Kantianxia Lab told a story, giving a bowl of cold water to many parents who are going to send their children to study abroad.
Alex studied in high school, university and graduate school in the United States, and spent about 5 million yuan in 10 years. She majored in architecture as an undergraduate, and studied in Rhode Island School of Design, the world's top design school, as a master. After returning to China, he worked as an engineer in a state-owned enterprise. The monthly salary after tax was only 6000 or 7000 yuan, plus the year-end bonus, to reach the average salary level in Shanghai.
According to the survey data of overseas students on relevant platforms, among the various pressures faced by overseas students returning home, "more and more domestic excellent talents, limited jobs and fierce employment competition" accounted for the highest proportion, 91.85%; "It costs a lot to study abroad, and it is difficult to pay back the cost because of the fear that the salary will not meet the expectations" followed closely, with 39.86%.
So, dear parents, will you send your children to study abroad?
Here are some questions for parents to think about: Do parents have ten million yuan in their pockets? What is the purpose of sending children to study abroad? Where will children develop after graduation?
If you are a millionaire and just can't bear to see your child's poor performance in domestic high schools, you just want to send your child abroad to broaden their horizons and cultivate their independence, inherit your billions of assets after graduation and return home, or you leave a place for your child, then don't think about it, send it right away.
Most of them are "pseudo middle class" like you and me. They live on wages without the support of family forces. I really need to think about it. My advice is, don't go. The cost performance ratio is too low. Spending so much money, instead of going back to work, it's better to hire a few high-quality tutors to improve the children's scores and get admitted to a famous school, which is no worse than studying abroad. No one has said that the current study abroad degree is not gold plating, but film.
Parents also need to think about the second key question, whether children have strong adaptability and social skills.
Seriously, studying abroad is a great challenge for children. Due to the different cultural backgrounds, values and customs of the destination countries, it will be very painful for the children who cannot adapt to it. If they live in a small circle and "cocoon room", they will have psychological problems if they cannot integrate into the local.
If children can quickly integrate into the local community and adapt to it, they will experience another psychological pain period when they return home after graduation.
These repeated psychological pains may not be apparent on the surface, but will subconsciously affect children's work and life.
Parents also need to think about the third question, whether the parents have any assistance plan for the children's career planning after graduation.
If the children get along well in the destination country, integrate quickly, and obtain local offers through their own social activities and academic level, it will be a happy thing for us and other pseudo middle class families.
A few of the children who returned home took the initiative to return home, because their families had the support of family forces, and they had already had follow-up arrangements, or inherited the family business, or entered the "turnip post" that parents looked for.
Most of them return to China passively, or cannot find an offer in the destination country, or simply cannot graduate. They only return to work with domestic college students passively. Children can't roll over their classmates in the country where they study, and it is difficult for them to roll over their former domestic classmates when they return home.
For example, when Alex found his monthly salary of 7000, his parents probably helped him.
Therefore, whether to send children to study abroad is not only an examination of children's learning ability, social skills, but also an examination of parents' ability. It is wrong to assume that parents can lie down and wait for huge profits as long as they save money to send their children to study abroad.
The final conclusion is that you and I, the pseudo middle-class families with no connections, should give up the idea of sending their children to study abroad, do you think?
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