Gao Ma Ai jokes

A man was pushing a cart with a crying child inside. The man kept muttering:

"Don't be angry, Ah Jie, don't be angry, Ah Jie..."

A lady came forward to salute him:

"Sir, you are really patient with children, but your child Ah Jie doesn't seem to listen to your advice!"

The man's answer was surprising:

"Madam, I am Ah Jie."

　 Gao Ma Talks

Because the children of some relatives and friends around are frequently in great trouble——

Injuring pedestrians by riding a motorcycle, fighting with classmates, playing truant, being obsessed with online games, having children unmarried

In contrast, the two children in my family, who are not guilty of minor offenses, became role models in the eyes of all parents. The husband could not help boasting when he was proud:

"This is totally the cultivation of 'planting well' and 'governing by doing nothing'."

The daughter who has the best relationship with her husband poured cold water on her boastful husband:

"Dad, the reason why we didn't become problem children is because of the mother's educational supervision."

I am grateful that my daughter, who is always unable to spit ivory out of her dog's mouth, finally said a word of "human words". In fact, I also cried for my husband in my heart, because the reason why he made the child have the illusion of "no responsibility to teach" was that he often showed his respect for the world at home and didn't give him too many opportunities to raise his children.

I always prevent my husband from standing between him and the children like a thief, lest he should disagree with me and let me sing black. He plays white, indulges, and breaks the rules

Later, when exchanging parenting experience with other mothers, I also found that mothers all over the world are the same. Almost nine out of ten mothers regard their father as a "breeding killer".

"The child was criticized for speaking in class, and my husband said it had nothing to do with the child."

"The child wants to sleep before he finishes his homework. My husband also said that it doesn't matter, so he let him sleep."

"My husband said it didn't matter, it was just an exam."

"The child refused to drink milk quietly, but my husband helped him to pour it out secretly."

"When it's time to go to bed, my husband still talks with the children."

"The child's throat is inflamed, and my husband also lets him eat ice cream."

　　……

In a word, in the eyes of mothers, fathers always drag their feet to break the rules that mothers have not easily established. They are poisonous snakes and beasts that make children feel that there are loopholes to exploit.

So I would rather work harder and be a little tired. I would never dare to place the heavy responsibility of upbringing on a husband who is so young, has no consideration for the future of children, and has no sense of being a father.

After seven years of work, such as finding schools for children, establishing good relations with teachers and children's classmates and parents, urging children to study, and taking care of their daily life, the mother had to travel abroad for two weeks because she had to work, so she spent three full days buying vegetables and cooking, and rectified 56 dishes from 28 meals in 14 days, Put the food in fifty-six fresh-keeping boxes with food name labels in the freezer, and write down the 14 day menu on the refrigerator door.

The husband must follow the menu and remember to match it with green vegetables to achieve the goal of balanced nutrition. Before going out, she told her husband to obey the rule of letting the children go to bed on time every night.

Fourteen days later, I returned home and opened the refrigerator. I found 56 fresh-keeping boxes stored in the freezer intact. I questioned my husband——

"It's too troublesome. It takes time to heat up and clean the tableware after eating. It's more convenient than buying ready-made food."

When asked what their father would give them to eat when their mother was away, the children happily broke their little fingers and said:

"McDonald's, KFC, crispy fried chicken, rice noodle soup, black and white cut..."

They are all junk food that I usually think is "no nutrition at all"!

Then he asked the child whether he would go to bed at nine o'clock every day. The two little boys gave a sheepish smile.

The angry husband took my command as a deaf ear, but the husband argued:

"If you don't eat the nutritionally balanced dishes you make and don't go to bed at the time you set, will you die?"

I was stunned. Yes, I didn't die a child, and I still looked healthy and lively as if I had a mother to take care of me.

When my husband saw that I had been silent for a long time and my face was turning from cloudy to sunny, he boldly continued to express his high opinion:

"Occasionally, children should also be given a 'summer vacation', so that they can have the opportunity to go to some 'abnormal' days to relax and enjoy the simple happiness that can only be enjoyed in childhood!"

