Chinese new year, this year's new year seems very boring, not only this year only my brother and I go back home to celebrate the new year, but also for various reasons.
This year, the new year in my hometown is very lonely, only I come back, the flavor of the year is fading year by year, and the family relationship is decreasing year by year.
The following content is transferred from [Zhongguancun Online]
The original title is "the new year flavor becomes light is from we become casual 》
When I was a child, I was the one with the most "new year flavor".
At that time, we children must buy new clothes early, put them on the head of the bed, and wait for them to wear them in the morning. One year, the shopping mall was going to close down and still didn't have the new clothes ready. I was so anxious that I cried.
As the new year approaches, my mother's most anxious thing is that she has no time to do the cleaning at home. Sooner or later, she has to talk about trivial things. The cleaning day must also be very solemn. The whole family has to work hard all day, sweep the roof and climb the windowsill. Even if children can't help, they will run inside and outside, deliver dishcloth, and take part in the most important festival of the year.
On the 28th day of the lunar new year, all the couplets are pasted. The Spring Festival couplets on the paste are very solid. Scraping off the Spring Festival couplets of the previous year is a big project. We can't make it in half a day. The whole family has to go to the battle and sweat all over their heads. Then boil the paste of the new year, climb up and down, paste the Spring Festival couplets inside and outside full.
On New Year's Eve, children are prepared to stay up all night. Those who don't stay up early or get up late on the first day of the new year's Eve should be despised.
On the first day of junior high school, I ate dumplings at home and drove back to my hometown in the countryside. First, I'll go to my grandfather's house to celebrate the new year. Then a group of men, a group of women, a group of children, wandering in the village, is not a relative, as long as you know, walking on the road in the village, meet and ask "happy new year.".
By the time of lunch, our family of three had been scattered for a long time, and each family had been eating and drinking without a trace. There is no plan. It's time to pay a new year's visit and stay here and there to eat.
With the all year round business supermarket, we no longer have to worry about hoarding New Year's goods;
New clothes were put on early, no longer "delayed satisfaction" to stay until the first day of the new year;
Few people paste Spring Festival couplets at home. It takes no more than 10 minutes to stick any cellophane;
The new year's Eve dinner is becoming more and more plentiful, and it is also more and more difficult to make a difference;
Spring Festival Gala is still broadcast every year, but it has become the background sound of our mobile phone;
No child will stay up all night, people get up later and later on the first day of the new year;
I am no longer the age to kowtow, and the old man who kneels is no longer alive
The ceremony of the Chinese New Year is becoming more and more simplified. At the end of the year, even the expectations for the new year have been simplified. Only then do we gradually feel that something has been lost.
The documentary "new year on the tip of the tongue" has such a sentence: "the taste of the new year is getting weaker and weaker, because with the improvement of living standards, the new year's Eve dinner has lost its attraction Every new year, my mother complained: what to eat? What would you like to eat? The children say whatever you like. It has to be the same year after year. "
The new year is no longer as casual as the festival.
The abundance of material makes us feel no joy brought by new clothes and new year's Eve dinner. The simplification of ceremony makes the Spring Festival a dull and fuzzy day on the calendar.
Speaking of the sense of ceremony, people like to quote the sentence from the little prince: "the sense of ceremony is to make one day different from other days, and make a certain moment different from other moments."
Ceremony is the magic that can make ordinary days shine, and it is our revenge on ordinary life.
For example, at weddings, many men don't understand that women spend so much time and energy on a ceremony for others to see. In fact, weddings are not only for parents, relatives and friends, but also for themselves. On the way out to buy a knife in a chicken feather after marriage, we might remember his warm and sincere oath on the wedding day, so we gave up buying a knife and turned to buy his favorite dish.
After attending the wedding of Li Xiaolu and Jia Nailiang, Song Dandan said, "after attending Xiaolu's wedding, tears poured into his eyes several times, and suddenly understood: Why did I have three marriages? Because I've never had a decent wedding
Of course, marriage is not necessarily fragile without marriage ceremony, but marriage with grand banquet is indestructible. But if conditions permit, we don't care about ostentation and expense. We need a ceremony to tell the world and tell ourselves: from this moment on, a new life begins!
For example, when you eat, do you think that going to Michelin's to have a complicated and exquisite French meal is the ceremony? I paid close attention to a cartoonist on Weibo. He took pictures of breakfast made by his mother every day. He said that breakfast should be eaten well. It was this breakfast that I enjoyed every day. There are no gorgeous dishes and artistic filters, but the dishes are diverse and nutritious. What rises is the most real human fireworks.
Just like Audrey Hepburn's classic movie breakfast at Tiffany's, Holly will wear a small black dress and fake jewelry, and slowly finish breakfast in front of Tiffany's exquisite window. It's like a feast of bread and hot coffee. The sense of ceremony is a grand breakfast in an absent-minded life.
Sometimes ceremony is not only a little taste in life, but also a powerful and positive hint. Although I'm ill, I'm not pale and haggard. Get out of here, cancer gentleman. You don't want to see my jokes! You can't help smiling or respecting.
The Atlanta Daily has conducted such a research and found that the happiness brought by "gathering stories and memories" at home is far better than material satisfaction or even academic and career achievements. In particular, family tradition, which brings endless memories and happiness to all family members, will not change with the change of life.
The sense of ceremony doesn't need red tape and heavy work. Maybe it's just a little bit of care and care, like a little sugar in coffee, to give children a more colorful new year——
We can tell children about the meaning and customs of the new year, read relevant picture books, and do traditional folk handicrafts, such as paper cutting.
We can let the children pick up a brush and draw a new year's picture. Just after seeing the news, ran Yingying posted the paintings of her two sons on her microblog. What if the paint was everywhere in the house? Children's happiness is priceless.
Take a picture of the whole family. Don't just put it in the computer or mobile phone, wash it out and hang it on the wall or clip it into an album.
Involve your child in the process of a particular festival. For example, starting from the "little new year", they are told to dip sugar melons, sweep house days, push millet, cook big meat, kill a chicken, make noodles, steam steamed bread, cut window decorations, paste Spring Festival couplets, set off firecrackers, make dumplings, watch the night, and pay a group visit
With children to complete these, they will understand, originally, this is called "new year"!