You are wrong (Top 17)
Forever roses
2024-02-20 08:20:28
primary school
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You are wrong (1)

You must not shed tears, because maybe he is also trying to resist;

You must not shed tears, because you know that neither of us can say a word about love or love;

You must not shed tears, because you can not find an excuse to explain why I cried;

You must not shed tears, because he will be very happy, life is still calm;

You must not shed tears, because life should be like this, you are sad, because your mind is in chaos;

You must not shed tears, because this is the best outcome, called: long pain is better than short pain

There is a saying often said by the pretentious young people, which is called "meeting the right person at the wrong time". A touch of sadness covers the whole person; Shallow helplessness confuses the whole sincerity; The sad beauty of slight pain adorns the whole memory.

Yes, I met it, not in the student age when I was not afraid of making mistakes and could love, hate, chase and fight for it without taboo, but in the year when I was 26 years old. This year, like most ordinary girls, I longed for a happy marriage, a stable job and a reliable person. However, now I have none of these three. He and I are colleagues, a very good person, reliable and steady, with little words, no stories, and no fuss. Due to the working relationship, we often mix together, such as hitchhiking to work together, going to the canteen for dinner together, and going out to the company base for investigation. And it's often just the two of us. We have a good relationship. In our spare time, we also complain about the leader's troubles, but our parents live too frugally. When we go to work late, we feel that he has started the drag racing mode, and when we get off work, we laugh at the leader's idiosyncratic details. I still remember one day when I left late for an overtime meeting. It was snowing heavily. The snow on the car was as high as my fist. After we came out, the door of the building was locked, and we had to use our hands to remove the snow on the windshield. When I got on the car after cleaning, my hands were too cold to drive. I rubbed them for a long time. Although I was not only frozen but also criticized by the leader that day, I was not in a bad mood because he enlightened me a lot. It seems that after what he said, there is no grievance and difficulty that I cannot face. He has experienced far more than I, so he is much more calm than I am. When I was in such a confused and low period, if I could have such a person walking in front of me, he almost became my spiritual support during this period of time. I often joked that "if you leave one day, I will have a mental collapse". I will always remember the words "Don't be afraid" and "It will be OK". During the period of working with him, I learned a lot of things that I could not learn in other places, the attitude of facing setbacks and the attitude of facing life.

In fact, he and I both know that we like each other. This is a wrong kind of love, because he is already a husband. Heaven and earth testify that I am a good girl; Heaven and earth testify that he is also a good husband; The heaven and earth will also testify that even if it is earth moving love, it should also contain a heart with conscience. In other words, because of conscience, two uncontrollable hearts can be forgiven.

In mid April 2015, he left his job. Even if it is not because of our relationship.

My heart is very sad. It's the kind of sadness that you can't help but cry.

You must not shed tears, because maybe he is also trying to resist, although I did not dare to look up; You must not shed tears, because you know that neither of us can say a word about love or love; You must not shed tears, because you can not find an excuse to explain why I cried; You must not shed tears, because he will be very happy, life is still calm; You must not shed tears, because life should be like this, you are sad, because your mind is in chaos; You must not shed tears, because this is the best outcome, called: long pain is better than short pain

I am grateful and thankful that he has finally left, and will never have to restrain his feelings; My heart ached and I cried. He finally left, and it was the end I had known for a long time. I will remember this person and never contact him again. Just like I will remember his last day and say nothing more: that day was another inspection trip to the base. The leader did not ask me to go but stayed in the company. He had to drive instead of taking a commuter bus to go there. He said that because he wanted to drive back to the office building as soon as possible after the inspection to find the general manager to resign, he had to go home directly by commuter bus instead of returning to the company. So, That was the last time I had a chance to take his car home; I caught up with the red light at the gate of my community that day, and he forced his car to rush over. If it was a red light at the last crossing, I would get off and walk back on my own; That day, he waited in the office for the leader to sign his resignation application form. He waited a long time for the leader to come back. The leader said that you should wait here all the time. Just leave the form and I will sign it for you; The office was very quiet that day, and the leader was not there. I was looking for topics to cover my emotions, but he didn't like to talk at all

