The Internet is changing rapidly, and popular words are emerging in endlessly. Some people sighed that just after learning about "i people" and "e people", "light people" and "thick people", young people played with new words: "Stealing and moving".

Want to lose weight, want to pass the exam, afraid that it will be awkward to say that the export has not been realized, just want to do it quietly; I bought a new dress I like and put it out, but I was worried about others' eyes everywhere; It takes a long time of psychological construction to talk with others or speak in public. After making up your mind, you have to wait a long time to aim at the opportunity, and if you are not careful, you will miss the opportunity

From the experience shared by netizens, we can see that the "sense of stealing" mainly describes a feeling of being furtive and cautious. "A strong sense of stealing" is mostly manifested in the feeling of being timid, timid, or self-confident. "Stealing and moving" does not want to be noticed and is afraid of being misunderstood by others. Only by working silently like "transparent people" can you bring yourself a sense of security.

Some "stealing feeling" behaviors. Photo source: Sina News Hot List

Unlike the word "stealing", which has a derogatory meaning, "feeling of stealing" is more neutral, implying a sense of "insecurity" in the social state, and also accurately capturing the common feelings of many people in real life - fear of other people's comments, avoid each other's contact, escape from the field under review, and "secretly" do things at the same time, also "secretly" Look at other people's lives. Behind the popularity of "feeling of stealing", it reflects the subtle situation that people are swaying between enjoying solitude or establishing connections.

In the information age, young people's lifestyle and emotional expression are also changing. From "insensitivity" to "high sensitivity", from "p people" to "j people", young people are always happy to take the initiative to "label" themselves to show and analyze their inner world, and also use these labels to defend their own space to a certain extent.

It should be noted that, Every time young people label themselves, it is actually a "code" cry eager to be accepted and understood by the society. Behind the sense of self mockery and "stealing" with a sense of humor, it is people's inner desire to "be understood" time and time again. In this sense, in the face of "stealthy culture", I'm afraid we can't just play games, but also need to face up to our emotional needs.

It is also a "sense of stealing". Some people take the initiative to do it, focusing on "doing great things in silence"; Some people really feel inferior and timid. They are always worried about being questioned and ridiculed for failing to do a good job. Of course, there are also many people who have both, jumping back and forth in the active or passive "sense of stealing".

But in either case, pay attention to, Don't let the "sense of stealing" steal confidence, and completely close the connection between yourself and the outside world in the process of accumulating again and again. Many times, The vision of examining and judging is not only from the outside world, but also from the projection of self doubt in the heart.

The so-called "Outsiders should be prepared for things, while insiders should take their feet". It is like getting close to a fire and feeling hot, and getting far away from it and feeling cold. The warming between wandering is just a kind of heating, not real warmth. Similarly, If we only rely on the external environment and evaluation, it will be difficult to maintain the true peace and tranquility of the heart. It's better to reconcile with the "sense of stealing", Think of it as a normal emotional experience, try to look inward and seek inward, find spiritual self consistency of self enrichment and self trust, and give yourself a "sense of security".

Shi Tiesheng said in "Broken Pen in the Gap of Sickness": "Look at others' suspicious eyes like ghosts and fire, and go boldly on your way at night." Maybe looking for your own "Temple of Earth" is a life lesson that every young life must face.

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