The young girl was sexually assaulted
National Psychologist Wu Jian
two thousand and thirteen year twelve month nineteen day
X Not yet three My parents brought me a - year-old girl for psychological consultation. However, the girl still didn't touch much because she was afraid of men.
The girl's mother looked very anxious and uncomfortable. She said that the girl was invaded by her uncle and nephew. She shook her hands, took out a hospital outpatient medical record, diagnosed it as obscenity, complained of pain in the vulva, and examined it as redness and swelling. Then, he took out the case filing document from the public security department, and the case was reported. It happened about a month ago, and the exact time is unknown. The girl was sexually assaulted by two men rented together more than once. According to the child's description in the public security department, the uncle and nephew are not married. Adult men continue to touch and play with their hands x Of the external genitalia, and, may enter the vagina, but check the hymen integrity. In addition, they also use their hands to enter the anus of girls. It is not clear whether it is entered with male genitals. Young men mainly take off their pants and cover the girl's mouth to prevent her from calling. It is unclear whether to play with it.
The girl's mother recalled that at that time, x Especially clinging to her, she is also in a bad mood. Even if her mother goes to the toilet, she also follows her. She may have been sexually assaulted because the child is too young to talk. I was afraid to see men, even my father. Mother was shocked and even blamed herself (cried) when she learned about it. I think I didn't pay attention, didn't manage, and trusted my neighbors too much. She immediately reported the case, and the public security department also filed the case. Go to the hospital for inspection, x Refuse to take off your pants for inspection. These days, I stay with my mother every day, and my mood is more stable.
The mother continued to say that she had two children, and the eldest son had already gone to high school. Last year, because of the couple's emotional problems, the husband was lazy, irresponsible, domestic violence, and divorced. She doesn't have a job, and the economy is very difficult, so she rents with strangers. She is very worried about the influence of girls when they grow up, because she has such experiences and such memories. She recalled that about seven At the age of, I was raised by my grandmother, who was also irresponsible. A carpenter who worked at home stroked her genitals while she slept. She was awakened with a start. Fortunately, her mother came and did not hurt her further. She has a deep memory of this event. She distrusts men and fears sexual life, which may also affect her marriage relationship.
I put forward some suggestions for her girls First, physical therapy , because sexual assault x The bodily injury caused by it still needs active treatment, such as preventing genital infection; Second, legal rights protection It is necessary to safeguard the rights and interests of girls according to law. Sexual assault on uncles and nephews requires a very legal cost, which is also a spiritual comfort and economic compensation. Consult a lawyer for specific matters. If you have financial difficulties, you can go to the Nanping Women's Federation Rights Protection Department to get legal aid; Third, psychological consultation ， one Don't mention the event, because a repetition is a damage, a reinforcement; two The mother accompanies, because there is no special psychotherapy, the psychological accompany is the best way; three . Move immediately to get rid of harmful environment and reduce psychological association; four Playing together can divert attention and increase happy experience; five Tell more stories. Children can use story therapy, such as stories about small animals, and be strong after being hurt; Fourth, the mother is strong After the psychological trauma of children, they recover very quickly. The impact of recovery mainly depends on the attitude of closely connected adults. As mothers, they need to be strong and optimistic. This can give children positive energy. Of course, the mother is also a victim and needs psychological help. Father is also important. Of course, it is not necessary to remarry for the sake of children. Since the marriage is unhappy and unhappy, after remarriage, the mother is in a bad mood, which also affects the growth of children. The impact on children in the future, including sexual assault, marriage and family, and parenting, should be minimized.
