Follow the public account "Sina Micro Shaping" to see more wonderful original content! Today, I saw a news that a 56 year old woman had bone cancer. The doctor said that she could live for two years at most. She felt that her life in this world was not long, so she wanted to live for herself freely. She made a wish list. The first thing was to divorce her husband who had lived for 28 years, and then use her parents' heritage to buy a house for her to start her life alone. She practices yoga, learns painting, does gardening, and travels around the world. Now, five years later, she is still living well
I remember living with Lao Hou for the last few years. Because of too many quarrels and depression, I once had such worries. One day and a half, I jokingly told him that if I had cancer, it would be your fault! Women are unhappy, especially when they are depressed in middle age, and their liver qi is depressed. They are easy to get cancer. I remember him jokingly saying, "Don't worry, I won't have this luck.".
Most women are difficult to live for themselves in marriage, especially in Iran, where men are superior to women, women have low social and economic status, so as to be a wife and supported by her husband, they must fulfill their wife's responsibilities and obligations. Even if the wife has a job, the husband wants to go home from work. The home is clean and the food is fragrant, I know several middle-aged couples. Both of them are high social status and successful career people. They are currently facing divorce. Their problem is not economic, but they can't understand and tolerate each other. If an Iranian woman has her own career, she will definitely expect her husband to share the housework, which is against Iran's traditional customs. Once the husband protests, Because women have enough income and confidence, they will naturally tit for tat, resulting in intensified conflicts.
I have an Iranian male friend who has been married for more than ten years. He used to be the general manager of a state-owned travel agency, but now he runs his own company. His monthly expenses are high, and the pressure is high. His wife is also the manager of a company. She leaves work at 2:00 p.m. and sleeps until 5:00. The family does not clean up. He goes home at 8:00 every day because of his cleanliness, He started vacuuming and wiping the floor when he got home without taking off his coat. He also complained that his wife brought the leadership style to the house and bossed him around. He could not feel his wife's tenderness. He also tried to communicate with his wife and tell her what men needed, but felt that she could not listen to him. Now he often took groups abroad by himself. He just wanted to be alone and didn't want to go home. He was very good, There is a bottom line in being a man. There are many temptations outside, but he is depressed because of his commitment to marriage.
Another man is my friend's nephew. He is over 30 years old this year. His wife is a hospital nurse and has been married for less than 10 years. Now he is also getting divorced. The reason is that his wife does not take care of the family enough and is not gentle with her husband. They basically don't talk at home. They will quarrel with each other without a few words.
I don't know the wives of these two men. Their statements are one-sided. As a woman who wants to be economically independent and has her own career, I can imagine the conflict between them and her husband, as well as the atmosphere of their family life. My wife has to face the pressure of work outside, the contradiction with her colleagues, and discrimination as a woman, I hope I can talk to my lover when I go home. If I act coquettishly in front of him and let him caress me, the grievances outside will be nothing; But instead of comforting her husband, she was deeply dissatisfied that she could not take care of her household affairs in an orderly way like a housewife, and she simply did not sympathize with her experience outside. After a long time, the wife would no longer communicate with her husband. If the husband continued to nag and complain, the wife would answer righteously: I am also a worker, and I also earn money to go home, Why can't you do housework when I have to do it alone? You have no ability. If you can earn enough money, do you still need your wife to be angry outside? No matter how much money a man earns, his self-esteem is as strong as his heart, and his heart is also as weak. When he says this, the relationship between husband and wife will be greatly damaged.
I quite understand why some husbands firmly oppose their wives to go out to work. Women have jobs and are not divorced from the society. With more people and things to contact, their horizons are naturally different. If they have money, they will have enough confidence, and men will not be able to control them. On the other hand, many men have stable marriages. Women are full-time housewives. Her job is to look after their husbands and educate their children. The husband is busy outside for a day. When he comes home, his wife asks for help. Fruit and tea are presented. Because he has to support her, women will have a sense of crisis. Naturally, they dare not neglect her husband. There are five families in our building, except me, The other four wives do not work, and the husband is the boss at home. If I have anything to tell them, their answer is: I want to ask my husband. Are women really happy in such a marriage? A woman has been living under the control of her husband for a long time. She can't live as she wants, and she is also very depressed. My female neighbor downstairs sometimes talks to me about her dissatisfaction with her husband, and she grits her teeth with hatred. She hopes her husband will return to heaven as soon as possible and return her to freedom.
No matter whether the wife works or not, both parties in the marriage cannot understand each other's needs, or they cannot communicate with each other due to different views, they will live a very depressed life. Two people in the same house do not talk, and the family atmosphere is too cold to breathe. This will inevitably bring incalculable harm to the body. Now some people joke that the husband is the cause of the wife's cancer, It is not totally unreasonable, and vice versa. When people reach middle age and old age, their mood will definitely affect their health. Those who live a long life have no special way to raise their health, but they all have one thing in common, that is, they have a good attitude, and no one gives them anger.
Article Source（ Maryam's blog ）
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