The extremely expensive betrothal gifts can be returned after returning to poverty due to marriage, because the relevant laws clearly stipulate that property cannot be obtained through marriage, and this belongs to the extremely expensive betrothal gifts. After the divorce, it belongs to the situation of premarital payment and causes difficulties for the payer, and the wife should return the betrothal gifts according to law.
 Legal basis:
 Interpretation of the Supreme People's Court on Several Issues Concerning the Application of the Civil Code of the People's Republic of China
 The people's court shall support a party's request for the return of the betrothal gifts paid according to custom if it is found that the following circumstances exist:
 （1） Both parties have not gone through marriage registration procedures;
 （2） Both parties have gone through the marriage registration procedures but do not live together;
 （3） Giving money before marriage and causing difficulties for the payer.
 The application of the provisions of sub paragraphs (2) and (3) of the preceding paragraph shall be conditional on the divorce of both parties.