The woman was unexpectedly envied by her 61 year old mother because of her happy marriage. In order to force her daughter to divorce, she went to her unit several times to make trouble.
The woman didn't want to divorce, and her mother even forced her to die. The husband said that he blamed himself for being too handsome. If he were a little ordinary, he would not have such trouble. What the hell is going on?
The hero of the story is named Xiao Yun. According to her own description, her first half of life is like a turbid backwater, without any vitality.
Xiao Yun was born in a unhappy family. Her parents were indifferent, so she finally chose the road of divorce. As the only child, she spent her whole childhood under the shadow of this trauma.
Her father's absence made her feel insecure since childhood, and her mother Liu Zhujing also developed a serious sense of control because of her own family trauma.
Liu Zhujing regards Xiao Yun as her whole. She hopes to control everything about her daughter, from spouse selection to employment.
Under the arrangement of her mother, Xiao Yun was introduced to a man with a short temper, but she entered a painful marriage in a few years.
The husband always loses his temper for no reason. It is common for him to humiliate Xiao Yun and commit domestic violence.
When Xiao Yun cries to her mother, Liu Zhujing conversely persuades her to be tolerant and considerate of her husband. Under the influence of her mother, Xiao Yun has lived happily for more than ten years.
Until one day, her husband pulled her hair and slapped her in the street, which completely angered Xiao Yun.
Despite opposition from her mother and her ex husband, Xiao Yun still gritted her teeth to divorce and tried her best to take custody of her two daughters. Xiao Yun, 37, was reborn.
The life after divorce is not easy. Xiao Yun bears the burden of raising her two daughters and her own livelihood.
Fortunately, she was diligent and eager to learn, and soon used her savings to open a kitchen and bathroom home store. After several years of hard work, Xiao Yun finally made a start. Her business was booming and she lived a stable life.
Just when Xiao Yun thought she would spend the rest of her life in such a safe way, she met her first lover, Zhang Yun, again at a school reunion.
Two former lovers, who have both had failed marriages, found an unprecedented resonance when they confided their inner scars to each other.
Zhang Yunyingjun is handsome and considerate. Xiao Yun is fascinated by his tender consideration for women.
As a single mother, Xiao Yun was even more moved by Zhang Yun's love for her two daughters. Under the passionate pursuit, Xiao Yun finally put down her defense and agreed to marry Zhang Yun.
In this way, Xiao Yun, 39, entered the palace of marriage, opening a new chapter in her life.
Zhang Yun is considerate of Xiao Yun. They love each other and live a very happy life. The four members of the family are happy. Xiao Yun feels that she is the happiest person in the world.
Who would have thought that, at this happy moment, a dark force is slowly growing. Xiao Yun's mother, Liu Zhujing, has started a series of crazy acts aimed at destroying her daughter's new marriage.
As the son-in-law, Zhang Yun is considerate to Liu Zhujing, and has never said anything serious. As a daughter, Xiao Yun is also filial and friendly as far as possible.
However, Liu Zhujing never let up, and Xiao Yun had to divorce. In the process of the mother and daughter's sword pulling, Liu Zhujing's desire to control and monopolize was exposed.
The cause of the matter has to start from Xiao Yun's childhood, when Liu Zhujing was very strict and had a strong desire to control his daughter. Xiao Yun was taught from an early age to obey her mother unconditionally and be a good and obedient daughter.
Long term control has created Xiao Yun's docile personality, but it has also nurtured Liu Zhujing's possessiveness.
In her mind, Xiao Yun is her private property, and no one can take a little from it. When Zhang Yun appeared in Xiao Yun's life, Liu Zhujing's possessiveness was greatly threatened.
After marriage, Xiao Yun put most of her thoughts on the new family. In contrast, she paid less attention to her mother.
Liu Zhujing is very angry about this and thinks that Zhang Yun is alienating her feelings with her daughter, so Liu Zhujing starts a series of destructive acts to divorce her daughter.
On one occasion, Liu Zhujing swaggered into Xiao Yun's shop, got angry with the customers in the hall, and swore that Zhang Yun was a liar and villain.
Xiao Yun hurriedly pulls her mother aside to persuade her, but Liu Zhujing has no restraint.
Having been so humiliated by her mother, Xiao Yun almost wanted to find a hole in the ground to get in. Customers in the store scattered in a crowd, and Xiao Yun lost face completely.
Seeing that her business was about to die, she begged her mother to stop crying, but Liu Zhujing turned a deaf ear to it and made it worse.
In the next few months, Liu Zhujing often acted wildly in the store, sometimes destroying goods, sometimes driving away customers, and making a mess of Xiao Yun's business.
Unable to do anything, Xiao Yun can only beg for mercy from her mother again and again, hoping her mother can be merciful.
The most surprising thing is that Liu Zhujing made an unreasonable request: she wanted Xiao Yun and Zhang Yun to divorce and remarry her ex husband.
As we all know, the ex husband's domestic violence against Xiao Yun is normal, and Xiao Yun's divorce is to stay away from that nightmare.
