Aunt Wang, 60 years old, and Uncle Zhang, 66 years old, got married. The two people who were expected to be together began to have a difficult time in less than a week. Uncle Zhang even said he wanted to break up.
Why did the two old people who live together break up when they first got together? Let's walk into Uncle Zhang's life and listen to him.
From Uncle Zhang, 66
My name is Zhang Yongquan, 66 years old. I am a retired middle school teacher. I have been living alone for six years since my spouse died. Although I have introduced several blind dates in recent years, they are all not right. Some people say that I am honest and upright, and I can't make do even with my partner. Everyone says that is not the case.
No one knows the depression and boredom of single men. There is no smoke in a cold home. Eating is just to fill the stomach, and they live a bleak life day by day. Although the joy of Spring Festival can temporarily forget loneliness, the coldness after the festival is even more frustrating.
When my wife was alive, although she was half paralyzed in bed and waited on her day and night, there was another person who made me busy. When I was gone, I was left alone as a companion and lived a leisurely life.
After his wife died, he also introduced a blind date to her. It's not how good my vision is or how demanding I am. It's that I don't have the slightest common language. My partners don't talk about feelings, but at least they must have the same interests. Let's talk together.
When we meet, we talk about money. Some even bargain. This is not a blind date. We can't make partners into a business transaction. This is too outrageous. I can't accept it.
After several introductions, they failed. Relatives and friends gradually stopped talking about this matter. There is no less gossip behind it, and there is no need to explain too much, because life is for you.
In any case, my view is to come when it is appropriate. If it is not appropriate, no one will be affected. Everything can be made do, but it is absolutely impossible to live together.
The two people who disagree with each other will break up sooner or later if they come together. They can't keep going back and forth. They won't let people stab the backbone in the back!
This time, I finally met a blind date who was more in line with my three outlooks. Her name is Wang Junrong. She is 60 years old. She is also a retired teacher like me. She also likes reading books and visiting some places of interest. Our common interests have made us have more common language.
We are both daughters, who have no burden in life. She also has independent housing, and the requirements are not high. I just need to bear the living expenses, which I am very satisfied with.
In the days of getting along, I feel refreshed and full of hope for my future life. I look forward to being together as soon as possible.
Junrong seems to be hanging my appetite. He always says that we should get along more and get used to it for a while. Elderly people can move to the same house with their partners. It's like young people talking about love. Anyway, I will urge her every few days.
At the beginning, I thought it was necessary to get the certificate, which made people feel secure. But Junrong didn't agree to get the certificate at all, mainly because of the interference of her children and her deep-rooted old ideas.
It's OK to get together. It's easy as long as we can live together. After more than half a year of marathon, Junrong finally determined the date of getting together. Unexpectedly, she put forward new conditions.
The family and friends of the two families should also be gathered together for a ceremony when they live together. The younger generation of her family should give a gift for meeting, and the red envelope should not be less than 500.
The bed at home needs to buy a new solid wood bed, the old furniture and household appliances need to be replaced, even the curtains need to be replaced, leaving the requirement to renovate my home.
I had to wear two suits of clothes in spring, summer, autumn and winter. I thought these were the conditions and requirements, but Junrong said: Lao Zhang, I won't ask you for a penny of pocket money after the company, but you must deposit 80000 yuan for me before the company, which reassures me.
At this juncture, I have to agree even if I don't want to. Who asked me to tell the story of her company? I couldn't hold my head in the community after I failed.
After meeting all the conditions of Junrong, I finally got together as my desired partner. After a busy day of washing, it's time to have an early rest.
"Lao Zhang, I'm a little tired. You should have a rest earlier", After saying that Junrong went into the second bedroom, what do you mean? Different beds on the same day? Maybe I was really tired after a busy day, so I let Junrong have a good sleep on the second bed, so I won't disturb her tonight.
Although he said this, his heart was not the same. He woke up several times in the middle of the night and got up early the next morning to prepare breakfast. Junrong was happy to clean up his dishes. More or less, he felt relieved. After all, he felt at home.
It's time to live in the same room tonight. I came in early to wait for Junrong after I finished washing up. But I didn't see her come in. She had lived alone again.
This made me feel bad. I pushed the door angrily and was about to enter. Unexpectedly, the door was locked. I heard Junrong say: Lao Zhang, what's the matter tomorrow? I'm a little tired and need to rest early
It's not good to knock hard at the door in the middle of the night. It's even more inappropriate to argue with her. Then wait until tomorrow to have a good theory with her about it. They have walked together, but they have to live separately. What does that mean?
It was not easy to stay up until dawn. When I had breakfast, I was very unhappy. Before the meal was finished, I directly asked Junrong why he separated when he was just a partner.
Unexpectedly, Junrong said: At this age, there is no need to be as sentimental as young people. Isn't this a normal partner.
Is that normal? Whether she is crazy or I am stupid, I am angry immediately: If you think like this, return the money to me. What I need is a wife who can live a normal life.
"Lao Zhang, are you still paying attention to this at this age? If you really want to break up, you can consider it clearly. Since you have this idea, I will go back to my own home first, and you can tell me when you decide"
With that, Junrong went into the hut to collect his things. He left without washing his dishes and chopsticks.
I haven't been in the mood to eat all day. My mind is full of things. To be honest, I don't want to break up. But in the face of the current situation, I'm really in a dilemma.
She didn't want to live as long as she stayed together. It cost a lot of money to buy furniture and home appliances. If she gave her 80000 yuan, she might not be able to get back.
What should I do? Friends give advice, how should I deal with such a situation?
