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[What the anchor said]
Today is a series of TV programs. We focus on New York. Together we talked about two old friends, Tony, the anchor of Planet Tavern, and Xiao Lan, the anchor of Tired Baby.
Tony and Xiao Lan both studied in the United States when they were young. After living in New York for many years, Xiao Lan continued to stay in New York and made a home in Brooklyn. Tony decided to leave and move to Chiang Mai half a world away to explore a new life there. In April this year, when I visited New York briefly, I met them. When recording this episode, the three of us, one just arrived in New York, the other lived in New York, and the other temporarily left New York. We got together and talked about this city where we love and hate.
Tony wrote, "(New York) The city doesn't care whether people talk about it or not. But for everyone who stays here for a long time, the city is so huge. It is a vision, hope, window, harbor, and chaos, danger, pain, disaster. How rich and diverse it is, how crowded and crowded it is. It is the source of all kinds of beauty and difficulties in life. It is often even life itself. "
[This episode's anchor]
Wang Qing: Weibo @ Wang Qing
[Guests in this episode]
Xiao Lan: Anchor of "Exhausted Baby"
Tony: Anchor of "Planet Tavern"
[Spoiler of this episode]
At 03:22, I experienced the scene of Columbia University sports and the time of high-speed operation in New York
13: Where do you live in New York? The culture behind the map of New York
14: What does "New York plot" mean to us?
24:20 Can "growth" really make our every second meaningful?
29:17 In Wudong Noodles in New York, efforts must also be made to "roll"
31:15 Those moments when they are about to give up New York
37:00 The moment when I felt rooted in New York
42:13 When I no longer regard New York as my only home
49:20 In New York, everything is about "me"
54:45 Ah! This is the random explosion of New York
59:30 Community connection we tried to establish globally
63:07 What were we talking about when we talked about New York?
70:15 If you choose a place to die, will you choose New York?
75:52 Come and go freely in the city, and find a balance between freedom and security
77:05 Staying in New York is a game for the brave
[Related Links]
Planet Tavern: a Chinese podcast about discrete stories. "In the vast world, re imagine what life looks like". （www.xiaoyuzhoufm.com）Instagram： https://www.instagram.com/planet.speakeasy
"Exhausted Angels": a pan cultural podcast from the screen to the depths of the universe, extending the participation and imagination of the world with women's sound waves. （www.xiaoyuzhoufm.com）
[Music of this issue]
Title: JAY-Z, Alicia Keys - Empire State Of Mind
Music&Sax Solo: August Swallows
Billy Joel - New York State of Mind (cover)
[Logo design] Liu Liu (ins: injanuary)
[Text] Zeng Wanting
[Post production] Fang Gaize
[Interaction Mode]
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Yugoslavia, a country that no longer exists today. Historically, it was a cosmopolitan utopian experiment ground, but today, its ghost still haunts Europe to some extent.
Bai Lin, a Chinese writer, visited this place known as Yugoslavia in history from 2018 to 2020, and wrote his experience in the book "The temptation of the border - looking for Yugoslavia". She described her encounter with the former Yugoslavia as "a necessity among many accidents of life... I was lucky to find the resonance of life in Yugoslavia and a torch to release the restless flame in my life". This is not only a work about Yugoslavia, but also a valuable record of the pre epidemic era. Returning to history, we also ask the present: what does the boundary mean when the world is conservative and closed? If there is no boundary, can we understand each other better?
In this program, we had a chat with Bolin. From this book, talk about Yugoslavia, Europe, travel, writing, female identity, etc. We want to discuss with her the following question: To what extent can our generation "open up their horizons and become a truly open person"?
[This episode's anchor]
Wang Qing: Weibo @ Wang Qing
If included: Weibo @ _R if included
[Guests in this episode]
Bai Lin: Independent journalist, young writer, part-time researcher of Balkan Research Center of Beijing Foreign Studies University, author of The Temptation of the Border
[Spoiler of this episode]
02:55 Why did you decide to write about the former Yugoslavia?
13: 06 "What is the relationship between the NATO bombing of the Chinese Embassy in Yugoslavia and our math class today?"
18: When the environment is conservative and closed, how do you view the firm and open choice?
23:57 How does the objective structure of the world affect the writer's mentality?
30:17 Pro European, Anti European or Suspicious? The subjectivity of the Balkans
37:53 How to view Peter Hendek's writing and his controversy?
42:06 "I'm not talking for war criminals at all"
58:41 How to digest your own history—— "Only by forgetting can we coexist"
66:00 Why do you say you are not a feminist?
71:17 Brave "Female Walking and Writing"
75:42 How does Bolin define this generation? How to define openness?