He's gone. I know that he will be very happy, because his life is supposed to be like this: happy family, living parents, lovely children, sister-in-law is the one who accompanied him through thick and thin. Maybe in the dull and boring life, the opposite sex will inevitably have a feeling of mutual appreciation after a long time of cooperation. But if you like this, what capital can you get to compare with those who share weal and woe. At the low point of his life, when he was more confused and struggling than I was, the person who accompanied him to support him was not me. How selfish I must be to have the heart to destroy the feelings of a good wife who has persisted for so many years; I will also lose many conscience and patience to shake the happiness that two people have built together for many years. They had stood together through thick and thin. You are not accompanied in the bitterest days, and you are not worthy to share the richest life. He left, I think he must have the same idea as me, or we will not face the end so tacitly from beginning to end. Just watch, understand and keep silent.

Whether we are students, young people, or other people, whether we know each other, admire each other, or even love each other, it is conscience that walks in front of all feelings, isn't it? Because we all want to be good people. If we don't, maybe we won't admire each other anymore. Like each other, like that person's all, including our sense of responsibility for everyone. When he is gone, I will not contact him again. This is the best outcome for us to be responsible for ourselves, for each other, and for our loved ones. I don't think a good husband must be outside and never be attracted to anyone. I feel that sometimes I can't help but disobey, and sometimes I can't help but know that I shouldn't. Heart beating is not unforgivable. What is unforgivable is the indulgence of feelings.

After he left, I wrote a poem to send him. Because he is going back to his original work unit and needs to live outside for a long time, I often tell him that my sister-in-law's heart is bitter, but she won't say it. We girls will understand such hardship:

Sending Friends Away in the Plum Moon

One night cold wind lovesickness snow.

I know you want to go far;

I don't know my heart.

I am not a gentleman.

Don't dare to say more about wine.

Lest sighs be thicker than wine;

Don't want to say more about wine.

Only wish you a friend, Lu Pengcheng.

Then we never got in touch again.

Maybe, I feel distressed, but this relationship is just fine because of the regret that has become very beautiful, so although I lost it, I am willing to often recall it alone. Like the snow in early spring, when it arrived at the wrong time, it melted little by little. You looked at it so beautiful, so you wanted to keep it, so you loved it, but it still left, all the way sad and beautiful. Maybe I have grown up and matured, and I have not gone to drown my sorrows in alcohol, nor have I found a corner to cry loudly, nor have I recorded every experience with gorgeous words like high school. It's just a little uncomfortable to see the empty chair opposite the desk, and occasionally standing by the windowsill, I see that his car is no longer downstairs. Now there is only a quiet office and an uncle's director who are a little disappointed

I think I will get used to it slowly. Since it is time's fault, let time take it away slowly.

Goodbye, the right person, and the right person.

It is time that makes mistakes. It has nothing to do with you and me.


You are wrong (2)

You still left

Your turning and leaving footsteps

step-by-step

Trample

My heart full of wounds

blood

Drop by drop

Stay far, far away

I remember when you turned around

It's windy

The wind broke the past

Heartbreaking sound mixed with wind breaking sound

I thought you would hear

Will turn around

But you didn't

I asked God why

God said:

children

I?


You are wrong (3)

Dad, you are really wrong. Every father makes mistakes, so does my father.

I remember one time, I wrote my math homework at home for about 30 minutes and finally finished it. Dad asked me to take my math homework to him for examination. When I gave it to him, I thought, I must not be wrong. After a while, my father called me over. I think it must be wrong. I walked over and saw that the question my father crossed was a mental arithmetic problem, 2228000-678000=? I have calculated this question many times, and the result is still 1550000. Go to ask my father. When he saw it, he said that your question was right. He was wrong.

I remember another time, when I couldn't do a question, I went to ask my father. When he saw that he said 9.99, the question was to find the maximum approximation. Our teacher told us that the correct answer was 10.04. I went home and told my father. He looked at it carefully again and said, "Sorry, I made a mistake."

Dad, you also make mistakes. Every time Dad makes some small mistakes. We should form the good habit of being careful and never make mistakes like my father.


You are wrong (4)

The next day, the little girl took Liangliang and Jingjing to see a doctor.

