Don't say it's better to marry well than to do well. In this world, the most reliable thing is always yourself. You must give yourself confidence. Uncle Ma hopes that you have the capital to reach up and the ability to make money down, because only in this way can you feel at ease when you have a happy life.

01

I think one of the most unfair words to girls in the world is that it is better to marry well than to do well! Although I also agree that marriage is very important for a girl, I don't think it can override everything and become your lifelong career. But many times, there are many people around us, including parents, seven aunts and eight aunts, and all kinds of irrelevant people, who have been discriminating against the efforts of girls.

If we have a girl who works very hard, but has not married yet in her thirties, people will look at her with contempt and say, "What's the use, what's the use, how can we do in the future?" But if there is a girl who has nothing to do but has married a good husband, Everyone would smile and say, "She is still smart. In this life, she really has no worries about food and clothing!"

In their eyes, spending time working hard instead of finding a man is simply stupid and a waste of life. For parents and relatives, no matter how good they are, they will struggle for 30 years less if they marry well.

But if you marry well, will you really have nothing to worry about?

I wonder if these people have read the story of Ma Su. This girl, who looks very beautiful now, once had a love affair with world champion Kong Linghui when she just graduated. One of them is a grand slam world champion, who drives a Porsche and lives in a high-end community, and the other is a poor student who is still at school. Although Kong Linghui is very good to Ma Su, he is still somewhat condescending. This is not Kong Linghui's problem. In fact, every man in his position will inevitably show a sense of superiority.

As a result, in the days that followed, when the two people broke out in conflict, Ma Su's weakness emerged. After a quarrel, Kong Linghui blurted out the word "roll", and the stubborn Ma Su really carried the luggage and slammed the door. After getting into the elevator, she suddenly realized a problem: where do I go? She was homeless.

Isn't this a girl's sorrow? What's the use of a man who has power, power and money? This is not yours! When he wants to give it to you, he can give it to you. When he doesn't want to give it to you, you will have nothing. After that, although Ma Su made up with Kong Linghui, she began to work harder and bought her own house with clenched teeth. When she had this base to attack and retreat, she became the leader of Ma Family Village and her own master. Kong Linghui's attitude towards her also changed greatly.

Although they didn't get together in the end, I think we can see from Ma Su that men are actually creatures who are only willing to make things better.

You have nothing but a heart to follow him wholeheartedly. When you give him everything, he may not look up at you. But when you have everything, he will struggle to please you.  

Every girl should work hard, because only when you are good enough, this man will not leave you, because you are no longer the only one

02

My friend Xiao Fei, who was a talented girl in college, belongs to Xiao Qingxin's temperament type. In her sophomore year, she met a boy from the same school. He was handsome and had a good personality. The key was that the family conditions were also very good. The two began to fall in love until their senior graduation. After graduation, they stayed in the city together and worked hard. Xiaofei is a girl with strong ability. It took only a few years to become the middle level of the company, and her annual salary is considerable. The boy is studying design. Although he works hard, his income is quite good. Two people's life is booming and they begin to prepare for marriage.

Xiaofei's original family is a single parent. His parents divorced long ago. Although the man's family did not like Xiaofei's family, they could not beat his boyfriend's persistence and Xiaofei's excellence, so they agreed.

The man's house is really good. He bought them a house, a car and a grand wedding. Everyone is praising Xiaofei, saying that she is blessed and has good taste, and that she is well married. But in fact, during the whole preparation process, Xiaofei was hesitant. She always felt that the man's family was superior to her. Her mother-in-law always spoke to her in a high spirited tone, which made her feel a little uncomfortable. She once thought about taking a break, working for a few more years, saving more money to let herself have more confidence before getting married.

But all the relatives and friends around, including Xiaofei's mother, are saying that she doesn't know how lucky she is when she is blessed, and that she will only lose happiness if she does so. In desperation, Xiaofei had to let go of his doubts and became the happy and beautiful bride. After marriage, everything is safe and sound. The couple's life is enjoyable, and their parents in law do not interfere too much. Xiaofei thought that maybe he had thought too much, and she thought that such a choice was really right. Before long, Xiaofei was pregnant, and her mother-in-law came all the way to ask her to resign, because Xiaofei's working environment had too many large equipment, which was bad for the children.

