Zhihu asked, "Is it wrong that I don't let children play with children who collect waste?"

When I was a child in Hangzhou, The best friend is the child of the water delivery uncle in the water station of the community 。 We had a close relationship at that time. From kindergarten to primary school, she and I played together every day when we were not at school. My family called me many times before I went home. Other neighbors would laugh and say that we looked like twins when they saw us.

Children have no concept of family circumstances and education. I don't understand why my mother wants to give me money to buy snacks for two people to share, or why she won't tell her parents about my family when she comes home.

I don't know that our life will be totally different at the age of 15. I was lucky to go to America to study, but she left school early to work and took care of her three child brother.

Every time I go back to China, I still visit her for a chat. In the shop where she works, an aunt who works beside her said proudly, "It's good to come out early to make money. What's the use of reading so many books?" I found that the people around her have started to be different from me. I don't agree with their ideas, but I can understand them.

Later, when we returned to Hangzhou, we made an appointment to go shopping. Walking to the downtown area, the streets are crowded with people. Suddenly a man in his twenties and thirties came out with a pamphlet and asked if he would like to try some beauty products for free.

I'm not interested in taking advantage of such a bargain, and she seems to have a bright eye on the side, so she took me away. We entered a nearby building, and when we got out of the elevator, we saw that the view of that floor was dim and there were no windows. She and I were taken to two separate rooms.

Sure enough, the trick came.

A little sister came in and got something cool. She said that she could clean the toxins on her face and wiped the left half of my face. Then he said that there would be a charge if he finished.

I was afraid of the bad scene of being alone, and saw that half of my face in the mirror was different, so I had to pay her to deal with it. The young lady is still strange. She gave me an unknown transparent gel without any words, saying that I could take it home for skin care.

Finally, I met my friend again. Naturally, she could not pay the money, and people did not embarrass her. She said that she wanted to come to my room directly, but was afraid of losing face in front of the man, so she sat outside to rest.

"I can't make that man think I'm strange, can I?" She smiled at me.

At that moment, my heart was shocked. It turned out that she and I were totally different——

What I care about is personal safety. What I want to do is spend money to eliminate disasters, and whether three no products will damage the face; What she cares about is the free trial and how she can behave in front of a strange opposite sex.

I can accept to share all snacks with her when I was young, buy the best gift without asking for a return when I grow up, and also accept to be cheated of 200 yuan by a liar by washing his face. But I can't accept that my friend put me in danger for something baffling, and she didn't even realize that there was something wrong with her behavior.

The essence of the problem is not different growth experiences, but some qualities that should be possessed by both rich and poor. We don't want to do anything for our friends, but we don't want to drag them into the mire. If we can't eliminate the impact after the incident, the bottom line is to sincerely apologize to each other.

So I never played with her again after that.

Back to the question. My children can play with the children who collect waste, but they can't play with the children whose values are far from the same and will bring danger to my children.