When they arrived at the hospital, they began to check their bodies. Jingjing asked Liangliang, "The professor in this building is really strange. What's the light on in such a big day? She also turned off the headlights and turned on the small lights to light me. Doesn't she know that we are in pain?"

"Yes, it's hard!" Liang Liang replied with her black skirt.

Professor Lou said, "You need a kind of ointment for pupil dilation. When you order it, soak it in boiling water, dip a cotton swab into the ointment and apply it on the corner of your eye. Come back to me in a week."

At night, Jingjing and Liangliang felt dizzy after applying the ointment, and their heads were big. Jingjing yelled, "Oh, my head is getting bigger. What is this?"

"Didn't you hear that? The doctor said that it was a medicine to dilate the pupils, that is, to enlarge our body? It must be a little uncomfortable!" Liang Liang was quite strong.

The next morning, as soon as the little girl opened her eyes, something strange happened! Why does mother grow more than ten heads? She threw herself at her mother and threw herself on the wall! Oh, no, why Jingjing and Liangliang can't stand steadily. They always sway around, but they can't see anything clearly. They kept swinging their skirts, but it didn't help.

Mom said: "It's normal to be a little fuzzy. Maybe last night I applied too much medicine. Tonight I will reduce the dosage, and it will be better."

Jingjing and Liangliang breathed a long sigh of relief!


You are wrong (5)

You said. You know, it's your fault to give up on me

I shook my head with a wry smile. I didn't know what to do

I still remember those soft words with you

Those vows of eternal love.

I also remember

It's just that there's something missing between us

Shanmeng?

Or sea oath?

We can speak all these words

It's just that the previous vows of alliance and commitment have become a flash in the air today

You're like a dream

Beautiful and dreamy, walk into my world

You are like a gust of wind

Gentle and traceless blowing my life

We are like passers-by

Beautiful process

But lost in the road

You said, you know, it's your fault to give up on me

I shook my head gently and gradually faded out of your memory


You are wrong (6)

I still do

Just like the lotus, even though it knows that it will wither

Also show the sad smile for the beloved

Pick an autumn leaf and me

And my love for you

Buried together

Just like chrysanthemums for lovers

Blooming alone in autumn

Bury your tears in the earth


You are wrong (7)

That day, we talked happily on QQ, not you, not me, but us!

After a while, you will be angry. Ha ha, funny, you are angry again! After the QQ, I was laughing at myself. Oh, how could I be angry with such people? There's no need to sleep for such a person, let alone cry. I cried humbly several times before. Now, ah, I will only smile bitterly.

Knowing that you are the kind of boy who is easy to get angry, I started to worry about it, but I am also changing. I am also tolerant. Why don't I understand? Why are you angry again and again? Oh, don't say that you are such a person. Do you know that you are hypocritical? Oh, you are so. Why am I hypocritical?

I lied? Hehe, we are really like the heroes and heroines in love dramas. All kinds of misunderstandings crisscross our feelings, and every time, you don't believe me! I unconditionally believe in everything about you, but in return, you said, "Don't be hypocritical", hehe, I'm hypocritical! Everything is good, you are not wrong, any word can irritate you, tell you, in the future, don't want to get a truth from me!

Because, oh, I don't believe you anymore! Don't say I'm hypocritical, don't say I'm hypocritical, look at yourself, how true is it? Think about what you say every time, I want to vomit!

Only sweet words, hum, this is your sincerity! From today on, quietly! Don't be angry with me for something. The superego shouts. Ask yourself what qualifications you have!

Again, is it really that hard to admit that you are wrong?


You are wrong (8)

probably

I made you unhappy

probably

I made you feel boring

probably

I made you lose your original feeling

probably

I left you speechless

Your silence

It's my mistake.

I can't make you happy

I have no idea to make you happy

I can't be new to you

I'm not cute enough

Not cute enough to make your heart ache

It's been a long time

You're tired

Is it?

perhaps


You are wrong (9)

You said

Will wait for me

You say?

