A report in the Global Times is thought-provoking. It is said that in China, children are the most tired because they have learned how to be strong since they were very young.
To this end, the report tracked more than ten cases. One of the girls is only in the fourth grade, and her academic performance and style are very good. She is really a strong person. If there is an exam the next day, she will never go to bed until 10 o'clock at night. She will cry and lose her temper if she is not allowed to learn. On her way to school, she would always take out a book to read
Later, the author interviewed a girl: "You are so young, you already know how to be strong, don't you feel tired?" You may not think how a teenager would answer him? She said, "But, uncle, if I don't want to be strong, will I really be better off?"
I don't know what this little girl has experienced, so that she has such a deep understanding of life at such a young age. But I know that she will sacrifice her childhood, so desperately and painstakingly, she must know that if she is not strong, there are more painful things than fatigue.
Not strong, which means that maybe you will be trampled on your dignity
She is my primary school classmate, from the countryside. She borrowed money from her relatives to pay her tuition.
When she first came to our class in the third grade, she was very self abased and often hid herself in the crowd without saying a word, with a timid expression all the time. However, twenty years later, she has entered a well-known foreign enterprise in Shenzhen, with a good salary, and she has become one of the social elites.
Only I can see her transformation all the way:
How did she study so hard that she suffered from stomachache, how did she stay up late with nosebleeds to successfully enter the key high school, how did she spend her life in high school to brush the questions so that she could achieve the first goal in her subjects, and how did she continue to stand up after crying bitterly at night to fight for her unpredictable future
That year, when we met, I asked her, "Are you tired of working so hard for so many years?"
She replied to me:
"Too tired, but if I don't spell, I will be even more tired! When you have tasted the pain caused by the label of a weak person, the tears and sweat paid in the struggle are not worth mentioning."
Later, many times, I deeply felt the power of this sentence.
Want to be tired? The answer is yes. Those who are not so strong may, again and again, choose some easier and easier learning or life patterns. In this way, when the gap between them has become larger and larger over the past years, one day, when they graduate from college to work, they will look at the rising house prices, the opportunities for promotion, and their average abilities, Is it more difficult to stop the sense of powerlessness that is deeply rooted in the heart of a cone? Not strong, is it more tired?
Not strong, which means you may miss many valuable opportunities
He is my classmate in high school. His family is rich and his parents are always envied in the unit.
We are in the liberal arts class. At that time, he thought that he could not use functions to buy vegetables in the future, right? You don't need to count when writing articles in the future, do you? Therefore, he set the goal for mathematics at that time that the college entrance examination should not be delayed; Later, when he graduated from college and worked as an administrator, he needed to learn the knowledge of the three-level certification of human resources. Unexpectedly, the formula of the post and staff quota was like a heavenly book to him.
When he went to college, he made up his mind to go back to work in his hometown in the future, not to go to the coast, and not interested in foreign enterprises, so he did not learn English; Later, due to various coincidences, he still went to the coastal cities. When looking for a job, the salary of one position was very attractive. Only a CET-6 certificate was required, but he did not.
As a junior, he had too much free time. His classmates invited him to take an accounting certificate exam. He said that I would never have the chance to be an accountant after learning Chinese; Later, at the company, he had a chance to be promoted and help the leader to do the budget of a project, but he could not understand what accounts are and what personal taxes are.
Because he is not strong, the most important opportunities in life pass him by.
Every time he told me about this, he claimed that he had a heart of death. If he had a choice, he would rather be more miserable, more tired and more desperate in the past 20 years.
Not strong, which means you may lose the priority of life
Not long ago, CCTV Education Channel launched a topic discussion program: what kind of life is the best way to guide girls to have in the future?
It suddenly occurred to me that writer Liu Liu said at the launch of his new book, Women Are Not Powerful, We Can't Help It: "If men don't love us, and we don't have an independent career, we will easily lack a sense of security, so we should never give up the right to choose, otherwise, we will only be in a weak position." This is a classic saying, which expresses my heart - for a girl, Having a life of free choice is the happiest.
In 2010, the student who told me that "not strong will make me more tired" accidentally found business opportunities, resolutely quit his job and set up his own company. Now, she can choose who to work with, which platform to cooperate with, and more importantly, she has lived the life she wants
A life with freedom of choice does not mean that you will not work if you want to work, or you will not be constrained if you want to work. It does not mean that you want to travel at any time when you have a lot of money, or that you will indulge in unlimited scenery when you have a sports car... It is that every time you want to try a new life, When you want to go one step further, you always have the power and ability to choose.
Obviously, the premise to achieve all this is to make the child strong first; It is also obvious that in order to be so strong, we need to go through all the difficulties and gnash our teeth to endure... However, a better future is bound to come out in such hours. Otherwise, how can anyone say that you have to work very hard to make everything effortless in the end?
Small tail
Only by being strong can we be stronger,
Junior high school is the time to lay the foundation,
Don't be strong when you think about it in high school,
Although it was not too late,
But I wasted so much good time,
Don't you feel guilty?
