A 65 year old living alone aunt in Shanghai spent millions of dollars a year online shopping, but the express didn't even open one. What's the matter?
today, #Retired aunts in Shanghai buy more than one million online in a year# The topic of "hot search" also caused hot discussion among netizens.
The express delivery at my aunt's home is piled up like a mountain
A year ago, a 65 year old living alone aunt in Shanghai moved from the urban area to Jiading Rongqiaoxingyu Community.
This year, aunts like to buy things in boxes, Online shopping expenses have exceeded 1 million yuan, There are even some valuable luxuries, including gold jewelry, collectibles, health care products, etc., which are not necessities of life. Because of the crazy online shopping every day, the express delivery at home is piled up like a mountain, And they are not dismantled.
The house is full of express delivery, and some fresh food has long been rotten and smelly. Even when I sleep at night, I just lie on the express box and squint for a while, and I can only drink porridge every day.
It is understood that, The aunt's daughter settled abroad, and there was no communication between relatives.
Neighbors are worried not only about the physical and mental state of the elderly, but also about their potential fire safety hazards. The property has visited the elderly many times to communicate with them, hoping to clean up the express. However, my aunt did not cooperate, and these express deliveries are my aunt's personal property, and the property has no right to dispose without authorization.
Community volunteers come to organize
Living conditions have improved
Volunteers are cleaning up
Previously, the community has recruited people to help the elderly split express delivery, including many enthusiastic neighbors. A total of about 36 people came to the door to do express sorting for the aunt.
We first dealt with perishable food. "The water on the express box drips down, and when the express box was opened, many cockroaches climbed out." Qiu Yingfang, the head of the community preparation team, said that all 120 sorting boxes were used up, and only one third of the sorting tasks were completed because my aunt had too many express deliveries.
Now, all the doors of the lonely aunt's house can be opened, The express that was originally stacked to the ceiling has been neatly classified and placed on both sides of the house, A passage has been sorted out, and the ventilation has improved greatly. The corridor outside is much cleaner, and the smell has greatly improved.
The local staff said that because they bought too much, At present, my aunt has only a few hundred yuan left, The staff member Zeng Weiwan said that he could help him sell on the second-hand trading platform, but his aunt's willingness was not high.
Expert: "Crazy shopping" Or out of a lack of emotion
Need family care
Express is sorted and summarized
After communication, I found that my aunt was also a person who loved life and had a positive and colorful time. When I was young, I was admitted to the night school diploma of nursing major of a medical university, and the certificate of broadcasting and hosting major.
Aunt said that before moving to Jiading, she was a dance lover in a community in Xuhui District. The reason why she likes watching live broadcast and crazy online shopping, It is because the former focus of life was on raising daughters and running a family. After divorce, I moved here and formed the habit of killing time.
In this regard, according to the analysis of psychological experts, aunts may suffer from "hoarding obstacles", Her "crazy shopping" behavior Perhaps it is due to the lack of emotion.
"No matter how many express boxes are piled up, they can always be cleaned up with a little time and effort, but the complex emotions and psychological obstacles in the aunt's heart are difficult to be cured in a short time," said Qiu Yingfang.
At present, the community is trying to contact her daughter. Social workers have been coming to communicate and pay attention to her, hoping that she can open her heart, go out of the home, come to the community, and participate in social activities with other aunts.
This time, my aunt agreed to let volunteers from the community come to the site to split up and sort out the express delivery, which was actually a big step forward.
Some netizens think the old man is too lonely
Some netizens think it is a psychological disease and needs treatment
There are also suggestions from netizens that old people should learn to enjoy solitude
The society should also give more help to the elderly
Some netizens also proposed to accompany the elderly
With the efforts of the community, my aunt's locked heart gave a glimmer of light. I hope she can regain her love for life.
How to help the elderly living alone around
Do you have any good suggestions?
Extended Reading
After remarriage, Shanghai's 60 year old aunt wants to drive away her 87 year old mother: let the state solve the problem of housing
It is said that the family has no overnight feud, but Ms. Zhu, who lives in Pudong, Shanghai, has filed a complaint His 87 year old mother, Mrs. Chen He sued the court, She also asked her mother to move out of her home.
Old Mrs. Chen lives in a three bedroom room of 115 square meters with her granddaughter Xiaoya, her daughter Zhu, and her remarried husband Mr. Wang, In this house, there is only Ms. Zhu's name.
