Social intercourse is already a very difficult thing. Recently, someone has been talking about this problem. Do you have social phobia?

I don't know what other people think, and I don't want to speculate, but I can understand my own thoughts. What I fear is not social fear, but loss.

"I don't want to go on stage", "I don't want to meet", "I even bypass for specific people". It's not that I don't like it, don't love it, and don't have feelings. I'm just afraid that I can't stay, and I don't want to communicate with others. I always feel that even if there are many people coming to communicate with you, help you, and care about you, they will leave you one day, After all, it doesn't belong to you. There are too many things you don't want to do. We don't want to be embarrassed, lose or become the target of public criticism. We can choose to stay where we are, but the world is in constant motion, and you are always forced to move forward. It will bring you good luck and bad news.

There is never a standard to set right or wrong for a thing. It is determined by your heart. I think it is not worth missing something that may be good for me because you are worried about gain and loss in your heart. I saw a sentence before, which was said by Sakyamuni: No matter who you meet, she is the person who should appear in your life, not by accident, She will certainly teach you something, so I always believe that no matter where I go, it is the place I should go, experience the experience and meet the people I should meet, so it does not matter if it is only for a while. Even if separation has become a thing of the past, it is not the last time I am meeting, and I will meet you again. Yushu Linfeng is a young man. Time is a river against the current. I am looking forward to meeting you at the upstream. Time is an old tree. It carves spring and summer into autumn leaves and buries memories into the roots. Under the tree is our story. Everything has a hometown. All living beings have stories. Hope and sadness are a ray of light. One day we will meet again.

As others said, "Being is reasonable. There are many things that we can't control, such as our life experience and race. But we always look at this point. For the whole life, it's just a drop in the bucket. It's not your family background, life experience, race, blood and luck that affect you.", But these can not determine the outcome of things. It is you who can determine the outcome.

I am a social phobic patient. At the same time, there are some labels on me, such as depression, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, etc. I am also afraid of losing. I have also lost something important to me. It took me a long time to come out. During that period, I was afraid of anything, getting new dolls, making new friends, and communicating with people, It's meaningless to me. I feel empty in my heart. Even if I put the whole world into it, I can't be satisfied. I often feel that a big stone is pressing on my chest. You can't move away. Only you can cure it. I hope you can understand and tolerate the patients with social phobia more. They are not very cold, It's not unkind, but they can't manage their emotions and have normal social skills like ordinary people. If you have such friends around, I hope you can understand that maybe he is just your most ordinary friend, but you may be his best friend in the world, just like myself, When I went to the wedding ceremony of others, I found that there was no one who could share and speak. That was the sudden feeling of powerlessness at that time, which made me feel more uncomfortable. The world had treated us unfairly. I would compromise in this way, which would only add to my troubles.

As I said before, kindness is good for everyone around you, because it is really difficult for them to do a simple thing in their eyes.

So don't look at others with your own eyes. Because what you see like this is often not a complete person, what you see is only a silhouette of yourself, not others. People should not go against their own heart and keep an ordinary heart for all people. I think it is enough. There is no need to have special treatment for social phobia. That will make them more embarrassed. It is true to be plain. An ordinary heart is enough.

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Author of this article: Muxi (QQ: 1463980872), the creator of Xiaomuxi (www.xiaomuxi. cn), an unlimited cloud disk, welcomes the experience.