In the face of all kinds of strange behaviors and ideas of children in adolescence, many parents are very worried because on the one hand, they are very lack of what they are facing, and they don't know how to educate children. On the other hand, they feel that it is better to educate children to grow up and understand themselves, In addition, there are some psychological problems in the design of adolescence that will make them very embarrassed and difficult to speak, so it is simply a laissez faire state. Therefore, suggestions for this are as follows:
1. Understand and respect children
Being respected and cared for is one of the basic psychological needs of people. When a person feels understood and respected, his heart is warm, safe, relaxed, without doubt and loneliness. Therefore, "understanding and respecting children" can effectively narrow the psychological distance between you and your children and narrow the "generation gap".
2. Tell your true feelings to your children
When talking to children, parents should accurately convey their inner thoughts and wishes to children, so that children can feel the love and goodwill contained in parents' "criticism" and "education" is very important, which can reduce the resistance of children caused by parents' "inappropriate words".
3. Learn to hug and whisper
In the embrace, people can get a sense of security and trust, which is a kind of wholehearted rest. Anxiety can be relieved or pacified. People are most rational when they are calm and psychologically stable. Whispering is more convincing and moving than normal volume expression. As far as the gesture of whispering is concerned, it shows a special intimate relationship between the two people.
Therefore, in the face of children's adolescent mental health problems, parents must pay attention to that parents are the best teachers for children, which is not wrong. At the same time, we should also understand that we should not be too worried about the abnormal behavior of children who do not follow the rules in adolescence, because these are also normal psychological manifestations of children, and we should not excessively suppress their certain behavior, because they have a rebellious mentality. The more you suppress the behavior, the more opposite the effect will be, Because they often go against your direction.
