As the saying goes, "After the 15th month, there is little light, and when you are middle-aged, everything will stop."
After the moon has passed fifteen, the brightness will gradually decrease. When people reach middle age, life will become embarrassed. The difficulty of life will increase with age.
The biggest tragedy of middle-aged people is that after the age of 40, they encountered the following five dilemmas.
Dilemma 1: middle-aged unemployed, unable to find a home.
As we all know, this is an era when the whole people are involved. Not only the young but also the middle-aged and the elderly need to be involved. The involution of middle-aged people will be more serious.
Young people are OK. They can still find jobs with their young advantages. Middle aged people are different. Once they are dismissed, it is more difficult to find a good home.
There is an unspoken rule in the workplace - layoffs at the age of 35. All employees under the age of 30 will be recruited, while those over 35 will be eliminated for layoffs. As a result, middle-aged people are in an awkward situation.
At the time when money was most needed, I couldn't earn any money, so I had to do odd jobs, or deliver express delivery, take out delivery, or open an online car hailing. As long as the accumulation of assets is insufficient, there is no other choice.
Is there really no way to solve middle-aged unemployment? For individuals, there are three ways out. First, before the age of 40, wealth is free; Second, start your own business and choose to go it alone; Third, when you are young, you enter the headcount.
Dilemma 2: no deposit, lack of risk resistance ability.
Money may not solve 100% of the problems, but it must solve 99% of the problems. Money may not be successful, but without money it is absolutely impossible to move.
I earned 6000 yuan as a part-time worker, which is just the income on the book. After deducting the cost of food, clothing, housing, education and medical care, how much money can you finally "save" before truly belonging to yourself.
Deposit, for ordinary people, is a life saver. The more the better, but not without it. Once there is a lack of savings, if there is an accident in the family, the problem will be more serious.
Middle aged wage earners, do you have any savings? None for the most part. There is an old man and a young man. There are two couples in the middle who want to live. How can they have any extra money? They are good without moonlight.
If you can, try to save some money for yourself and your family. How others overdraw is someone else's business. How to save money is your choice.
Dilemma 3: health crisis, frequent physical problems.
In the inner environment, there is actually a pair of contradictions: the harder you work, the more the salary you earn, or gradually decreases, and the more physical problems you have.
The essence of the volume is that one person is now allowed to do the work of three people before, but the salary has not changed much. But because there are too many people looking for jobs, you don't do it, and there are many people doing it, which will lead to the salary standing still or gradually decreasing.
As long as you have been a small boss, you will know that if there is no employee, you can only increase the basic salary. However, if there are a large number of employees on board, they will be able to reduce the wage level and gain the advantage of low labor costs.
Nowadays, there are too many middle-aged people who can't find their next home. As long as they enter a certain position, they will work hard. The salary will remain unchanged for ten thousand years. It is doomed that the money they earn by working overtime is not enough for medical expenses.
The more in the age of involution, the more middle-aged people cannot overdraw their bodies. As long as you don't overdraw, you can save a lot of money. With health, there will be a good future.
Dilemma 4: Family conflicts, relationship is no longer harmonious.
Middle age crisis is not only a crisis of money and materials, but also a crisis of emotional relations. The most typical example is the family conflict in middle age.
First of all, the marital conflicts between middle-aged couples. After being together for many years, both husband and wife will feel tired. You don't like me and I don't like you. The frequency of quarrels will become more and more.
Secondly, there is the contradiction between the elderly and middle-aged people. The elderly need to provide for the elderly, and the middle-aged need to support their families. There is no extra money, nor the same interests. Both sides will complain about each other.
Third, the contradiction between parents and children. As children grow up, with their ideas and assertions, they will have a certain "estrangement" from their middle-aged parents.
As the saying goes, "It rains at night when the house leaks, and the boat is broken." I thought it would be better if I could not make money outside, but I didn't expect that there were many contradictions within the family, which upset countless middle-aged people.
Dilemma 5: At first sight, the mind becomes numb.
The middle-aged people have gone to two extremes. At one extreme, rich and powerful middle-aged people still want to climb to a higher position and have a strong desire for power.
At the other end of the spectrum, middle-aged people who have no money or power and are in the working class have become numb when they see their heads at a glance.
Why do ordinary people see their heads at a glance? Because the life of ordinary people is fixed: study - work - loan to buy a house - get married and have children - unemployment - odd jobs - pension.
If we do not change, we will live according to this standardized track and move towards the end of life with time. If you want to change the way of life, you need to have great understanding and courage.
In middle age, if you don't want to live numbly, I advise you to live in a different way. What kind of life is suitable for you, everyone has an answer in their heart.
Wen/Shushan Youlu
