How can a psychologist raise a child?
Many of my readers and friends strongly suggest that I have a child, so that they can see how a psychologist raises children.
But at least I am still a firm DINK, so this is impossible. Besides, it's hard to say what kind of father I will be if I really want a child. In this regard, my girlfriend's judgment is that I will be a bad father.
In fact, I am also curious about how a psychologist will raise children.
This curiosity was fully satisfied in the book of Old Fox and Little Deer. Laohu had a son in his previous marriage. At that time, he was a novice psychologist. At least some things I know show that he was not a standard good father at that time. But after years of experience, he has become a sensitive, sensitive and mature therapist, and is ready to become a good father. As for the deer, the first time I saw her, I thought she would be a good mother.
Therefore, Douzi is lucky to have a good foundation.
We are also lucky to see how a sensitive, delicate and powerful father and a gentle, kind and loving mother can build a relationship with a small heart.
Lao Hu is a classic psychoanalytic psychologist. He has a deep understanding of the object relationship theory of the new psychoanalytic school. This book can also be regarded as a model, a model that uses the object relationship theory to interpret the relationship between parents and children before the age of three in detail.
Of course, more importantly, this is far from a theoretical work, but a living fact, a portrayal of Douzi's father and mother, and the true story of Douzi. These stories and the discoveries and insights in them can only be written by people who have been parents and have a deep understanding of psychology.
The object relationship theory, or modern psychology, has a very detailed understanding of the psychological development of children before the age of three. However, if you just look at the theory, you may not only see yourself dizzy, but also see yourself panic. Because there are too many critical periods before the age of three, it seems that a bad grasp of one place will cause irreparable trauma to children.
However, if you read the book of Lao Hu and Xiao Lu, you will not feel dizzy or flustered, because you will find that the parents are also learning and groping, and they can indeed find a way out and find solutions to problems. It will be a wonderful learning process.
It seems that this book is written for parents, especially those who have just become parents or are about to become parents, but it also applies to all those who are interested in psychology, because you will see your own shadow in the story of Douzi before the age of 3. The book also explains the specific impact that parents will have on their children if they do not handle it well at certain times, and how they will continue to affect them when they grow up. So this book can help you know yourself as an adult.
I like the writing style of this book very much. It is lively, lively, and very smart. It is effortless to read, but it is not vulgar. Maybe this style only comes from real experience and real understanding.
Wu Zhihong
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