The family used to live well, but Ms. Zhu, 59, felt that she The retirement salary of 2000 yuan per month is too low. I want to sell my present house to replace a small house, And use price difference to improve life. But as a result, mother has no place to live.
Old Madam Chen used to be a marine engineer, with a monthly pension of 6000 yuan, so She suggested that she could subsidize 1500 yuan per month, and her daughter Xiaoya also suggested that she could subsidize 3000 yuan per month, but Ms. Zhu still insisted on selling the house.
Mrs. Zhu's mother, Mrs. Chen, was a marine engineer
Why Miss Zhu
Insist on selling the house?
Old Madam Chen said that her daughter insisted on selling the house because her son-in-law instigated her. Xiaoya also said that her mother's remarried partner had mentioned that she would sell the house she now lives in and divorce if she did not sell it.
Ms. Zhu's daughter said that her mother's remarried partner mentioned selling her house
although Old Madam Chen thinks her daughter is obsessed and her son-in-law has impure motives. But in Ms. Zhu's eyes, Mr. Wang, the current husband, has knowledge and experience after being a martyr. "The two of us are a combination of souls. It's easy to talk about him. He is like my father and elder brother. He is knowledgeable. I listen to his stories every day. The people in their circle are different from us, and their realm is different."
Ms. Zhu said she had a good relationship with her remarried husband
And Ms. Zhu also insisted that the lawsuit was Because I can't stand living with my mother, And she wants to separate her daughter Xiaoya from Old Lady Chen. Ms. Zhu explained that her daughter, who is 30 years old this year, still lives in the same room with her grandmother. She has not fallen in love or lived a normal life.
Ms. Zhu said her mother was too much
Daughter: Mother has no place to live for the country to solve
In Ms. Zhu's opinion, this house was purchased by her in 2000. As the sole owner, she enjoys the property right of the house. But Mrs. Chen proposed in the court, Case involved Although the house only contains the name of her daughter, she paid for it when she bought it and should have the right to live. But Ms. Zhu denied this.
So, who bought this house? It starts more than thirty years ago.
In 1988, Ms. Zhu went to Japan to study and get married, and gave birth to her daughter Xiaoya with her ex husband in 1993. When Xiaoya was 7 months old, Ms. Zhu sent her back to Shanghai and gave her to Old Lady Chen to take care of her. Because the old house was in disrepair for a long time and the exterior wall leaked, in 2000, Old Lady Chen asked her daughter to return home and buy a new apartment in the next building to live with her husband and granddaughter. In 2001, Old Madam Chen sold her old house and sent 250000 yuan to her daughter.
So, does 250000 yuan count as the house purchase fund offered by Mrs. Chen? The court held that, because of the long time, it is difficult to determine the investment situation, and this is not the focus of the dispute in this case. The key to the case still depends on whether the elderly have other places suitable for enjoying their old age.
In response, Ms. Zhu said that her mother Old Mrs. Chen and her eldest son have a common house, Now there are three people in my brother's family. However, the court learned that the house The use area is only about 20 square meters, and Mr. Zhu, his wife and son are already living in a tight corner.
However, Ms. Zhu believes that her brother should support her mother. Even if the living conditions are limited, it is not a problem. Even if my brother's family can't live, the country can arrange it.
Ms. Zhu said that her mother's residence could be arranged by the country
Court: violating public order and good customs
Reject request
After hearing, the court held that Ms. Zhu agreed with her mother to move in when she needed her mother's help to care for her daughter, and now she wants to replace the house, In the absence of proper arrangements for the mother's residence, asking her to move out violates the statutory maintenance obligations, and also violates public order and good customs.
The judge said that Ms. Zhu had never considered where her mother should live after she moved out of the house before she filed the lawsuit, Although Ms. Zhu is the property owner of the house legally, she cannot expel her mother without any feasible resettlement plan.
Finally, the First Intermediate People's Court of Shanghai made a judgment, Reject Ms. Zhu's claim to move her mother out of the house.
At this point, in the face of the verdict, Ms. Zhu not only had no heart of repentance, but also thought about what she would do if she divorced her husband. In response, the judge angrily denounced: "Do you only think about yourself? First arrange your 80 year old mother's life, then arrange your own. Your mother has paid more for your daughter than you did for her."
At present, the court recommended that Ms. Zhu further negotiate with her brother to properly solve the mother's residence problem.
