A few days ago, Wen Bixia, an old Hong Kong star, sent a video and became angry.
For three and a half minutes, she talked with everyone about her "why didn't she choose to have children".
There are three points in the content.
First of all, she talked about some experiences that everyone did not know.
For example, as the youngest in the family, she has four brothers and three sisters. The most common situation of such a large family is that older brothers and sisters are married, and they may still be children, such as Wen Bixia.
When she was very young, she witnessed the whole process of her sister's pregnancy and birth, and it happened that her sister was a kind of hard work:
During pregnancy, there was a big reaction to vomiting, abnormal fetal position and massive bleeding, decreased postpartum immunity, various hair loss, body contortions, and postpartum depression.
This frightened Wen Bixia, who loved beauty, and directly led to her later shadow: even if she liked children, she was afraid of having children.
Secondly, her present family situation.
Although they have always been "DINK" with their husband, they are also parents, because they have an adopted son, and now they are all grown up.
She talked about two points, which caused many netizens to resonate: marriage is not for the sake of inheriting the family, and women are not reproductive tools. Only two people with respect and consensus can live together for a long time; For children, raising is more important than having children.
Take her and her husband for example. After they decided not to have children, they went to the welfare home to adopt an 11 month old, sickly little guy, and then worked together seriously to accompany the children to grow up. It is gratifying that the children have learned many of their advantages, such as optimism, cheerfulness and personality, from being physically strong to becoming a mature and healthy adult after studying abroad.
Third, the secret of keeping young.
Wen Bixia didn't say this directly, but the voice over of each sentence conveyed it directly:
A person, especially a girl, should not change his mind with marriage and feelings. As long as you feel comfortable living alone, it doesn't matter if you are alone. The most important thing is that you know what kind of life you want to live and can see your heart clearly.
If you think so, you deserve that she doesn't have the wrinkles on her face~
This value also runs through her idea of raising children: the most important thing is to let children be free to be themselves, rather than forcing them to do things they don't like.
To be honest, I have a new understanding of Wen Bixia after watching this video. There are no flowery words, golden sentences and grand principles, but the eloquence makes people resonate.
Another detail is particularly touching: as an old Hong Kong star, she is too frank.
She said that she didn't have children because she had been filming and acting all the time, and it was important for her to keep her appearance, and she was exactly the kind of person who cared about her figure and appearance.
This should not be mentioned at all, because it is likely to be interpreted as selfish or superficial. But if my sister dares to say so, she doesn't care what others think.
The same is true for her dress. She always keeps her favorite girl dress, wears a white suspender dress with ponytails and false eyelashes. At 57, she looks like 37.
No matter whether the outside world has different eyes, she is always comfortable and self consistent.
Many people's impression of Wen Bixia had stayed in her role as Su Daji in the 2001 edition of "The Gods". It had been decades since then, but when they looked back, they found that there was no such thing as "overkill". As long as one kept updating himself and communicating with the outside world, she would not fall behind.
Looking back at Wen Bixia's past activities, I found that after rolling the N screen, I didn't see the end of it. My sister had been working on her own land. In her own way, she neither shouted nor depressed.
From work to home, from skin care to beauty, from health care to food, from memory killing to daily photos... As the spokesperson of Sister Freeze Age, she has been truly amazing to keep herself beautiful.
No wonder he still refuses to leave his husband He Zuguang after he has become a grandfather from his uncle. Ha ha, that sounds strange. Who can't live without whom?
First of all, He Zuguang must be inseparable from Wen Bixia, because a woman is the most attractive when she is herself; But Wen Bixia must also be inseparable from He Zuguang, who allowed herself to be rough just to be a good wife. It is rare for men to have such awareness.
In those days, Wen Bixia was afraid of getting married, but when she met her husband's family background, she was almost beaten by her husband's family. Thanks to He Zuguang's sincerity and persistence, they finally got married. Since they got married in 2000, they will be married in Sardinia in 24 years.
This marriage age really suits them. The so-called "Sardinian marriage" means that after a long time of running in, a strong feeling like kinship is formed in love.
At this age, you must encounter chicken feathers. But just sweep away quietly and find contentment in the daily necessities. Isn't it amazing to have the most real life without vigorous romance?
Speaking of Wen Bixia, I also think of Maggie Q.
Unlike Wen Bixia, who has been married for many years, the 45 year old sister is unmarried. But both of them were first known by the public because of their representative Hong Kong films; I feel that I am no longer in this circle when I am over middle age. In fact, I have never left the scene.
How popular was Maggie Q? "Naked Agent" made her famous and became "the woman that Hong Kong men want to embrace most".
Mission Impossible 3 and Nikita let her sweep Hollywood and open a beautiful legend across Asia and Europe.
The reason why these three plays are also regarded as representative works by Maggie Q herself, and still remain in the striking position of personal introduction, is also that in and out of the play, such characters as extraordinary skill, great courage, decisive action, lively and outgoing, firm and self-discipline, sexy and strong are highly coincident with her.
Maggie Q's growth story did not get a fairy tale script. Maybe the only thing that makes people envy her is that she has mixed blood from five countries.
My father is an American of French, Canadian, Polish and Irish ancestry, and my mother is a native Vietnamese.
▲ Maggie Q parents
My parents met during the Vietnam War and later settled in Honolulu, Hawaii. After marriage, five children were born one after another, Maggie Q ranked last.
Ordinarily, the youngest child is the treasure of the family, but she is the most unpopular child of her mother since she was young, because she is the bottom of her brothers and sisters in appearance and height.
▲ Maggie Q and sisters
However, Maggie Q grew up uninhibited and fearless because of this less valued growth environment.