I will be with you

It just takes time

I'm waiting for you

one day

Go home from school

It's a bit cloudy

I'll run

I didn't catch up with the rain after all

A naughty boy pulled my arm

I sat there with my weight unsteady

I sat on the ground and cried

you are here

Will it hurt me

At that moment

I'm waiting for you

A year has passed

We're not kids anymore

I took off my childishness

I see you

We've grown up

I no longer wait


You are wrong (10)

What are parents in our hearts. We are always singing how great our parents are. Yes, parents are really great. In my heart, parents are great, but I also think they are cowardly.

There are many people in my family. I have two sisters, two sisters and one brother. Maybe there are so many people that my parents don't care about me! When I was young, I was a fun person. My second sister always gets my parents' love. Therefore, I always quarrel with my second sister to appease my dissatisfaction and hope my parents value me. But because of this, I am always scolded by my parents. Because of this, I always play with people outside. When I see them always buying food, I want to take money, but I'm afraid of being scolded by my parents. So for the first time in my life, I stole money from my family, bought a lot of food, and played with people outside very late before returning home.

That night when I came home, it was so quiet. It's like the precursor of a storm. I didn't expect it was. As soon as I got home, I was forced to confess whether I had stolen money. I never admit it. But my mother beat me very hard after all, so I said yes. My mother played a little hard that night. I cried all night. The next day, I didn't dare to get up for fear of being beaten by my mother again.

Perhaps that night was too dark and silent. I can never forget. I remembered that night, the corners of my eyes were wet unconsciously.

Gradually, when I was 7 years old, I began to go to school. I began to argue for myself. When my mother scolded me, I always blamed her one by one. They began to care about me, but they still spoiled my second sister too much.

Don't parents want to give us confidence? Why do they only give us inferiority. Do they work hard to educate children? Why do they just talk without proof. Why do you always compare other people's homes, why do you always criticize our mistakes, and why do you always say that we are useless. In China, many parents are like this. Because of this, when studying politics, I always take these words and say how hard my parents work. Maybe they really care about their children, but their actions are killing their children's confidence.

Parents are irreplaceable in my heart, but they are also fearful in my heart. Can you explain why?


You are wrong (11)

Teacher, you are wrong. You should not connive at shielding students who have money for thousands of yuan.

Teacher, you are wrong. You should not despise some students because they have bad grades.

Teacher, you are wrong. You shouldn't always scold some students for being stupid because they don't want to study.

Teacher, you are wrong. You should not go and miss our future for your noble face.

Teacher, you are wrong. You should not fail to teach those bad students by yourself and say that they are hopeless.

Teacher, you are wrong. You should not

Teacher, you have too many wrongs. Life is short and beautiful. We don't want to leave a shadow on our childhood because of you.

Teacher, we don't hate you. But our future is bright. Your huge body is our only sunshine

Teacher, we don't say anything more, just want to say to you: "Teacher, you are wrong!"

-- To the special teacher


You are wrong (12)

Introversion is not a mistake, but a gift from God

Wen/Pine

I am an introvert. When I was young, my mother said that I had never taken a step alone before I was five years old. Every time I met a stranger, I kept hiding; After going to school, from primary school to middle school and then to college, I never liked the lively scene, and would rather sit quietly with a book in my hand; After work, in addition to the necessary social interaction at work, I prefer to be alone on weekends and holidays. Even now, every weekend, I also like to stay at home, reading, writing, studying, baking, taking photos... immersing myself in my own world is not happy. I especially like the feeling of standing back from the crowd and being alone with myself. For introverts, immersing in their own world is a pleasure.

However, I also know very well that while I enjoy my own world of solitude, I am also troubled by my own personality (I believe most introverts will have such troubles as me). After all, modern society is in a value system of "extroverted idealism", and all people want to be talkative Cheerful. Introverted people live under the influence of extroverted idealism, just as women live in the position of a male dominated social value pattern, their own value is greatly reduced.

So, many times, I began to force myself to change and become more outgoing. After graduating from college, I have been engaged in media work for several years. This is a kind of work that requires skilled communication skills and strong writing skills. My specialty is writing, but communication is my weakness. But work is work, and you must overcome your weaknesses. I still remember that when I first worked, every time I had to call someone (especially the interviewee who held an important position) to make an appointment for an interview, I felt uneasy and tangled. In front of the phone, I have read my lines silently again and again, but I still dare not pick up the phone to dial the number. Now I think the reason why I was so afraid at that time was just that I was afraid of being rejected.

