1、 Don't try to get the love you want from the Internet

Most excellent men have their own careers or busy jobs. I can't do anything serious. How can I have time to chat on the Internet all day long? Even if you don't have too busy work, you will accompany your lover in your spare time. The single excellent man is surrounded by the pursuit and companionship of excellent women. He doesn't need to wait for your arrival online. Is there a moment of trance or confusion? It may not be true love at all, but a short-term comfort needed in loneliness and loneliness.

It is true that there is true love on the Internet. You may also meet an excellent man who is destined for you at a specific time. It is more likely that two people really love each other. But when it comes to reality, there will be too many practical restrictions. After too hard journey, does the original mystery, excitement and happiness still exist? Since it is so hard, so heartache, why do you want to go far? Is there really no good man around?

　　 2、 Don't expect to get the real happiness you want from married men

A married man who has no sense of responsibility for his family will also have no sense of responsibility for you. He just treats you as a condiment from body to spirit. Such a man, you will never get real happiness from him. He may tell you the most beautiful sweet words in the world. He may send you roses and perfume, or he may send you a house and a car. But if you naively think you are different and expect him to give you a home, it will always be your wishful beauty. He will never shake his family and career foundation for a small woman. His favorite person is always himself, followed by his children and their mothers. If you don't understand this, you really push them. Finally, you will find that they can't even be seen.

The married men who have a sense of responsibility for their family, even if they really fall in love with you because of temporary emotional confusion at a specific time and under a specific situation, their strong sense of responsibility for their family will make them always hesitate. He loves you, but he loves his family and his children more. He can't leave you, and he wants to be with you, but he can't escape his responsibilities and obligations in the end. In the long run, in more and more hesitation and confusion, you will find that what you fell in love with at the beginning is his sense of responsibility, but what finally hurts you most is his sense of responsibility. In the midst of more and more disappointments and heartaches, the passion and true love of the two people will eventually be exhausted, leaving only scars and fatigue all over their bodies. They even begin to doubt and lose heart in the whole life. But the peaceful family will never return to the past. Or, after a long journey, he finally gets together after thousands of hardships, and his guilt for the original family will always be like a shadow over the new life.

　　 3、 Don't talk about divorce easily

It's easy to divorce, and it's also easy to live independently as an independent woman in the new century. But the damage to children is eternal, even irreparable. Even if a father is no longer competent, his position in the child's heart can never be replaced by others. Nowadays, men are smart enough to spend time and drink and embrace each other outside, but they are basically not stupid enough to seriously destroy their families. It's enough to be smart outside, and it will still be a good man when you come back.

If you don't want to be really embarrassed, then you should treat it as if you don't know anything. At least you can have happiness on the surface. Watching, checking the phone, even looking in a man's pocket, and calling or making an appointment with other women are the inferior practices of the most inferior women. If you have to be serious, they will be shameless, and the man you are looking for may be even worse. Most middle-aged men with a little status and money are liked by young girls. The good men who really appreciate your talent and heart of half aged Xu Niang are basically other people's husbands, while the good men who happen to die with empty wives may not be the ones you can meet or have the kind of happiness

　　 4、 Be a smart woman who treats herself well

If you really don't care that the bastard man just treats you as his condiment, then you can also treat him as your own condiment. If you really don't care that a good man can't give you the result you want in the end, then you should cherish the rare true feelings and good times in front of you, and convince yourself that love does not necessarily need to be together, as long as you really loved. When you unfasten your clothes or open your heart, you should think about all the consequences you may face, and be ready to bear all the wordless consequences alone. Don't expect to ask a man for a so-called statement at the end of the matter. Learn to give yourself a statement and account.

Always remember one thing: never ask a man for a promise. The so-called promise is just a lie of absolute sincerity at a specific time. When you love, there are too many crazy words, too many silly words. If you want, you can certainly believe that everything is true; But if you are smart enough, it is better not to believe anything, just like some people you never have to wait. You can be not smart enough, but you can never be so stupid that you don't take good care of yourself. In this world, in addition to their parents, they are the people who really love themselves most, and only they are the people who really treat themselves best. If you can't love yourself and treat yourself well, why should you expect others to love you? So, be a self respecting, self respecting, self supporting, self loving, but unselfish woman!

(Source: Xinhua Overseas Chinese News of Japan; Author: Blue Moon)