn't understand the general idea, so he couldn't bear it. When I returned home a year, I had to spend more time with my family. In addition, I think I'm quite dissatisfied that he never bought a single when he went out to eat with my family. Only a few times did he want to buy a single. My mother stopped him and he didn't buy it. I thought he might not have thought of so much and didn't argue with him. As a result, after returning home, he knew all kinds of wise people, such as buying things for children, paying for children, and rushing to pay for meals, I felt very unhappy. I complained to him a few times, but he didn't admit it and said no.
Go on, one day I went to the city with him. I said I wanted to take a bath in the evening. Everything was at his aunt's house. He called his sister and asked if he was at home. My sister said that he could only walk from grandpa's house to aunt's house for 20 minutes. My legs were sore and I had to walk 40 minutes to get the keys back. I complained, but he insisted on going to grandpa's house first, Because everyone is playing mahjong, he doesn't want to bother his family. Anyway, I'm not happy. I went to the countryside for the first time, and I didn't adapt to all kinds of things. I couldn't eat well and sleep well. It was hard to take a bath in summer, and I was pregnant. Every day I was struggling around, so I played with him. He said in anger that you would never come back with me again, I think it's ok if others don't know my situation. You know, can't you consider my feelings?
I quarreled with him on the street, and he dragged me to the railway station to take me home where the noise was fierce. It was really a drag. Regardless of my pregnancy, I cried on the road, called my mother, and told her that I was pregnant. My mother was a little unhappy when she heard about the situation. That means immediately telling his mother that I didn't do it, and decided to go back and make plans. Later, we went home. His mother brought me a box of eggs and a can of mushrooms as a gift in return. After returning home, my mother ordered us to get married and have children. We didn't really want to, but my mother insisted so much that we agreed. He also told his mother that I was pregnant, and the two families began to discuss marriage.
When we got married, their family together with buying a house spent a total of 180000 yuan. I think his parents have given me all their life savings. I still don't appreciate it. I'm picky every day. Anyway, he didn't care about my pregnancy when he quarreled. He would come to me whatever he thought. He wanted to die and find a living when he quarreled. He wanted to jump off the eighth floor, I smashed all our wedding photos. I cut my wrist before. I don't know how to continue talking about it. I really feel aggrieved. If my husband's family doesn't understand, it's OK. But the object always looks at the family and ignores my feelings. He is really cold hearted. Even when he is pregnant, he doesn't know how to take care of the baby. He knows about things in bed every day, I had vaginitis during pregnancy, and it was very itchy. He still insisted on giving birth to me. He asked me just now, and I was going to have a baby. Because he didn't want to, he didn't want to. Now I really think it was a mistake to marry a son, but it was too late. What's the use of regretting it.
The baby is not in the right position and is relatively large. The doctor said that it is easy to give birth early. Let me pay attention to him. He still needs to pay attention to him. Ho ho, I have been angry all night and I don't blame anyone for this. It is my own choice. I made my own mistake. Now I just want to give birth to the baby safely, raise her well, and give her everything I can. We don't quarrel now, Because my heart is dead, he doesn't turn to me. Both of them have different ideas and ideas. There is no quarrel. Oh, yes, Baobao is a girl. His mother has been determined to be a boy since I was pregnant. When naming him Tianyi, my object has to use this name. If he doesn't use Tianyi, he has to add wings. Hehe, he still quarreled for this. Foolish filial piety, Fully reflected in my object!
I didn't listen to them. I chose the name of the baby myself. My mother-in-law said that she would give me 20000 yuan to have a baby, but she would pay for it. I don't want it. How can I feel aggrieved if I asked for my baby. Hehe, we haven't handed over the key to our house yet. My mother gave me 100000 yuan to decorate it. I saved some for myself, and I also saved the money for giving birth. During my pregnancy, I chose the cheapest clothes for pregnant women, which is far from the living standard before marriage. I gave up my life. When we bought a car, we were attracted to a car of 210000 yuan, and we had 150000 yuan/60000 yuan in our hands. Because my mother gave us 100000 yuan and spent another 150000 yuan/60000 yuan on marriage, my partner opened his mouth to his mother and asked for more. His mother said that she would not help us in the future. Let's solve it ourselves. Well, we bought a car of less than 140000 yuan. Since then, I made up my mind that no one would spend any money in the future. I would not spend your money, and you would not spend mine, let alone my parents!
