In today's society, derailment seems to be the norm.
Whether they are stars or ordinary people, they can see all kinds of infidelities in the melon eating group from time to time.
However, there are various means to find evidence of the other party's infidelity.
Consumer records, chat messages, even WiFi connections and other unexpected clues.
But these are not enough to stimulate the news that broke out these days:
Watch your partner's cheating scene directly through monitoring.
Somewhere in Guangdong, a man in the video is tearing the rolling shutter door violently.
After careful inquiry, it turned out to be to catch a mistress.
The reason is that the wife was watching the store. The husband found that the wife was making out with a man during the surveillance. The relationship was very unusual.
So he rushed to the scene to find out the young man.
But before he entered the store, his wife had locked the door.
This lock made the man even more angry.
Because the mistress is still in the shop, the wife locked the door to maintain the mistress.
No matter how he communicated with his wife, she refused to open the door.
The man couldn't stand it, so he staged the opening scene.
In order to protect the man in the house, the wife pushed the man away many times.
Every time she pushed away, she pushed the man.
Judging from the wife's actions, she should no longer care about this marriage.
She was bored with her husband.
Later, two more women came and pulled the wife away.
At this time, there was already a lot of noise, and the neighborhood was full of people eating melons.
Just when the man was about to tear the door open, the wife unexpectedly rushed to the door and stayed there to prevent the man from entering.
The man was so enraged that he hit her and scolded her at the same time.
So someone called the police.
The arrival of the police calmed the farce.
The mistress in the room, both husband and wife were taken away.
When the video was posted on the Internet, netizens saw Xiao San's pants and teased him one after another: the color of the pants is the color on the husband's head.
One netizen revealed that the woman cheated on her first love.
The old love revived after the reunion.
Whatever the reason, it cannot be the reason for derailment.
A marriage, a fate.
If you don't love, you can separate a little directly.
Maybe some people think that cheating is just a small episode in life.
No matter how hard it is, it is just a topic for others to talk about after tea. After a long time, it will be forgotten.
But in fact, the cost of derailment is far greater than we imagined.
The biggest victim is the child.
This reminds me of Huang Zijiao's sexual assault case, which was once again on the hot search recently.
He once responded that the reason for his bad behavior was that his mother cheated in front of him.
It can be seen that cheating parents only consider themselves, not their children.
Some psychologists said:
"Dereliction is also a disguised abuse of the betrayed party and children."
Deeply agree.
The derailment has caused more harm to children than we think.
(1) Child precocious
There was a post on Zhihu that said, "What's the biggest harm your parents caused you when they cheated?".
One highly praised answer is: I have learned to be cautious since I was a child.
The netizen said that she caught her mother cheating.
Every time my mother and father quarreled, they would say, "If I were a child, I would have left you".
This made her feel that she was the problem.
If I were more sensible, would it not happen.
So when she was young, she tried to please her parents and do everything good for her children.
But despite all this, her parents still divorced, she was unhappy, and lost her childhood.
(2) Children don't believe in marriage
A writer once shared his native family:
The father cheated in marriage, forcing his mother to divorce, and the junior entered the room.
In short, the divorce scene was ugly.
The writer can't understand why his father chose to cheat and why he had no responsibility for his family.
She said: "The unfaithful father made me realize that my trust in men and human nature has completely collapsed."
(3) The child can't reconcile with himself
I read a letter written by a child to his cheating father on the Internet before, and I really love this child after reading it.
The letter mentioned such sentences as "Don't you want us?" and "Did we do something wrong?" The logic behind it is the child's self doubt.
"It's because I don't deserve to be loved by my parents that they choose to cheat and treat another person well."
"It was my presence that caused problems for my parents"
And so on.
Once the depression accumulates too much and cannot be released, children will easily do extreme things.
While children love their parents, they will also hate why they bring such a family to themselves.
All his life, he was in a mixed mood of love and hate, unable to reconcile with himself and his parents.
One derailment will not only hurt once.
For children, that is the pain point that affects their whole life.
Write to the end:
When betrayal occurs, we can choose to divorce or repair the relationship.
This is everyone's freedom, without considering the views of others.
However, no matter which option you choose, you need to pay great courage and a long price.
So don't cheat easily.
Especially if you have children, as parents, you should be cautious.
For a child, family is his whole world.
Parents are the first people to contact in a child's life;
The first to imitate is parents;
Those who can trust wholeheartedly are also parents.
It can be seen that parents' feelings and marital status are actually like a template for children.
If parents are like this, children will be like this.
So don't let your evil desires and uncontrollable, and let your child become a person who is afraid of marriage and love and self doubt.
Tu Lei once said, "Don't gamble your desire on the happiness of your child's life."
This sentence is intended for all parents.