[Related Reading]
Peter Handke: A Journey to the Rivers: Justice for Serbia, 1997
[Germany] Corina Beltz, Peter Handke: I'm in the forest, maybe late, 2016
[Netherlands] Dubrovka Uglesic, Pain Department, 2023
[Music of this issue]
Title: Luiz Bonfa ∨ - Reflections
Trailer: Luiz Bonfa ∨ - Rain
[Logo design] Liu Liu (ins: injanuary)
[Text] Zeng Wanting
[Post production] Fang Gaize
[Interaction Mode]
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[This episode's anchor]
Wang Qing: Weibo @ Wang Qing
If included: Weibo @ _R if included
[Guests in this episode]
Yang Yi: Senior media person, "go to the scene" anchor
[Spoiler of this episode]
0:00-3:00 Small Umbrella Insurance Broker, thank you for your support
09:09 Seeking unreal rewards in intimate relationship from ChatGPT
14: 35 On the campus of Peking University, Qing's impressive moment of parting
23:36 Yang Yi's Dog Blood Breakup Story
42:35 Adventure breaking up process accompanied by anxiety and fear
47:12 A drama breakup made people grow rapidly
52:29 Don't be tired of your ego anymore
67:01 Interaction and thinking with support system
70:53 Yang Yi comes out to his mother with his boyfriend who is about to break up
82:24 Expose vulnerability or use vulnerability as a weapon?
88:10 "Divorce is the best medical beauty for women"
92:47 When the game stops, we grow
97:55 Women's dilemma lies in the lack of an accurate social narrative
102:36 Is it true that "money is enough"?
111:41 Approaching self integrity in relationships
What is the intimate relationship that conforms to our values at 120:00?
132:01 When I don't know whether my self is strong enough, how can I protect myself while embracing intimacy?
136:03 What do you think of today's popular emotional commodities such as emotional counseling, emotional courses, and love courses?
[Related Reading]
[France] Eva Eloth, The End of Love: Sociology of Negative Relationships
[Music of this issue]
Title: Kevin MacLeod Study and Relax
Trailer: Kevin MacLeod BeBop for Joey
[Logo design] Liu Liu (ins: injanuary)
[Text] Zeng Wanting
[Post production] Fang Gaize
[Interaction Mode]
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The second Sunday of May is the annual Mother's Day. When talking about the word "mother", everyone may have many complex feelings in their hearts. Today, we will no longer take for granted the traditional society's expectations of mothers. But I'm afraid criticism is not enough. After the criticism, we still face the challenge of how to build. In modern society, how should we redefine the role of mother? How should today's young people, especially girls, view the choices around childbearing? In this series of special programs in May, we invited some good friends around us to talk about their thoughts on fertility. You will hear their professional knowledge analysis or sincere sharing of personal life experience.
Today is the last episode of this series. The guest is our old friend A Pang. In the first two episodes, we found some friends who already have children to share, such as new parents, or have many years of experience in parenting. Today, we want to focus on those who have not yet decided whether they will become mothers. This program originated from an offline chat with Ah Pang. In March this year, I went to Singapore on a business trip. At Ah Pang's home, we talked about fertility. Ah Pang is my age. She has the aura of envy of many peers. She graduated from Yale University, is a well-known debater, and an executive of the world's top consulting company. Since he had not yet decided whether he would have children, at some time last year, Ah Pang decided to freeze the eggs. But in this process, she realized that frozen eggs are not the insurance that many women think is easy to buy when they have money. Everyone's individual experience is really different. In the capitalist world, the emergence of the frozen egg option has even become a new way for many large companies to control female employees. Although frozen eggs provide a new option for women who want to postpone childbearing, they cannot solve the real fertility dilemma faced by women.
This program is also a reunion between us and Ah Pang. More than two years ago, we got to know Ah Pang just because of his recording. Over the past two years, many changes have taken place in Ah Pang's life. He has moved back to Singapore from Washington and is about to publish his new book "Thinking 35: Think Like a Debater". We will select a few lucky listeners from the Cosmos comment area of this program and the micro blog comments, and send Ah Pang's new book.
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[This episode's anchor]
Wang Qing: Weibo @ Wang Qing
[Guests in this episode]
Pang Ying: well-known exotic debater, director manager of international consulting company, Weibo @ Little Crab
[Spoiler of this episode]
07:47 For the first time, I realized that I had to consider the situation of "becoming a mother"?
11: 15. The experience of deciding to freeze eggs this year
16: 44 Changes in Singapore's frozen egg policy
22:34 Will frozen eggs really lead to menopause?
27:36 Demonized frozen eggs
32:23 Men's obsession with "gene transmission"
36:05 Sperm donor is not equal to "physiological father"
44:43 Consideration of having children at this stage
52:17 Do you yearn for the role of mother?
56:53 "Maybe my daughter is the one who takes bad boys and bad girls?"
59:15 How does the mother daughter relationship affect the concept of child rearing?
65:13 Broaden the boundary of our imagination of non-traditional lifestyle
[Music of this issue]
Title: toe -
Trailer: toe - C
[Logo Design] Liu Liu (ins

[What the anchor said]
The second Sunday of May is the annual Mother's Day. When talking about the word "mother", everyone may have many complex feelings in their hearts. Today, we will no longer take for granted the traditional society's expectations of mothers. But I'm afraid criticism is not enough. After the criticism, we still face the challenge of how to build. In modern society, how should we redefine the role of mother? How should today's young people, especially girls, view the choices around childbearing? In this series of special programs in May, we invited some good friends around us to talk about their thoughts on fertility. You will hear their professional knowledge analysis or sincere sharing of personal life experience.