I have to say that the experience of media work in recent years has really made me grow a lot. When dealing with various people outside, I know how to deal with them. I even think that my work experience in the media has made some corrections to my personality, which has added some "extroverted" factors to my personality.

When necessary, I will become very outgoing and even "pretend" to be an outgoing person and be successful. During the job interview, almost every interviewer will ask "How do you evaluate your personality?", "Are you an introvert or an extrovert?" and other similar questions. I believe that no one will proudly say that he is an introvert. On the contrary, most people will say that he is an extrovert, or that he is half introverted and half extroverted. Because everyone knows that modern workplace work needs teamwork, initiative, communication and leadership. The characteristics of introverts almost run counter to these workplace elements. In the eyes of most people, introverts are reticent, less confident, and dare not be frank with their own ideas.

However, even if you disguise yourself, you have to admit that the introverted genes in your bones cannot be changed. I can cheat others, but I can't cheat my true self.

Since he is destined to be an introverted person by nature, is it also doomed that he cannot have absolute advantages in the workplace, and is it also doomed that the road of life is mediocre? No, no. I have read the biographies of some literati, and also learned about the stories of successful people in other fields. I am deeply surprised that many successful people are also introverts. Van Gogh, Maugham, Proust, George Orwell, Mother Teresa, Buddha, Chen Danyan, Li Na, Zhang Yining... The loneliness brought by introversion let them know how to communicate with their own thoughts in the depths of their souls and find treasure in that quiet world.

If genius is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration, generally speaking, we tend to worship the 1% part. We love its brilliance and shine like stars, but the real great power lies in the 99%. What kind of magic does loneliness have? In many fields, only when you are a person can you really devote yourself to the 99% 'deliberate practice', which is the key to achieving outstanding achievements.

I gradually realized that there is no good or bad distinction between introverts and extroverts. Every personality is accompanied by luck and pain at the same time. You should recognize your own personality, and then bring the advantages of this personality into play.

Susan Kane from the United States is a true introvert. She wrote a book, "Quiet: The Competitiveness of Introverted Character". In this book, she tells us what advantages introverts have through a large number of interviews with people and psychological experiments:

"Introverts tend to be attracted by the thoughts and feelings of their inner world, while extroverts tend to focus on people's external life and activities. Introverts tend to focus on the meaning of things around them, while extroverts will be involved in events. Introverts will charge themselves when they are alone, while extroverts will charge themselves when social activities cannot meet their own needs. "

"When dealing with problems, introverts are slower and more purposeful. They prefer to devote themselves to one thing for a period of time, so they are more focused. Such people tend to be relatively indifferent in the face of the temptation of money and fame and wealth."

"Introverts are not equal to hermits or cynics. Introverts may have hermit complex, but most introverts are friendly and prefer a peaceful environment."

"Introverts do a good job in formulating and implementing plans, and they will strictly follow the plans."

"Introverts seem to think more carefully than extroverts. Extroverts are more likely to take some quick ways to solve problems, replacing accuracy with speed. As the task goes on, they will make more and more mistakes. When problems become more and more troublesome, they may become deserters. Introverts will think about it before taking action and fully digest the information they have obtained. Even if they spend more time on the task, they will not give up easily and complete it more accurately. "

"Introverts are also very different in managing their own attention: if they are allowed to act at will, introverts tend to sit down and think about things, imagine things, recall the past, and even plan for the future, while extroverts focus on things around them. It can be said that extroverts focus on 'what', while introverts ask 'what will happen'."

"Introverts tend to remain rational when everyone around them loses their sense. Self denial is one of the biggest assets of introverts."

……

As an introvert, I can sympathize with these advantages: tenacity, concentration, insight, thinking... More importantly, I began to appreciate and use these advantages that only introverts have. In fact, sometimes, many extroverts also want to have these advantages of introverts. A friend of mine is a typical extrovert, but every day she has to force herself to sit at her desk and practice calligraphy for an hour to exercise her concentration and endurance, which she thinks is what she lacks.