My mother-in-law will come on the fifth day of the first month, waiting for me to give birth to a baby. She doesn't want to let her come. Because many ideas are different, she knows how to save money. For example, when a child takes a bath, she doesn't need to buy a bathtub. She just needs to wash with a bathtub. Usually, don't always buy clothes. Save money to save money. If you are pregnant, you don't need to wear expensive clothes. After you buy cheaper ones, you won't wear them, My sister is also four months younger than me. Let's keep our baby's clothes small for her. And she didn't think about my feelings at all. My mother was afraid that I would feed her baby and bite her nipples, so she asked me to buy a nipple protection cover online. When my mother-in-law learned that she wouldn't let her, she said that the baby couldn't use that thing and wouldn't eat it awkwardly. I said that it's OK for so many children to eat milk bottles. What's more, it's painful for children to bite me, and it's also easy to get mastitis. Now that we have this condition, why don't we enjoy it? She said that their generation all came here like this, and it's OK to hold it! She mailed me four chickens from their home and asked me to have a confinement. It was kind, but she began to ask her what she needed to bring and what I wanted? I am speechless. She asked me that every day when she came to my wedding. Did you always ask me that when I came to my in laws' home? We said no, there was everything here, so she came with a bag of agaric and a bag of sausage. I was really speechless! My mother will take care of me, take care of the children, and serve my parents in law three meals a day. I hope they can go back to see the children. I can't help here, it will only add to my traffic!
Let's talk about having a baby. I had a caesarean section. He came out of the operating room with tears in his eyes. The baby was born on the second day of the first lunar month. His parents came here on the fifth day of the first lunar month, just in time for my first milk inflation. Baoma should know what it's like. I went straight from A cup to C+, and it hurt. The milk still couldn't come down. I had milk pain on the top and knife edge pain on the bottom, Because of the weather, his parents couldn't catch the bus. It happened that I had to ask him to help me with my work, so he threw his temper at me. He was angry with me when he took a thing. It hurt and his attitude made me cry. Coincidentally, my colleague came to visit and was seen by others, so I had to say, look, I cried in pain. When my colleague left, he didn't say he would help me deliver it.
Then the next day, when his parents came, I wanted to leave the hospital. Because I was a doctor, I thought it was OK to go home early. He didn't want his parents to take me out of the hospital. The reason was that I was just getting off the bus and I was too tired. I also understood that, but then he came to pick me up. After I left the hospital, I sat at my mother's house for a month, and his parents also stayed at my mother's because we were in a hurry to get married, My mother gave me twenty thousand yuan in cash for having children, but she was going to give me ten thousand yuan. My mother didn't want the ten thousand yuan for the wedding, so she gave me another ten thousand yuan. In addition, she gave his son Kali a hundred thousand yuan, because they had a house for relocation in their hometown, and sold it for 140000 yuan. She said that the hundred thousand yuan was for us, I kept it for decoration (because my mother also gave 100000 yuan, she was afraid her son would be angry). I didn't want it, but his mother had to give it. I thought I would save it for them to buy a house here when they were old.
This money has been kept by my target all the time, and I haven't even seen it (his mother secretly took it back when I found it later). Anyway, during the confinement period, I told him fairly that his mother was very capable of working and took care of me as much as possible, but she was nosy. I couldn't wear my underwear before because of milk inflation. I bought more than ten yuan of underwear from the Internet, as well as milk stickers, She just told me that I could spend money and didn't stay idle in the confinement. Later, when the confinement was over, his parents wanted to go back, and my parents bought dozens of kilograms of specialty products, which was totally beyond the two people's ability to take. It was possible to have a few hundred yuan worth of things. My object felt that my parents should do this, and did not appreciate it at all.
Since the baby was born, when he cried, he wouldn't let anyone hold him, because it was his chief of staff who said (at this time, I had to complain about the army's brainwashing skill, and the leader listened to everything) that he was on maternity leave. He took five days off, because the leader needed him, he went back to work, and then when I asked him to come home in the evening, he would wash his clothes for the baby, regardless of anything else, I quarreled with him a lot, but it's no use. Then I began to return to sex life. I asked to get married less than two months after delivery. Caesarean section was not allowed to get married so soon. I disagreed, and he said, "xx, I tell you, while I am rare for you, I am willing to touch you, but I am not rare for you." I know whether anyone can understand a woman's helplessness when she just gave birth, and her figure is out of shape, The breasts are too big to wear underwear, and they leak milk whenever they move. All the clothes don't fit, and they are really untidy to the extreme. At this time, someone said something like this, which I really can't accept.
Because of this sentence, I cried all night, and really just sat there crying all night! Later in April, I began to prepare for the exam. I don't know if you have heard of the medical examination. I was pregnant and missed the exam for a year, so I took my child and reviewed at the same time. Do you know how I survived that time? My parents quarreled and my child was crying for food, and no one helped me with it. I only took my child in the daytime, and the child slept and stayed up at night to review, When the child wakes up, I still want to nurse him. The most he said is "you are a quack without a certificate, and you can't do such a simple thing". Everyone goes to Baidu to see how difficult it is for practicing doctors to take the exam, even if it is very easy. As a man, when I am most difficult and helpless, it is hard for me to accept that! It was the same when I was practicing. He sat in the front passenger seat and began to scold me. It's not OK, it's not right. I really collapsed!
Later, there were many things I could not accept. The child has been 15 months. If it goes well next week, I will divorce him!
