What does it mean to be a mother? What is the adaptation of mother's role... He Shanshan, associate professor of the Department of Social Work of East China Normal University, talks with you“ It's not easy to learn skills together when you are a mother ”'s topic~Playback of the stamp link:
Q: What does it mean to be a mother?
A: 1) The role transformation from the caregiver to the caregiver.
– I think that after becoming a mother, I not only realize that I am a mother, but also realize that I am a daughter and a daughter-in-law. I also realize that it is not easy for both parents, no matter which side they are.
2) The manager of family childcare division.
– After the baby was born, I came here alone to eat, drink, sleep, and sleep. Now my baby starts to add complementary food five months ago, and I do it myself. Because I don't trust others and the elderly are willing to help, I think the concept of child rearing is different. Sometimes there may be something that needs to be done by the mother, rather than the elderly or the nanny. So I come to all things by myself, so I think I am a superman—— Both caretaker and manager
Q: What is mother role adaptation?
A: 1) The role of mother is an important life role that women experience and acquire from pregnancy to childbirth.
Mother's role adaptation is also called role attainment, which is a dynamic process of socialization under the combined effect of many physiological, psychological, social and cultural factors.
2) Caretakers -- the role and identity change of caretakers
Maternal role attachment includes three aspects:
Role cognition: mother's role identity (cognition)
Role emotion: role achievement in emotion (emotion)
Role efficacy: role achievement in terms of actual parenting behavior (behavior)
Q: What are the different maternal role adaptation behaviors?
A: 1. Good adaptation to the role of mother
Breastfeeding and infant care techniques are well mastered, milk secretion is sufficient, the mood is calm, and the baby is lovingly caressed; The baby is comfortable, dependent on the mother, and the relationship between mother and baby is harmonious.
2. Reinforcement of mother's role behavior
They pay too much attention to their mother's role, worry too much about the feeding, excretion, sleep and cleaning of the baby, and refuse to give any care of the baby to others, even to the extent of anxiety
3. Absence of mother's role
She didn't enter the role of mother, didn't clearly realize the responsibility of mother, and couldn't master the skills of breastfeeding and infant care. She felt that the child had brought her great trouble, and she didn't feel friendly and indifferent to the baby, and didn't care much about the child.
4. Abnormal mother role behavior
Mothers hate and hate their babies, and even hurt their children
Q: What are the various factors that affect mother's role adaptation?
A: 1) Individual characteristics of mother
– Age, education background, mother's own personality characteristics
2) Individual characteristics of children
– Quantity, gender, health status, children's personality characteristics: easy type or high demand type
Nurturing methods
– Whether mother infant separation and breastfeeding
3) Physiological factors related to delivery
– Delivery experience, whether the mother and baby are separated after delivery, experience the pain of delivery, and breast pain
Uterine contraction pain, perineal incision or abdominal incision pain, fatigue, lack of sleep
social support
– Female elders, husbands (especially important), peers in the family
4) Relevant knowledge
– Infant feeding knowledge, daily nursing knowledge and own nursing knowledge
Q: How to promote mother role adaptation?
A: Role cognition: the first responsible person of the baby!
– Mother: responsibility, sacrifice, growth, protection, independence
– Father: more responsibility, repositioning, example, knowledge education
Role emotion: unique and rich emotional experience!
– Joy and anxiety coexist, happiness and pain coexist
– Since then, there has been a villain in the world (sharing joys and sorrows with children)
– Only by raising children can we know the parents' kindness
Role efficiency: high efficiency, high confidence!
– The differentiation is obvious, and the level of effectiveness is related to many factors (the degree of independent care, the age of the baby, the attitude of active learning, etc.)
– Parents with high role efficiency are more confident!