Xiaofei was right when he thought about it. Although he was reluctant to give up, he still resigned for the sake of the child. Anyway, his skills are in his own hands. After giving birth to the child, start over again. But after giving birth, everything was not like what Xiaofei thought. Her mother-in-law said that she was in poor health and she had to let Xiaofei go with her when she helped them take care of their children, which meant that Xiaofei could not go out to work after giving birth.

Xiaofei discussed with her husband whether she could find a nanny, but his husband faltered and said that her mother-in-law felt that there was an outsider at home who was not at ease, and let her stay at home first.

At that time, her husband said the same thing as all men: "Don't worry, my income is not unable to support you and the children. You support the family, and I support you!" Xiaofei was a little touched. Faced with this fact, he could only accept his fate and live a full-time mother's life without income.

At the beginning, her husband gave her pocket money every month. She was very happy, and her mother-in-law didn't complain. However, the two generations' lifestyle and the idea of taking care of children are always different. Xiaofei began to have many conflicts with her mother-in-law. During this process, Xiaofei felt that he had no confidence, because in several arguments, his mother-in-law would say, "I spend money to help you raise your children. You don't work and spend my son's hard earned money. What are you talking about?"

When hearing this for the first time, Xiaofei broke down and cried to her husband, but his silence made her frustrated. The contradictions become more and more fierce, and the days are more difficult to cross. Xiaofei is getting more and more difficult to get money. It depends on her mother-in-law and husband's face if she wants to invite friends to dinner. She is extremely bent and wants to go out to work to earn money.

But every time she mentioned this, her mother-in-law had headaches and chest pains, which made her unable to speak. Xiaofei has driven himself to a dead end, and postpartum depression is out of control. I really love Xiaofei. As a girl with such ability, she was forced into such a situation. Is it more useful to marry well than to do well?

Xiaofei is married to a good husband, and has a life of food and clothing, but since the day he gave up his job, he has lost these things.

These excellent conditions are just an addition to your ability. The better you are, the stronger you can grasp them.

03

Whether a woman can be happy or not has something to do with the person she married, but I think this relationship is not absolute. A woman's real luck is not brought by a man, but to find out how beautiful she is in the process of meeting this person.

Guo Jingjing said:“ If you want to marry to any height, you must first send yourself to that height.

I agree with that very much. If you want to marry well, the key is that you also have the capital. Otherwise, what do they want from you? Pic. Your face is pockmarked? Do you have no chest or brain? Or are you lazy?

If you want to marry well, you must do well first.

I know a girl from an ordinary background. She has been determined to marry a rich, handsome girl since she was in middle school. She learned to dress up in order to make her appearance competitive. She learns piano, painting and calligraphy in order to cultivate her refined temperament. When she graduated from college, she saved money by working as a part-time worker, combined with a large loan, and gritted her teeth to buy a famous car in order to get into the famous car club, and then to know Gao Fushai. Finally, she got her wish and found the handsome and rich man.

It took her 13 years to plan from the age of 15 to get married at the age of 28. She regards men as a serious career, and tries every means to do it step by step.

After that, she did not begin to enjoy the hard won life with ease, but worked harder to improve herself, both externally and internally, and never gave up. In this way, she became a powerful helper in her husband's career and a virtuous wife in life, and a woman admired by everyone in her circle of friends.

I dare not say that she will be happy in the future, but I think she deserves our recognition, that is, what kind of life you want, you must first pay what kind of efforts, at the same time, never give up yourself.

Don't say it's better to marry well than to do well. In this world, the most reliable thing is always yourself. We never want to rely on anyone, so we can feel at ease when we have a happy life.

 ------The original text is excerpted from Xiyan New Media Writer.

When you are with a person, if the energy he gives you is that you can get up happily every day, sleep at ease every night, do everything with full power, and look forward to the future, then you don't love the wrong person. The most meaningful feelings never torment each other in the name of love, but accompany each other and become the sunshine of each other.