Love can heal people. If you meet the right person, it is redemption, healing and happiness. On the contrary, if you encounter someone unkind, it is pain and hurt.
Therefore, every woman wants to find the right person, but the man's face does not write "reliable". Who knows whether he is reliable or not?
We often say "exchanging sincerity for sincerity", but the reality is often more complicated and cruel than the ideal. Often those who give their hearts are hurt the most.
Therefore, it is very important for women to find a reliable man.
It's not difficult to judge whether a man is reliable or not. It doesn't need any tricks. The simplest way is also the most effective. That is, you can sincerely and purely pay first, and then treat yourself as a fool. After a while, do you think he bullies you like a fool? Still cherish you, you will know whether it is reliable.
01 How to be a fool
The word "silly, white and sweet", though with some derogatory meanings, can accurately describe a person's pure and undefended state.
In this state, a woman's way of dealing with feelings is simple and direct - that is to pay wholeheartedly.
As someone described, "Love as if you have never been hurt."
For example, I will teach you how to be a fool.
In Tokyo Love Story, the love between Akira and Wanji was very sad, but I don't regret it at all.
A lot of people are just named Lixiang. It's silly. She's a silly girl. Yes, but her cleverness lies in her "silly girl"!
Lixiang is a cheerful and lively girl who grew up in the United States. She is like a little sun. Contrary to the introverted and reticent Wanzhi, she never disliked the small town youth background of Wanzhi, but boldly expressed her love to him.
She was able to wait for Wanzhi in the cafe for two or three hours. When Wanzhi hurried to the cafe, she still understood that he was tolerant of him. She even knew that Wanzhi was wavering between her and Li Mei. After Li Mei and Li Mei broke up, she asked Wanzhi to comfort her because she knew that she could not put Li Mei at her heart.
She loves so openly, purely and ardently, and Wanzhi's love for her is so stingy and secretive.
But she is still always giving, always tolerant, always considerate, never blaming, and always waiting.
This is: "silly white sweet" to pay.
02 Why can we detect whether a man is reliable or not by paying "silly, white and sweet"?
Someone said: "In the real world, behind every affectionate act, there may be a betrayal."
Yes, sincere efforts do not always get the expected results. Like Akira's efforts, the final harvest is a sad.
But we still say it is very valuable.
Generally speaking, people don't cherish what they can easily get. This is human nature.
But when a man loves you, he will not cherish you, he will not be willing to let you take the initiative; When a man has excellent character, he will not always have no return to you, but always enjoy you. Of course, if he really doesn't love you, he will tell you his thoughts at the first time.
So, when you pay a man you love foolishly and sweetly, you don't have to feel that you will suffer.
Because the loss is only temporary, eventually you will detect whether he loves you and his character.
03. Pay "foolishly" and stop loss in time
Lin and Jay met at a friend's party. Jay was handsome and good at talking. Lin was very fond of Jay and said that women chase men. That's true. Soon the two decided to fall in love.
Maybe Lin has some inferiority complex in front of Jay. Maybe Lin herself is a simple girl. She really pays for Jay, without any extra ideas, just wants to be good to Jay.
Lin is the purest and purest way to give, and Jietongtong accepts it completely. After a long time, he thinks it is a matter of course.
As a result, instead of giving Lin more feedback, he made progress.
No matter how much a woman loves her brain, no matter how much she doesn't ask for return, she still hopes to be cherished and loved by her boyfriend in the deepest heart.
No matter how enthusiastic a woman is, her energy will always be exhausted. Lin's enthusiasm will soon be exhausted by Jay. Jay really regards Lin as stupid and sweet.
Although Lin's love failed in the end, she was very quick to stop losing and did not continue to consume. This was victory.
So, in fact, don't worry that "silly, white and sweet" efforts will consume too much. You can see that after many times, Lixiang will not regain her vitality after she exits the world of Wanzhi?
04 Mei Niang said
In the face of love, it is a virtue to pay sincerely, but the more important thing is to know people.
Only by giving to those who deserve it, can your efforts be meaningful and the other party cherish them.
Therefore, it is really important to find a reliable man.
For how to judge whether a man is reliable, some women like to use means and tricks, but they often lift stones to hit their feet.
It's like the most powerful martial arts and the simplest moves. It's not so complicated to judge whether a man is reliable or not. You just need to pay purely, and consider yourself as a fool. Of course, you don't always pay like this. After paying for a period of time, look at the man's response. If he is reliable, he will cherish you, love your efforts, and repay you more, Give you more love.
If a man can cherish and respect you more after you pay unreservedly, then such a man is undoubtedly trustworthy and loves you.
On the contrary, if he starts to show contempt or deception, then this is a clear signal that you should reassess the relationship.
In a word, you should control the time well and make it not too long, or your trial and error costs will be too high and the sunk costs will be too high.