However, Liu Zhujing believed that her ex husband was better for her, because Xiao Yun was a "good girl" at that time, and she was completely obedient to her mother's arrangements.
Therefore, Liu Zhu Jingning's daughter was subjected to domestic violence and suffering, and did not want to see her live a happy life.
Faced with her mother's morbid desire for monopolization, Xiao Yun almost collapsed. She begged her mother not to coerce her anymore, and she was willing to give her mother more money and accompany her mother more, just not to force her to divorce.
However, Liu Zhujing is like a sharp sword, aggressive, forcing his daughter to divorce Zhang Yun.
At the beginning, Liu Zhujing still turned a blind eye to his son-in-law, even more rampant.
There was only one obsession in her mind: Xiao Yun had to divorce, or she would not stop. In the face of her daughter's plea, she went even further, almost using all the strength of her relatives and friends.
The situation was at an impasse, and family and friends advised Xiao Yun to calm things down and divorce ended abruptly.
But Xiao Yun doesn't want to give up this hard won marriage easily. She pleads with her mother again and again for mercy and is willing to continue to fund visits as long as her mother doesn't force her to divorce.
Zhang Yun also said that he would try his best to repair the relationship with his mother-in-law, hoping to resolve the crisis.
However, Liu Zhujing's attitude is getting tougher. She not only asks her daughter to move out of Zhang Yun's house to live with her, but also forbids Zhang Yun to enter Xiao Yun's shop.
These unreasonable demands naturally made Xiao Yun unacceptable. She insisted that her marriage life would not be interfered and manipulated by anyone.
In this process, Xiao Yun realized that she must completely break away from her mother's control and live her own life according to her own wishes.
As an independent individual, she has the right to pursue her own happiness. Parents have no right to interfere and deprive their children of their autonomy.
In this process, family and friends also played a shameful role.
They are not maintaining "family harmony", but conniving at Liu Zhujing's desire for control and monopolization. It is their encouragement that makes her act more reckless.
Sadly, they seem to have forgotten that they should bless young people with happiness.
The boundaries between mother and children should have been clear, and children should not be regarded as private property. However, they have become the driving force of chaos, which has virtually exacerbated the mother daughter conflict.
In this way, a war that could have been avoided continued to escalate, and the mother daughter relationship turned better and worse, sometimes deadlocked and sometimes broke out.
The pressure of life also gradually overwhelmed Xiao Yun. Her store business plummeted and her spirit nearly collapsed.
Zhang Yun is also in great trouble because he was rejected by his mother-in-law.
He could not get along well with his wife, nor could he communicate with her family normally, which made him feel very lost and helpless. Once upon a time, he thought he had finally found the place where his heart belongs.
In these long and painful days, Zhang Yun wanted to quit more than once. He knew that his relationship with Xiao Yun was too hasty.
But whenever he thought of his wife's tortured appearance, he was determined to share weal and woe with her and not let the criticism from outside shake his belief.
In this way, the contradiction lasted for nearly a year. The two sides seemed to have fallen into an endless war, and there was no hope of reconciliation.
The rift between mother and daughter is getting deeper and deeper, and the interference of family and friends is even worse.
Finally, Xiao Yun could only seek the help of the mediator. At a TV mediation scene, the two sides quarreled in front of the national audience.
The mediator could do nothing but criticize Xiao Yun's power to be a mother, which was totally out of control.
After some verbal battles, Liu Zhujing finally revealed the real reason why she was jealous of her daughter: she was afraid of losing all her daughter's attention and love.
Liu Zhujing believes that his daughter has a happy marriage life and is destined to forget about herself.
From childhood to adulthood, Liu Zhujing regarded Xiao Yun as her property. Now seeing her daughter leaving her control, she felt an incomparable fear and anxiety.
So she would interfere with her daughter's life at all costs.
The psychologist present pointed out that Liu Zhujing obviously suffered from a serious controlling personality disorder. She could not accept her daughter's independent lifestyle and hoped that her daughter would always rely on herself and obey herself.
This morbid possessiveness has seriously affected the mother daughter relationship.
Finally, the mediator reluctantly asked the two parties to live apart and calm down for a period of time, and after Liu Zhujing cured her mental illness, he would consider the way to rebuild the mother daughter relationship.
Although Xiao Yun felt reluctant, she chose to alienate her mother temporarily for the sake of her own safety and that of her family.
As an independent adult, Xiao Yun has the right to pursue happiness, while parents have no right to interfere and deprive their children of autonomy.
Xiao Yun will no longer listen to others' arrangements. She wants to control her own life.
At the same time, she is willing to continue to support her mother's life and visit her regularly under the premise of independence.
After all, the kinship between mother and daughter is tied to the blood, and no one can cut it off. Xiao Yun does not blindly disobey her mother, but hopes her mother can let go and give her the freedom and respect she deserves.
Let's look forward to a happy ending. Let's hope Xiao Yun and her mother and daughter can resolve their differences and regain their kinship ties on the basis of mutual understanding.
I believe that as long as I have determination and confidence, I will definitely make this relationship warm again.
