Recently, the hit of "Where's Dad? 2", the fight between Cao Ge's son and daughter, and the warm letter Huang Lei wrote to the two daughters have made many parents envy the happy life with two treasures. Previously, a British survey organization listed the gender composition of children in the family, with the top three being two daughters, one son, one daughter and two sons. The combination of brother and sister, sister and sister is the best combination of two children in the eyes of parents. However, before giving birth to the second child, you should first consider the feelings of the first child. At present, many parents are experiencing this sweet trouble.

　 Family has two new troubles

　　 1. "Who do Mom and Dad like?"

In her daughter Emily's class composition, Miss Zhou saw that her daughter wrote in a crooked font: "My brother was born, my parents will not sleep with me, but I will sleep with my grandma. Will my parents leave me alone?"

When she was overwhelmed by her youngest son, Miss Zhou entrusted her daughter to live with her mother-in-law. Unexpectedly, her daughter in the kindergarten class became silent and often lost her temper for no reason. After reading the composition, Miss Zhou took her daughter home to live with her. Now a month has passed: "The daughter still ignores her brother."

　 2. "Throw your younger brother or sister out when you are born."

Sarah's son, Mantou, is 6 years old this year. Since the end of last year, the discussion of having a second child has become more and more heated. Sarah and her husband also plan to add a brother or sister to Mantou in the Year of the Horse. After consulting a parenting expert, Sarah tries to ask her son for advice.

"Can you ask him to give you a baby brother or sister? The son said that he would not, but he would throw his brother or sister out as soon as I was born." Seeing the son's reaction so fierce, Sarah and her husband were also shocked, and they did not dare to mention the matter of having a second child easily, "How to eliminate the son's loss and jealousy?"

　　 Four Precautions for Having Two Treasures

Expert: Zhang Na, a well-known child rearing expert of Babytree

1. Protect the big rather than the small. When two children cry for their mother at the same time, they should hug the eldest! Because Dabao's emotional needs are more, Erbao's most physiological needs. If you ignore Dabao at this time and let Dabao leave a shadow, you will not welcome the baby.

2. Fairness and justice. The saying "You are brother and sister, you should let younger brothers and sisters" is totally wrong. The boss will feel that younger brothers and sisters are competing for favor. The correct treatment should make him feel that his mother's love for me has not decreased too much. When two children conflict, parents must be fair! Erbao should also be punished in front of Dabao if he makes a mistake, instead of being partial to Erbao. If Dabao is wrong, don't criticize him too harshly. You can educate him in private.

3. Follow the previous life rules for the boss. It is necessary to have time alone, such as telling a bedtime story every night, etc., to continue the previous life habits and gradually adapt to the new environment. Other family members must cooperate in taking care of Erbao.

4. Let Dabao take care of Erbao. The sense of participation can make him adapt to the role of brother and sister more quickly, let Dabao also take some responsibilities, such as making the baby happy/helping the baby take a bath, and give him praise and encouragement in time, so that he feels very successful.

　　 The best combination of two treasures in the eyes of parents

1. Brother and sister

Sun Li has just given birth to her daughter, and her children are all jealous of their mothers. The combination of brother and sister is considered to be a perfect combination. The brother knows how to protect the weak when he is young, and the sister is more feminine when she grows up. Many mothers believe that a harmonious sibling can greatly improve family happiness.

2. Sister and sister

Mothers who think they are not qualified for the role of mother-in-law most want to have a pair of sister flowers. Mothers believe that the combination of two daughters is more harmonious than that of two sons, and they will be more united and take care of each other when they grow up. "When I was a child, I fought with my sister, but when I was 18, I felt indestructible," said Yue Yue, who has one daughter. ■ Liu Yangqi, reporter of New Express