My family name is Li. I come from Nanning, Guangxi. I am 29 years old this year. In the eyes of outsiders, I am a real Phoenix man. When many people hear that my family is in the countryside, they are unwilling to approach me. Although I am doing well in my career now, I live in a mess and lead a bad life.
My family is in the countryside, but I also have brothers and sisters. I am the second child. I also have brothers and sisters below. There is a sister above. I have been married. My parents worked very hard when we were born. In addition, the family is poor. It's really stressful to raise us and I have paid a lot. I also know my parents' hard work. So when I was very young, I know how to help my parents do housework, and I also study hard so that one day I can stand out, go out to the big society, and earn a lot of money.
Later, after my efforts, I was admitted to a good university. After graduation, I became a civil servant directly, and also a team leader. I also felt that I was very talented. At a young age, I had such a great future, but I did not relax. I still worked hard, because I wanted more. I was not willing to live in the present life. I also wanted to buy a house and a car, Give my parents a good life.
That is, when I met my girlfriend at work, I really like her, she should also like me, and I told her that when my family was poor, she did not care, so I think she is not like other women, so the reality is that I really like her good, so I stay with me.
She said, "If I marry with you, will you love me for a lifetime? Will you love me, hurt me, and don't let me be wronged like now?" I said to her with certainty: "I will, I will love you for a lifetime, hurt you for a lifetime, make you happy, and won't let you be wronged." When she was with me, many people advised her to think more clearly, Don't look for a poor boy like me. Fortunately, she didn't listen to her friends' advice. She chose to stay with me. She said she believed that I would give her happiness. After hearing these words, I was very moved.
In this way, she insisted on staying with me regardless of the opposition of people around her and her family, so we rented a house outside and lived together. I felt very happy after the two people were together. I could see her every day when I got up. They stuck together every day and went everywhere together except for commuting, Other time together.
After we talked for more than a year, she took me to meet her parents. Although at the beginning, her parents didn't treat me very well, because my family was poor, she would have to suffer if she spoke to me. However, after being brainwashed by her girlfriend, they agreed with us, And he said to me: "We are just a daughter, and it is painful in the palm of our hand. You should be serious about treating her well. If you are not sincere about my daughter, I will let you look good." I promised them that after marriage, I would treat her very well and make her happy. I would never let her suffer any injustice.
After his parents agreed with us, I felt certain that she was the love of my life. I wanted to make her happy. In addition, for the sake of both of us, her parents saw me do the marriage, and nothing else was mentioned. At that time, I really felt that my girlfriend was honored, generous and reasonable to have such parents.
But my parents don't think so. When I took my girlfriend to meet my parents, something went wrong. At the beginning, when I took my girlfriend back, my mother was still very enthusiastic to my girlfriend and was very gentle to others. I thought she really accepted my girlfriend. However, after hearing that we are living together now, my face changed.
I don't know what my mother is thinking, but she asked me some messy things. At first, she was very good to my girlfriend. Later, I began to ask her about her family, whether there are brothers and sisters, what she does at home, and whether she has money. When I asked these questions, I saw that her face was embarrassed, so I stopped my mother and asked her not to ask, It scared others. However, my mother didn't give up and said something that made my girlfriend angry.
My mother said: "You are living with my son now, so you are my family. I think you want to marry my son, so it is impossible for you to ask for a betrothal gift, and my family does not have one. You want to live with my son, not my son forced you to live with him. It seems that you are not a decent person, and if you get married, you are Those who want to give dowry also need to give us the amount we want. It is no good to lose one cent. I also have a little son. As the eldest brother and sister-in-law, you should take care of him. When he gets married, you should also pay him money to marry his wife, which is your obligation ".
I can't think of it. My mother would say something like this. My girlfriend sat there and listened to her words. Her face turned black. She must have been disappointed with my family. I didn't think my mother was such a person. So I asked my mother not to say any more. But my mother just couldn't understand my hint and kept going, My girlfriend has to nod her head.
Later, my mother went too far to ask my girlfriend to do the dishes. She said to my girlfriend, "Daughter in law, when the meal is finished, go and wash the dishes instead of putting so much detergent." When I heard that, it was even worse. So I went to do the dishes before my girlfriend started, but my mother stopped me. She said, "Have you seen that man come into the kitchen? This is not your place. Go out quickly and let your daughter-in-law come in. She will marry in the future. She has to do these housework sooner or later.
So my girlfriend left angrily and didn't wash the dishes. I hurried out to ask her not to take my mother's words to heart and promised her that she would not live with my parents after marriage. However, my girlfriend didn't say anything and asked me to send her back. On the way back, she said to me, "Let's break up. I think we are not suitable".
My girlfriend doesn't care what I say. No matter what I say, she wants to break up with me. So we broke up. I know it was my mother's fault that my girlfriend broke up with me. I also want my girlfriend to understand my mother. She is a rural person who doesn't know so much. I hope her girlfriend can forgive me, but she has to break up, She said: "Your mother is too extreme. I haven't even married yet. She said that she would let my family give a dowry instead of a betrothal gift. What she thought was really beautiful. I can't do it. Besides, your mother is all for your brother's sake. She hasn't married, so she asked me to provide for them. In addition, if I quarrel with your mother, do you help me or your mother? I think you will help your mother “。
I was speechless, so I said: "If you quarrel with my mother, I will definitely understand the cause of the matter. If my mother is wrong, I will scold her, but if you are wrong, I will help my mother. Isn't that right?".
My girlfriend was also angry, She said: "You see, you think so. If it were someone else, no matter how his girlfriend quarrels with his own mother, men would always stand by his girlfriend. In order to make her happy, he would not hurt her, but you do. So let's forget it. I can't accept such a family. Although I love you, we will not be happy to get married like this.".
I was very sad about what my girlfriend said, but when I got home, my mother said, "How could she break up after all the rice has been cooked?"? When I heard my mother say that, I became more angry, So he said to my mother: "Mom, you shouldn't care about my life. I have grown up and I have my own ideas. No matter what my life is like, it's my own choice. Don't care so much. My girlfriend has not been married yet. You want people to do this and that, and let them give dowry instead of bride price. Who will marry you like this What's more, we need to raise our younger brother to support you. Who would be so foolish to meet your demands? ".
I was very disappointed with my mother, and even more disappointed with myself. At the end of the day, I still let my girlfriend feel sad and wronged. But it's no use saying anything now. She has broken up with me, and we can never go back.
