Parents often break their hearts for their children. Sometimes parents always say "it's all for your own good". Sometimes parents often say something that makes their children sick. Do parents know their children's feelings?
It is said that parents are not easy to break their hearts for their children. When we were young, we probably hated to hear what parents often said: it's all for your own good! Now it's my turn to be a parent, and suddenly I find that I often say this. Is it true for children? What are the most unacceptable things that parents do? Come and listen to the voice of the children!
1、 My parents always compare me with others
Child's voice: Mom and Dad, I know you care about me, but why do you always want to compare me with others? I may not have good academic performance as others, but my sports ability is better than others! I may not be as proficient in music, chess, calligraphy and painting as others, but don't you think I am particularly skilled in practice?
Advice for parents: Any child coming to the world is unique. What our parents need to do is to find their difference and learn to appreciate it. Our mothers should learn from their children, and the children have not compared you with other people's parents, have they? No matter what you do, they all love you!
2、 Parents always force me to say hello
Children's voice: Mom and Dad, in fact, it's not that I'm bad and don't want to be a polite child, but why do we have to greet people when we are polite? Even if I don't know that aunt or uncle? And sometimes I'm just shy
Advice for parents: It is our parents' responsibility and obligation to educate their children to be polite. Although we all like children who smile and say hello when we meet them, this is not the whole content of being polite. Many children may be shy and introverted and cannot speak out, especially when facing strangers, At this time, what our parents should do is not to blame the children but to tell them: Mom knows you are shy, but my uncle is my good friend. If you say hello to my uncle, my mother will be very happy! Constant blame will only make children more and more repelled to greet others.
3、 When others praise me, my parents always say I'm not good
The voice of the child: Mom and Dad, why do you praise me at home, but when I come to others, I always say that I am not good here and not good there? Is I a good boy or a bad boy in your heart?
Advice for parents: Modesty is our traditional virtue, but often our parents are too modest. It seems that it is a shame to accept others' praise for their children. It not only refuses others' praise, but also deliberately magnifies some small problems of children countless times. In this way, adults are satisfied with each other, polite and modest, but the children are also injured! In fact, why not accept such praise? Is your child really so bad?
4、 I can't do what I promised
Children's voice: Mom and Dad, when I put forward something I want or want to do, you always say: Next time! But why did you say no next time? You don't always tell me to be a man of my word. Why is it right that you can't do what you promised me? I didn't get it.
Advice for parents: Many times, we will give some promises that we may not take seriously in order to make our children obey, but children will remember them in their hearts and wait for you to fulfill this promise. As a model for children, parents will not only lose trust in their parents if they break their promise again and again, It is more likely to take dishonesty as a matter of course, so as to grow into a person without integrity! So dear parents, don't make promises easily, even if the children don't remember, you must honor them!
