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Head Education Blogger Collapse of human facilities
Some time ago, there was a head education blogger on the Internet Advocating "elite education" became popular.
She publicized her by shooting a large number of videos of rich families, visiting famous schools, sending children to noble schools, etc The concept of "elite education" 。
But after many people bought her high priced online courses of "elite education", they found that not only the course content was out of stock, but also she Publicized The essence of elite education is money education.
To put it simply, it is to spend money to let children go to noble schools, link the rich circle, and lead an ideal life.
But is money education really elite education?
Spend money desperately to raise children, let children enter famous schools, squeeze into the "rich circle", really can Is it possible to cultivate elites who can adapt to the future society?
Not necessarily.
In today's society, elite education is expected. Parents hope their children can receive the best education and become the best in society.
However, the traditional elite education often falls into a misunderstanding, which is Excessive pursuit of academic achievements and external performance , but Neglected the construction of children's psychological level 。
Tear apart the fraud of elite education
Yale University professor William Dracevich once reflected that the students of my famous university are just a group of "Excellent sheep".
They are diligent and eager to learn, with excellent results, but lack independent thinking and innovation ability, and will only move forward on a fixed track.
Their life seems to be preset Advanced Configuration ， Just follow the established route You don't need to think too much about your interests and future.
It sounds perfect, but there is something behind it Huge risks.
Once the "superior setting" is off track, they can easily Loss of ability to solve problems.
There is a girl from a Vietnamese Chinese family. Her parents took her to Canada with decades of hard work.
They pinned all their wishes on their daughter, I hope she will redouble her efforts to become the elite of the mainstream society.
They are very Willing to spend money.
When the girl was in primary school, she practiced skating until ten o'clock every day, and when she got home, she also practiced piano.
As for her parents, they monitored all her spare time from childhood and devoted themselves to her Cultivate on the way of "elite".
The girl is also very ambitious, and has gained a lot of trophies and certificates since childhood, becoming the capital for parents to show off in front of relatives and friends.
From high school, girls are no longer top in their studies and interests.
She became very afraid of failure and of letting her parents down.
therefore, She began to use one lie after another To meet the image of a perfect daughter in parents' minds.
She faked her transcripts, forged the news of being admitted to the school, forged her study notes, and cheated her parents again and again.
The chain of lies grows longer and longer, and finally becomes unbearable.
She lied that she needed to move because of her study, but actually she moved in with her boyfriend.
She also lied that she would graduate soon and would go to the hospital for internship.
It was her father's biggest dream to let her become a doctor, but in fact, she had been expelled by the school long ago.
In the end, the paper can't stop fire. When parents know the truth, The girl was put under house arrest in anger.
Finally, in order to resist the oppression of parents, the girl and her boyfriend, Planned a "murder of both parents".
The mother died on the spot and the father was shot in the face and lost consciousness.
The girl was sentenced to life imprisonment.
The whole family fell into the abyss of eternal damnation.
Although this is only an extreme case, it warns many parents:
those Oppressed by "elite education" My child, Suffered too much psychological pressure.
This long-term pressure load can easily lead to psychological problems for children.
When they Inward attack It often leads to internal friction, depression and other tendencies.
When they Outward attack Even harm their parents.
In line with the original intention of "elite education", I hoped to cultivate an outstanding youth, but in the end, I cultivated a "depression", even a "murderer".
What is the real elite education?
After putting aside the stereotype of spending money to raise children, I found that:
Real elite education In fact, it is a kind of Based on the nature and advantages of children.
In this process, the most important role of parents is Be a child To discover and amplify children's unique advantages.
"Silicon Valley Godmother" Izel Worthy It gives us the best enlightenment.
This legendary woman enjoys a high reputation in the technological circle of Silicon Valley.
Not only because she is an outstanding entrepreneur, but also because She has brought up three outstanding daughters.
One Mother of Google.
One Professors from famous universities.
And one more, The female version of Jobs.
In the process of raising children, Izel never pursues a standardized "elite model", but Look for their talents and enthusiasm from each child.
Eldest daughter With a strong interest in art, Izel encouraged her to create freely and pursue her dreams without restrictions.
In the end, her daughter counterattacked all the way to become "Mother of Google", the most powerful woman in the world 。
Second daughter She is outstanding in mathematics and science, and Izel supports her to study deeply and participate in various scientific and technological competitions.
She later became a medical student at the University of California, San Francisco Anthropologists and epidemiologists And has made great contributions to the health of African children.
and The youngest daughter He was obsessed with the word DNA when he was young. After graduating from the Biology Department of Yale University Major breakthroughs have been made in the field of personal gene testing.
Real elite education is not a one size fits all model of spending money,
It is based on the child's personality and interests, Tailored educational programs.
She respects each child's choice and encourages them to exert their maximum potential in their own fields of expertise.
It is this respect and understanding that enabled Iser's three daughters to make extraordinary achievements in their respective fields.
Such elite education can also be achieved by ordinary families.
There is a saying that raising children is not carpentry work, but vowing to carve children in a clear way.
contrary, Being a parent is like planting flowers in the yard , provide a nutritious, safe and stable environment, let all kinds of flowers bloom their unique fragrance.
Carefully observe and discover the uniqueness of children, and provide them with sufficient support and guidance.
Let children continue to cultivate in their own fields, and stimulate their self-confidence and sense of achievement.
Let every child have a dream , taking dreams as horses, thus developed Love of life and sound personality 。
such Driving force from inside out Perhaps it is the core of "elite education".
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Problems such as school weariness, depression and addiction to mobile phones occur,
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