When she graduated from high school at the age of 17, she started her own Japanese model circle.
In the colorful world, the competition among girls is very fierce. She often eats the last meal without the next one. She has to make a great decision to buy a fruit.
It is not that the hardware conditions are not good, but that Japan rejected the Eurasian race at that time and had no chance.
When she couldn't get anywhere, she changed places. Later, she went to Taiwan Province, but still couldn't find a job. Then she moved to Hong Kong.
They say that when you are poor, you will want to change. She does not guard her hometown town, but runs all the time. This is the first step of turning the fortunes. Finally, she met a noble person, Nicholas Tse.
Because her first job in Hong Kong was to shoot magazine covers with him. The female models who went there before just couldn't match because they were taller than Nicholas Tse, so she won directly because she was short.
After shooting the photo, it was released in Hong Kong and soon became famous.
In the TV series "Dragon Hall", she also guest starred Maggie, a lovely girl with high popularity,
▲ Although this play is very old, the CP in it breaks the dimension wall, and Zhang Fengyi, Xu Jinglei, and Chen Xiaochun are also in it
He was appreciated by Jackie Chan and enrolled in the special training of "Getting married class".
After learning kung fu from leg skills to boxing to swordsmanship at one go, she participated in the shooting of the first movie of her life, "Special Police New Human 2", which was more popular than the heroine. She was the first stills of the Douban movie.
As a result, it was published on the group cover of the Asian edition of Time magazine the next year.
Then, there are a series of classic female figures who are hot, provocative and decisive.
In "Naked Agent", she danced provocatively for one second, and twisted the other's spine for the next, killing herself, which is unforgiving and fascinating.
Mission Impossible 3 partnered with Tom Cruise,
She wore a high slit backless evening dress and drove a Lamborghini to the banquet to perform dangerous tasks. Her heart was turbulent but her face was calm.
Maggie Q's kung fu is not a trick. She doesn't need a double when she makes a play;
▲ Maggie Q talks about all martial arts scenes performed by himself on the program
On the set of "Die Hard and Die Hard 4", she once kicked Willis' head with too much force.
Mission Impossible 3 won three auditions, and even Michelle Yeoh said she admired her.
"Nikita" has surpassed many previous versions, creating the history of Asian actress playing the leading role in the most popular American drama series for the first time, and has launched four consecutive seasons.
However, these achievements that can make women truly stand up are not as powerful as the label "Daniel Wu's ex girlfriend".
In those years, when the two went from passionate love to breakup, Hong Kong media once described Daniel Wu as an infatuated man who "cried in his sleep when he was sad".
In contrast, Maggie Q plays the role of "traitor", which is really difficult for her.
In fact, the love affair is true or false. Who knows the whole picture? There is one thing: if you really hate and live up to it, why can the two people take over the movie "Naked Agent", which has a passionate scene, after breaking up?
Many netizens said that Azu was too deeply involved in the play and obviously still attached to it, so his wife Lisa also had the shadow of his ex girlfriend.
Maggie Q, on the other hand, can retract and release freely. Almost all her previous lovers met because of their jobs. From popular actors to comedians to top directors and businessmen, they have different looks and styles.
But for all breakups, neither side has ever reported any negative news.
When a reporter asked about her predecessor Daniel, because she had a relationship with the handsome Korean mixed race guy Daniel Henney, her expression lit up next second: "Which Daniel?"
This is not so much a master of love as a person who has never regarded love as the only thing in life, so he can enjoy love freely instead of being trapped in love in the past.
Many girls who like Maggie Q probably love her most in her heart because of her powerful life tension and self-control, as well as her handsome, cold, beautiful and intelligent face.
She is thin, sharp and has strong muscles, but unique and attractive enough to make women's "sexy" no longer empty of "vase".
In fact, her phoenix tattoo in the film Nikita was real. Because when she first came to Asia to develop, her life was very difficult. Later, when she accompanied her friends to see the physiognomy, the fortune teller said that she was a bird. The friend told her that the bird was a phoenix. Because the phoenix was reborn in the fire, she tattooed herself with a phoenix. My sister is really an unbeliever.
In recent years, like Wen Bixia, Maggie Q has continued her favorite performing career while maintaining the update rate on her social platform.
As a vegetarian and yoga lover who has persisted for 20 years, she grows vegetables
Keeping dogs
Surfing
Fitness
Yoga
Cooking
Travel
Meditation
Reading
Filming
How many people like her? Record and immerse in it is the happiest moment.
At this time last year, my sister attended the 25th Shanghai International Film Festival. What's the status like?
The natural leader among peers.
Wen Bixia and Maggie Q are totally different in appearance style, one is very tender, the other is very powerful; One keeps self in marriage, and the other shuttles freely outside marriage.
However, they are similar in one thing: they are all small people who have made their own progress in the fate of the world of mortals. They are not panicked but very committed. They all have unruly blood in their bones, assertive and tenacious about their own life.
This requires luck, but also energy. It is not necessarily a moment of explosive force, but a long-term endurance.
A person may have a mediocre or even sluggish start, but this does not prevent him from learning to play cards in the years to come. It only needs to benefit from an acquired advantage: the ability to immerse in the present.
Maggie Q said that if she meets her 18-year-old self again, she would like to say to her past:
"Relax, don't take it personally. Most things in life don't happen only to you. Everyone is just trying to do what they think is right, which will save a lot of trouble.".
In fact, this sentence is also suitable for us of any age.
Everything will happen, but everything will pass.
As a person in the world of mortals, I accept the changes brought by time and embrace the rebirth given by time.
Since everything will not be the same, why don't we welcome it with expectation?