My husband's words really have the effect of waking up the dreamer in one sentence. I remember that when I was a child, my father also took us children to do bad things——

Avoid our mother's asking us to rent comic books, give us snacks before dinner, indulge us to play horse riding and fight with the boys in the military compound, help write when there is too much homework to finish, take us out to play and let us buy popsicles with the money we want to buy dinner

Dad took us to do a lot of bad things, but it seems that we didn't learn bad because of this. Instead, these "things that broke the rules" became the most warm and happy memories when we remembered our childhood.

I don't know whether because the child was conceived by the mother in October, the mother will always think more and worry more about the child, so there are many strict mother rules that cannot be avoided; The father may not have had the experience of October pregnancy in which the mother and the child "share the same body", so he often does not think so much, and does not think so far. In the eyes of mothers, "it seems that the child has no blood relationship with him", and the "father truth" is more relaxed or even indulgent.

However, whether it is the mother's rules or the father's principles, the starting point is to love the children. No one is sure to make a promise by patting his chest and saying that it is right to take care of the children according to his own principles.

She complained to her mother: "My husband told her that it doesn't matter that the child was criticized for speaking in class."

When Dad said "it's OK", he probably just wanted to express his trust to the child that "it's OK, I believe you won't do it again next time".

Mother is angry:

"The child is fond of playing and wants to sleep before finishing his homework. My husband also said it's OK and let him sleep."

Dad's "Never mind" is that: "The child did not finish his homework to go to bed, the teacher punished him, not his parents."

　　……

They are all for the good of children, but they have different views on their upbringing. Sometimes too much consideration will lead to stubbornness and may not be good for children.

So, occasionally let the children have a "summer vacation", and let the children go to the father to "bring bad".

　 Gao Ma's Honest Move

Even if a mother is no longer satisfied with her father's "bad parenting", she should never criticize her father or argue with him in front of the children. On the one hand, she should "save face" for her father, and on the other hand, she should not attack his pleasure and confidence in parenting.

All the dissatisfaction with my father will be left to "pillow talk". First, I would like to thank him for taking the time to take care of the children, and then I will talk about my doubts about his way of teaching children, giving my father the opportunity to explain his way, and also allowing myself to teach children in a more open way.

　 The public said that the woman said

Happy and gentle

I also thought my husband was a "breeding killer" and was angry about it. Learn here.

Wen Xin Moment

In this way, the father did all the good things... I hope the child can understand the mother's pains.

Blogger Gao Ma

The children are not as "ungrateful" as we imagined. Don't worry, they will know their mother's intentions.

　　bluesky

That's true. Busy with children every day tired and hurt my body, but my husband complained that he didn't teach the children well.

Be as calm as water

It is necessary to let the dads come out to help. Today, let my daughter and father stay at home for a day, and I will relax.

A bunch of lily of the valley

Quite reasonable, my mother always likes to take care of everything. A thousand gold anecdotes

It is not just the father's credit to have such a mentality.

Huihua

Support, but the one in my family is more careful with children than me.

meet by chance like patches of drifting duckweed

My child's father is also better than him. I hate him to death. Sometimes I think my husband looks like a baby

Every day baby

My father every day seems to be a little male chauvinist. The child will quarrel with him every three minutes.

I also thought about whether to take a day or let his father take him with him, but I'm afraid his father will only take him to his grandparents' house alone! In fact, I think every mother now also knows the importance of father's education, but father is really unsatisfactory many times.

Blogger Gao Ma

The so-called "person" does not always mean "person". Is this "person" your mother? The child may still feel satisfied!

Call me Moon

I found that my husband has many advantages, but I lack them. So we exert our strengths to influence children. nanfang

If I were a child, like your mother in the article, I could not stand it! Too trivial! No wonder my child's classmates envy her mother.

　　angelaqf

The less the children are taken, the less patient they are. My husband is. If the children are given to him, he will have no patience. Unless I am away, he will have more patience.

grow together

It seems that all mothers in the world are really the same. They are always afraid that their father will bring their children bad, and they dare not relax. If they are exhausted, they may not be able to give their children the greatest happiness and happiness.

Elegant turn

Yes, I was reminded that the father's method of parenting is really different, so we should give them some opportunities.