After forty years, I realized that friends are like fish in the water. The fish in deep water and shallow water will never go together; The poor and the rich, the officials and the people, the grassroots and the dignitaries cannot become true friends, because their perceptions of life are different, the key is that they treat the world and nature differently. Even rich and rich, officials and officials, dignitaries and dignitaries will not become true friends. Because there are interests, differences, trade-offs, priorities, and concerns, there can be three or six or nine grades. The heart of earthly interest disputes blinds the truth, so there will be no real friendship.
Only after forty years did I understand that youth is enviable, but maturity is more profound. Women no longer only like youth and beauty, but also value maturity, serenity, nature and clarity; More emphasis on women's mind, magnanimity, wisdom and kindness; More emphasis is placed on the connotation behind stability and maturity and the occasional tenderness.
After forty years, I realized that I should sincerely thank the person who waited for your life, because he is the harbor of your life; Smile at the person you once hated, because he makes you stronger; Sincerely thank the person who once loved, because he let you know love; Thank the person who betrayed you. If it were not for him, you would not understand the world; For the person you have secretly liked, you should sincerely wish him happiness, because when you like him, you also hope he is happy; For a trustworthy person, you should get along well with him. You can't meet several sincere friends or true confidants in your life.
Only after forty years did I understand that men do not like to be controlled by women, especially by women who are scheming. This not only loses self-esteem, but also distorts the soul. They need to communicate peacefully from heart to heart. Emotions are neither high nor low, nor need to be controlled and mastered. Emotions flow naturally with one's heart. Deliberate control and pursuit will not have true meaning. The sincere emotion of the world needs the tacit understanding of the soul, and even needs the spiritual communication of letting nature take its course.
After forty years, I realized that things in the world are complex and simple. If you are simple, the world will be simple. To live a smart and brilliant life, you have to bear pain. Everything has two sides or many sides. Sometimes it's hard to say right and wrong. What you like is probably what others hate and despise. The world and nature do not develop or perish at your own will.
Only after forty years did I understand that happiness index depends entirely on mentality. Years of delicacies and wine drinking do not necessarily bring comfort to the mind. Between coping with and hypocrisy, the final result may be an increasingly empty mind. Ambitious and disillusioned are the tragedies of life, far from being as plain as water and carefree.
Only after forty years did I understand that in the whole life, there is no need to worry about more than a few friends of the opposite sex. That is the ups and downs of your life and the wonderful chapter. But when dealing with friends of the opposite sex, we should be more caring, less greedy, more understanding and less demanding. To put emotion in a free space and treat others leniently is to treat yourself leniently; To be lenient to feelings is to be lenient to hearts. Let each other not bear the burden of feelings, let the sun and warmth always shine and comfort the feelings of life.
Only after forty years did I understand that family, friendship and even love, in fact, did not get much. In my spare time, I would like to think about how many truly reliable friends and confidants I have lived for decades. Don't look at and distinguish friends from the perspective of their so-called status or official position. These so-called friends may be the most unreliable 'friends'! In addition to work, people have a broader living space. Work and position are not the only things in life. As the saying goes, it is enough to have a bosom friend in life. Maybe after thinking about it, even without a bosom friend, the soul is so bleak. Should we always reflect on ourselves and treat others well? Be tolerant, magnanimous and kind-hearted. The truth for the truth is the essence of being human.
Only after forty years did I understand that a wife or husband already seems ordinary, even unbearable. But the years have long merged with each other. Even if it is difficult and intolerable, it is also a part of life. When we are together, we may not cherish it. If we are apart, we will find it difficult to leave.
After forty years, I realized that the meticulous care and indulgence of children not only made us a burden, but also made children unable to stand up to the backbone of life. When I was young, I was afraid that they would suffer, suffer, be exposed to the wind and rain, be afraid of them... I had too much fear. When they grow up, we still have to bear deep sorrow and pain for our original fear. Who's wrong? How can you see a rainbow without going through the storm? That's absolutely true!
Only after forty years did I understand that none of us can win the race against time. "Life is too short" is not an empty sentence. People in their forties have a lot of feelings. Calmly and calmly face everything, live out your self and self-confidence, think what you should think, do what you should do, love yourself, and love others more. No matter when and where, you should especially cherish fate. Whether it is a passer-by in your life or a long-term friend, it is a wonderful memory of your life. There are few true friends in the crowd. Please don't care about this situation! Don't wait until there is nothing you can do to recall your lifelong regret and regret.
(excerpted from the website of the Japanese Xinhua Overseas Chinese News by Yan Shaohong)
