Li Sisi: Have a deeper understanding and experience of life. When you bring a small life into the world, your responsibility becomes greater and your burden becomes heavier. So, at the moment when I became a mother, I felt that the whole person had changed a lot, became more sensitive, and had lower tears and laughter points. From another angle, it may also reflect that the heart has become more soft.

Li Sisi: Many times I hope to become stronger, but sometimes there are still more vulnerable places. Now, not only for my own children, including when I'm doing programs, I see some children's stories, and I feel particularly distressed and want to hug them. Of course, there is also a strong side, because after being a mother, you need to take care of many things. So mother is both soft and strong.

Li Sisi: Two children are the most precious gifts in my life, and I will never regret my choice. Indeed, I lost a lot of time and space for myself and opportunities to get along with friends. I may have been letting go of many job opportunities since I became pregnant. Many people ask, do you feel reluctant? Will you feel lost? How will you feel? In the final analysis, I want to understand one thing, that is, we work to live, and only when we live better can we work better. For me, a better way of life is to constantly add seasoning to it, and children are the "main course", so I can't lose them.

Li Sisi: The biggest difference is that when you are pregnant with a child, the whole pregnancy period is still more particular. But when I was pregnant with my second child, I really didn't control my diet, so my family often made jokes. When Jinbao was in the stomach, I had tasted Malatang, Malaxiang Pot, salted duck eggs, Songhua eggs, hot pot and hamburgers. But instead, after he was born, he had a very good appetite.

Li Sisi: I think this is a truth, at least in my body is confirmed. The mentality of pregnant with the first child is different from that of pregnant with the second child. When pregnant with the first child, everything is new. You can't handle it according to your usual experience, so when you are at a loss, you will turn over the book. But later, you will find that everything in the book may not be suitable for your family or right. Therefore, when it comes to the second child, it is calmer and more calm. However, there is another meaning when raising pigs. It is the so-called heart is broad and body is fat. Because the mentality has become better, Xiao Bao has also become a little pig.

Li Sisi: I had a lot of communication with Yuanbao and my brother in the process of holding Jinbao. I told him that I had a baby in my belly. Whether it was a younger brother or a younger sister, he would have some communication, including talking to his belly, to cultivate the natural bond and connection between them. After Jinbao is born, I will continue to indoctrinate him that his brother needs to take care of his brother and his brother needs to be protected by his brother. Of course, sometimes my brother can't fully understand it, because he is less than three years old now. At this time, I must pay more attention to my brother, because my brother is in a period of separation anxiety and growing rebellion.

Li Sisi: It seems a little bit now. Because it seems to my mother that she is more or less partial to others. Because Xiao Bao really needs more. He looks so weak, so small, and so tender. You will always want to hold him in your arms, so you may be more inclined.

Li Sisi: For the boy, I especially hope he has more autonomy and choice. Yuanbao is nearly 3 years old, and he will have his own difficulties. For example, he can use antonyms now. When I say, "Jinbao is really cute," he will say, "Jinbao is so hateful", which makes you laugh and cry. I think this rebellion is a law of natural growth, so I can't break it, but I try to meet it. When I can't meet it, I need guidance and persuasion.

Li Sisi: I think it is inevitable for children to be bullied, especially for boys who grow up slowly in fighting and quarrelling with each other, and their feelings seem to be established in this way. So I don't reject it at all. However, when a child is uncomfortable or wronged, there must be a channel to guide him to express it. Don't let him form a depression in his heart. It is enough for parents to do this. The child's world intersects with our world, but it does not overlap completely, so what we need to do is to let him grow up in his world as much as possible.

Li Sisi: Yes. For example, sometimes you don't know why your child has been crying and making noise all the time, because you are busy at work, and it is not easy to go home to accompany him. If he is in this state again, you will collapse. Also, when you go to work, Yuanbao will hold your leg and won't let you go. He said that I will let you accompany me. You don't want to go to work. It's no fun to go to work. Today, your units are closed, so make up various reasons. But at this time, you should tell him that his mother went to work in order to give you a better life, buy you toys and delicious food. Later, he gradually understood.

The advantage of our family is that Yuanbao's father and I are complementary in character. I am an impetuous man, and he has a good temper. So when I am impatient and he is around, I will rush to make a regulator.

Li Sisi: The parenting problem is the relationship between two children, which has become more and more complex. I thought I had made adequate preparations before, but now as Xiao Bao begins to have more emotional needs, you will find it difficult to balance this emotional balance. As we usually say, because the boss has more emotional needs, you should pay more attention to him. But sometimes you feel afraid. You are afraid that this kind of attention will form a habit. You are afraid that one day you will be used to seeing the boss's reaction. You are afraid that one day when Xiao Bao needs you, you will turn to the boss involuntarily in the next second. Therefore, the balance of the emotional balance is really a difficult problem, and it will always accompany us. As their growth paths become more and more coincident, it will be difficult to imagine and deal with when they intersect and interlace.

Li Sisi: I remember one day when Yuanbao was building blocks, his brother suddenly ran to touch his brother, but because he could not grasp the strength and direction of his hands, he pushed all his brother's blocks to the ground. At that moment, his brother collapsed, which I especially understood. So the moment my brother raised his fist to hit his brother, I rushed to hold him in my arms. At that time, I didn't say anything to Yuanbao. I just said that my brother was still young, and he didn't do a lot of things very well because he didn't control things properly. In fact, he was unintentional. He wanted to play with you.

Later in the evening when I slept with Yuanbao, I told him, Yuanbao, do you know why my mother gave birth to a younger brother? Because I think you are too lonely at home, because you are the only child, so my mother especially hopes to have another baby to grow with you, so my brother will be the closest person to you in your life, and this closeness cannot be replaced by others. Maybe you can't understand now, but as you grow up, when you cry, your brother will hold you. When you can't build blocks, my brother will help you. When you are bullied, your brother will stand behind you, and you will feel that your brother is a very precious existence. Later Yuanbao seemed to understand something.

So what I really want to convey is that I hope they are friendly and warm children. This warmth is not only the inner feelings, but also the feelings they bring to others. Therefore, to be a warm person, first of all, they should have love in their hearts, and then hope that they will be strong. As Cai Yuanpei said, a child's education is not the most important thing, but a sound character. Therefore, I hope they can have a sound character and healthy body. In terms of concept, being kind to others is always the most important virtue, as well as sincerity.

Li Sisi: There is a good saying that the world is not lack of beauty, but lack of eyes to find beauty. In fact, beauty exists in every corner of our life, so the aesthetic education of children is really not a simple socialized behavior, but needs to return to the family. For the pursuit and view of beauty, parents or more family members should form a corresponding atmosphere to let children know that there are many beauty we can capture in life, and there is no absolute limit between beauty and non beauty.

Li Sisi: I once tried to apply for an interest class for my children, but later found that children still need to choose on their own. Many of the choices of the post-80s generation are actually made by their parents. Sometimes you will feel bored because they are not what you want, not what you want. Whether it is aesthetic education or art education, I hope that children can have a space of independent choice. When they really like it, I will insist on letting them learn. But the premise is to let him get in touch with everything before he knows what he likes. Therefore, I will let him try more.

Li Sisi: I think this is right. Learning art is a process of enjoyment. It is not utilitarian, not an exam, nor some level requirements for them, but simply to let them enjoy the process. Of course, it is another consideration to turn the process of enjoyment into a rational thinking, or even a way to make a living.