Today is the third episode of the Mother's Day series. The guests are two old friends of our program: Xu Xiaochuang and Li Zixin. In the last episode, we invited Wei Wei and Ke Yuan to enjoy the experience of becoming a novice parent. In this episode, we want to focus on those friends who have had some years of childcare experience, what different challenges and difficulties will they face, and what meaning and happiness will they gain after their children have passed the infancy stage. Xiaochuang and Zixin are a couple living in London at present. They have two children. The eldest son is about to enter university and the youngest daughter is still in primary school. In the past two decades, their childcare stories have also been interspersed with major life decisions such as transnational relocation, resignation and entrepreneurship. Does having a child mean that you need to give up taking risks in your life? The concept of digital nomads is deeply rooted in the hearts of the people today, but it is more targeted. Is it possible to "educate nomads" around the world with children? As Xiaochuang wrote on social media, "There are too many opposites and conflicts in this society. Both mothers and fathers are feeling their way across the river. May mothers feel more freedom in the process of raising children and themselves instead of being trapped in time."
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[This episode's anchor]
Wang Qing: Weibo @ Wang Qing
[Guests in this episode]
Li Zixin: Founder of Sandwich
Xu Xiaochuang: Founder of Storyland Story Planet
[Spoiler of this episode]
07:01 Ignorant and fearless, she stepped into the role of mother
17: 54 What are the challenges of becoming a mother while entering the society and the workplace?
25:30 Once again, will you still choose to procreate with today's knowledge and theory?
30:01 What aspects do you think you can do better?
39:33 Exploration and practice of educational nomadism
56:30 How to reach a consensus on family mobility?
66:59 Consensus and divergence of parenting concept under nomadic education mode
74:01 What qualities do you want children to have? What are your expectations of children?
[Music of this issue]
Title: toe -
Trailer: toe - C
[Logo design] Liu Liu (ins: injanuary)
[Text] Zeng Wanting
[Post production] Fang Gaize
[Interaction Mode]
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[What the anchor said]
The second Sunday of May is the annual Mother's Day. When talking about the word "mother", everyone may have many complex feelings in their hearts. Today, we will no longer take for granted the traditional society's expectations of mothers. But I'm afraid criticism is not enough. After the criticism, we still face the challenge of how to build. In modern society, how should we redefine the role of mother? How should today's young people, especially girls, view the choices around childbearing? In this series of special programs in May, we invited some good friends around us to talk about their thoughts on fertility. You will hear their professional knowledge analysis or sincere sharing of personal life experience.
Today is the second episode of the Mother's Day series. The guests are two old friends of our program: Fang Kecheng and Wei Wei. They are a couple, also a novice parents, and now live in Hong Kong. Six months ago, they welcomed the birth of their son Luca. The process was full of twists and turns. Fang Kecheng even thought for a time that he was going to lose Weiwei. Fortunately, everything was safe after the danger was averted. However, production is only the first step of the story. In this program, they shared their experiences in the months when they became novice parents. What does it mean to be a parent? How to understand and deal with the severe pain women face during childbirth? Why is motherhood a shackle and fatherhood a social bonus?
I was very touched by the sincere sharing of two old friends, which is also one of the original intentions of our series. Our goal is not to draw an absolute conclusion about whether we are good or not. Instead, we want to show all these complex aspects around fertility, so that fertility decisions can return to the level of personal choice, and everyone can make more rational choices in a more informed situation.
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[This episode's anchor]
Wang Qing: Weibo @ Wang Qing
If included: Weibo @ _R if included
[Guests in this episode]
Fang Kecheng: Assistant Professor of the Chinese University of Hong Kong, founder of NewsLab
Weiwei: "Man is iron, rice is steel" anchor
[Spoiler of this episode]
03:25 The challenge of pregnancy preparation and early rearing: it has been too long since I had a full sleep
07:13 What was the opportunity for Wei Wei to make the decision that he wanted children?
12: 29 Gender differences in the face of reproductive pressure
19: 07 Push the door of fertility: Why didn't you tell me earlier?
31:33 In public hospitals, painless production is not encouraged
46:39 After production, did Wei Wei's view of life and life change?
49:11 The birth process varies from person to person. More details need to be seen
53:12 Why do you restrain your desire to share fertility feelings in social media
61:00 Choose breast feeding or milk powder feeding? Mom, just be happy
66:28 The mode of division of labor in child rearing: whose "responsibility" is it?
72:12 Waiwai and Teacher Fang have different views on childcare
87:43 Birth, the first time for women to face patriarchy
[Related Reading]
Discussion on breast milk in Father Energy: Reject breast milk kidnapping and realize feeding freedom. Fathers please support unconditionally
Weiwei's talk show on fertility: Mom's talk show: Man, why can't you shut up even when you sleep
[Music of this issue]
Title production: Li Qile ins@liqillerthatsme
Title: toe -
Trailer: toe - C
[Logo design] Liu Liu (ins: injanuary)
[Text] Zeng Wanting
[Post production] Fang Gaize
[Interaction