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My name is Song Qinge. I'm 57 years old and have only one son. Now I live alone.
When I was young, I asked for a divorce because of my ex husband's domestic violence, and the child belonged to me.
After divorce, because the ex husband's income is not high, the alimony is paid day by day.
In order to prevent the children from being wronged, I have almost done anything that can earn money. Because of the pressure and hard work day after day, before I was 50 years old, I had white hair.
I felt very gratified when my son finally got through college.
When his son was in college, he talked about a girlfriend named Zixuan. The conditions of Zixuan's family are better than ours. Her mother is in business and her father is in a public institution.
Less than a year after graduation, my son said he would marry Zixuan. I advised my son that it is not too late for you to exercise in the society and get married.
My son didn't listen to a word of my words. He insisted on marrying Zixuan, and said that if I didn't agree, he would move directly to their home.
If you want to get married, you have to buy a house.
I took out all my savings, sold my house and bought a second-hand house of 60 square meters for my son. The house writes the son's name.
Everyone said I was too stupid to leave a way out. But without a son, can I survive these years?
My son took my hand and cried, saying that he would work hard in the future and would not let me suffer a little more.
I clapped my son's hand and felt very satisfied. I felt that my heart had not been let down.
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But I don't want Zixuan's parents to be very unhappy when they see our new house. In particular, Zixuan's mother said with her mouth curled, "This house is too small. If they have children in the future, they can't live together.".
My in law mother said this in front of me, which made me feel uncomfortable.
Maybe seeing my face, Zixuan's father said, "Otherwise, we can sell this house, and we can add some money to replace it with one hundred square meters.".
Before I could make a statement, my son said quickly: Dad's proposal is good, let's do it like this.
In front of the woman's parents, I can't refute my son's face.
My son later told me that we were all cost-effective. Besides, our house is really small, and what Zixuan's mother said is reasonable.
Seeing that my son has made up his mind, I have to agree to sell the house. Fortunately, our house is small and the location is OK. We will sell it soon.
After Zixuan's parents finalized the new house, it was soon settled.
But later I found that the property certificate of the new house only had Zixuan's parents' names. I asked my son what was going on?
The son said with a dry smile: After all, people pay so much money, and it is also proper to write their names.
Don't make trouble with others. They are much better than us.
After saying that, my son comforted me and said, "Don't worry, you must be a part of the new house in the future. You are my mother. Can I still marry my wife and forget my mother?"?
So far, I think it's superfluous to say anything.
But my heart is still not secure.
After all, I have sold my old house and added all my savings before I bought the house. Now that the house is gone, I have nothing to do with the new house I bought again.
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Soon after buying the house, Zixuan's family put the wedding on the agenda.
Buying a house has emptied my savings before. Now I need money for weddings, diamond rings and three gold coins. I really can't afford to pay any more.
I said: My son has been working for nearly a year, and he has saved some money, right?
Don't you know my little money? It's only a few thousand yuan every month. In addition, we were rejected by her parents because of the wedding room. If we can't bring out a decent wedding ring now, I will definitely be looked down upon by them.
My son held out his hand to me, and then said: Mom, you can help me again. Don't I have to pay you homage in the future?
In order to make my son's wedding respectable, I borrowed all my relatives and friends, and finally borrowed nearly 100000 yuan. Zixuan's parents proposed that they buy furniture and electrical appliances. With the borrowed money, I bought a diamond ring for Zixuan and booked a hotel.
The wedding was a great success. But I was worried that my son could not pay back so much money, so I decided to continue to go out to work. Because I was old, many units did not want me, and finally found a job as a community cleaner.
He is responsible for cleaning five buildings every day, including four units in one building and 15 floors in one unit. People come to inspect the work after work every day.
At the end of the day, I really didn't have the strength to speak.
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When my son got married, he took me to live with them.
After retirement, the in laws said that it was boring to stay at home alone. Sometimes they were accompanied by their in laws mother, and they also came to stay for a few days.
There are many people living here, but what I can't stand is that I do all the things at home, including cooking, cleaning up the housework, and even going downstairs to throw garbage.
My in laws like to eat my fried pickles and meat. My son asked me to pickle pickles when I was free, but no matter how much I pickled, I couldn't catch up with them.
My son and I complained that I was very tired every day when I went to work. When I came back to do these things, my body was a bit unbearable.
The son smiled and said, Mom, we had no money at all, but now we only have something to offer. You can stick to it.
Maybe I showed some emotions at ordinary times. My in law couple gradually became less, and Zixuan said less to me.
Fortunately, I still have a job now. As long as I go out every day, these troubles can be put aside for the time being.
I don't know from which day on, I always have a stomachache. I can't tell where the pain is. The pain is not very strong, but it is always painful. I thought it was because I was sulking, so I didn't notice.
That day I went out to work. I had just walked out of the office and found that I had forgotten my mobile phone. When I got home, my son and daughter-in-law had not gone out.
Through the door, I heard Zixuan say: "Otherwise, let your mother go to the hospital to have a look. My mother said that her face looks scary, and she should not have any infectious disease.".
My mother, you don't know, she is not willing to go to the hospital.
Then take it with you. Let my father find a relationship to see an expert. If you find a problem early, you can also get early treatment.
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I don't have time. Besides, I don't need to bother my father. My mother is very strong. It's really no good. I'll let my mother move out so as not to infect you.
That's what you said. I didn't say that your mother should move out.
Yes, that's what I said. As long as I can make my wife happy, I can do anything
But this is just about us. My father hates people who are not filial to their parents. Don't let my father hear it.
Before they finished, I quietly took out my mobile phone.
Along the way, anger, disappointment, sadness, all kinds of emotions intertwined to let me see what is fuzzy.
I don't know if it is due to my mood. I had a terrible stomachache when I went to work that day. I held the emergency exit door of the stairwell and couldn't stand up for a long time. Beany sweat directly dropped to the ground.
The colleague who handed over the shift saw me and rushed me to the hospital.
After a series of examinations, the doctor directly arranged an operation for me. Only then did I know that I had gallstones and bile reflux, which made my face look particularly yellow.
Fortunately, the situation was not very serious. One week after the operation, I left the hospital with a drainage bag hanging.
Since I was always accompanied by a nurse and a friend, I didn't notice my son after leaving the hospital, so I went to live in the house that my friend rented for me.
It was some time before my son called me to ask me how I was and when I could go home.
I said I would not go back. I had rented a house outside.
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The son first begged, then he started yelling at me directly: How can I behave in front of Zixuan's parents when you move out so inexplicably? Why are you so selfish that you don't think about me at all?
Even if I don't have money and ability, I still have to drag my feet like this. With a mother like you, I've been unlucky for eight generations!
Did I raise you or was it my fault? Listening to my son's words, I could hardly cry.
You think you are right, but incompetence is your fault, and not thinking about your children is your fault.
I won't talk so much with you now. I'll tell Zixuan's father that you haven't been discharged yet. It's easy to say anything if you move back as soon as possible. If you have to make it difficult for me to do it, I will not provide for you in the future.
That's all right. If I used to hold you back, then work hard on your own and I will take care of myself.
After saying that, I hung up before my son responded.
In fact, through these days, I have lived alone in a rented house. I have gradually found that what sustains me is not all the expectations for my son.
I believe that no matter what happens now or in the future, I will always have a way to solve it. If nothing else, don't I still have a job? Plus my retirement salary, it is more than enough to support myself.
As for my son, I don't want to cooperate with him in acting, nor do I want to be their mother.
Through my experience, I also advise my parents, who are the same as me, to hold the money in their own hands when they are old. Money is our best reliance!
