Read the blog article "Premature ejaculation patient, please say no, I will never!" by the doctor named @ Sewer（ http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4cfa49d80102uxqq.html ） ， I also read his other wonderful blog articles, liked his humorous and frank writing style (perhaps his preference for familiar Sichuan hometown men), and appreciated his sense of social responsibility as a doctor. It also reminds me of an outpatient experience in the sex therapy base in China (Department of Sex Medicine, Chongqing Family Planning Hospital):

A young man who seemed to have low income walked into the consulting room anxiously and said that his patient was impotent and lacked sexual desire. Upon inquiry, he was about twenty-five Years old. As far as my knowledge and experience are concerned, erectile dysfunction mostly occurs in middle-aged or later groups. The prevalence rate of erectile dysfunction in his age group is far lower than that of the former, and it is the time of strong sexual desire.

I asked him how he knew and judged his impotence and lack of sexual desire. He said that he found several andrology hospitals to give a diagnosis (also showed a stack of test sheets), which has already spent 1~2 It's a thousand yuan, but it's still not cured, so I finally found it here.

After asking about his history of sexual intercourse, he was surprised to learn that he had never had sexual intercourse. He made a girlfriend for the first time in his life a while ago, but he has not yet established a stable relationship. He said that he had several impulses to be intimate with his girlfriend, but he dared not try because he was worried about his poor performance on the spot. After several retreats, he felt that he could not erect to complete sexual intercourse. Even when a person has sexual ideas privately, he also felt that he could not erect as before, So I went to those andrology hospitals for treatment. The diagnosis given by those hospitals makes the symptoms worse. His original problem may be mainly "Operation anxiety" is even more labeled as "impotence". I said to him, "I don't think you really have impotence or lack of sexual desire, probably because you are too concerned about your own psychological barriers to sexual performance.".

He: How do you know I'm not? All the doctors in the andrology hospital said I was

Me: We can see your reaction under sexual stimulation to prove whether you are impotent or may occur under certain circumstances

He looked at me in surprise and nervousness: How can you prove it?

Me: There are many ways. For example, try using sex tools —----

I led him to the sex therapy room opposite the consulting room, opened the sex appliance display cabinet, and took out a set of inverted vulva (including the vulva and buttocks). While I was still saying "This is ---" carelessly, I noticed that my audience did not respond. I stopped talking and turned to see him standing there, Staring at the inverted mold The body is stiff and seems to be "stuck" by the female model, breathing is accelerated, and the neck and face are flushed. I realized what might be happening to his body, and kindly quieted down for a moment. After more than half a minute, he realized his state, swallowed saliva, and drew his attention away from the inverted model. He asked, "Can I try this now?"

I said: This is only an exhibit on display, not hygienic. If you want to try it, you can buy one for yourself at the sex appliance store outside. If you really can't do it, you can also take it here to guide and train you to use it.

He: I'll try it now. If it's OK, I'll buy it again, OK?

In order to be responsible for his health, I refused his request and suggested that he go to the sex appliance store to buy a female mold before coming back. He left the consulting room disappointed. A few days later, he called again two The second time I called, I asked if I could give him a try on that exhibit, because he heard that the female mold of sex utensils was very expensive (it might be expensive for his income), and I told him that he could buy a cheaper and simple female cup (10 to 30 yuan). I haven't heard from him since.