"In fact, the biggest challenge faced by introverts is to face up to and make full use of their own advantages. You may be busy all day long making yourself behave like an enthusiastic and open extrovert, avoiding your own talents, and eventually you will be despised by others. But when you completely devote yourself to what you care about, you will find that your energy is unlimited. So, please keep your nature. If you like to play steadily step by step, don't be influenced by others to force yourself to speed up. If you like deep exploration, you don't have to be demanding to pursue breadth. If you like single task but have a headache about multiple tasks, stick to your own position. Adhering to your own path can bring you unlimited power, which is the result of introverts' independence from the world. "

When I was in college, our counselor once said that in ten years' time, those who looked the least impressive in college might become the best. I didn't think so at that time. Now I think it's not surprising that those who are reticent in the university can find their own right direction and approach in their own pace step by step.

The secret of life is to put yourself in the right light. For some people, the light that suits them is the spotlight of Broadway, while for people like me, a green light is enough. I like reading and writing, which are the advantages that God has given me - when others get together to sing K, go shopping and have fun, I prefer to spend an afternoon polishing my thoughts and practicing my writing. I like baking and making desserts. I have enough patience and perseverance to study and experiment until I can make my own delicious food. I enjoy the feeling of immersing myself in doing what I like from morning to night. I even like to sit in the coffee shop and do nothing, let myself think aimlessly

Do what you like to do, do meaningful things, study and think deeply. For introverts, this is the most correct way of life.


You are wrong (13)

You're wrong because you're too comfortable

Wen/Little Prince

one

Recently, the TV drama My First Half of Life, based on Yi Shu's novel of the same name, has become very popular.

In fact, the plot is not complicated. It's about Luo Zijun, a housewife, who indulges in a life of pampering herself. Every day, she dresses up to be beautiful.

Until one day, her husband Chen Junsheng suddenly filed for divorce because of an affair. Zijun could not accept this cruel blow, and he wanted to use his children and elders to save his husband, but the husband had made up his mind.

At this time, Luo Zijun felt that his sky was falling.

When Chen Junsheng asked for divorce, I sympathized with Luo Zijun.

But at the same time, I also think that divorce is usually the only way out of their marriage.

Just like Tang Jing, a friend in the play, said:

The person who has made rapid progress in marriage will always get rid of the person who is standing still, because human instinct is to seek more extension and connotation of life.

Indeed, marriage should be two people go hand in hand. When one side is complacent, while the other side has already gone far, it is inevitable that the backward will be abandoned, just like Luo Zijun in the play.

She lived in a comfortable life, and it was this comfort that brought her down and destroyed her.

two

The story of boiling frogs in warm water does not only appear in marriage.

I have a friend who went to work in a state-owned enterprise after graduating from college. Every day from 9 to 5, I go to work to play drama, go shopping on Taobao, play mahjong and go shopping after work. Life is regular but meaningless.

Seeing what she is like now, who can imagine that before graduation, she will be a famous "desperate Sanlang". She spent the longest time in the library, never skipped classes, and never lost her scholarship.

At the beginning of graduation, my friend was not like this. At that time, I often heard her say that working was too boring, and she wanted to resign to see the outside world.

But gradually, the comfortable life of the unit assimilated her. In this comfort zone, she became more and more adaptable and eventually became accustomed and dependent.

Until recently, she suddenly contacted me and said that she couldn't sleep every day recently, which caused great pressure. After careful inquiry, it turns out that her unit has been restructured.

There is no more comfortable work like before. But what made her anxious was that she found that her ability had not improved in the last few years after graduation. Looking for a job can only compete with fresh graduates.

After several years of working hard after graduation, she became a frog in warm water. When the stable world was broken, she was full of anxiety, which made her panic.

See now confused her, and recall once full of fighting spirit of her. I think it was the comfort zone that destroyed her these years after graduation.

Psychology divides people's understanding of the outside world into three areas: comfort zone, learning zone and panic zone.

In the comfort zone, we often feel relaxed, secure, and comfortable with people and things in this area.

Once your comfort zone is established, you will become extremely dependent and slowly fall in love with this comfort zone. Since then, your field may never be broadened, and you can only choose to live in a limited known area.

In the long run, the comfort zone of those who are complacent will become smaller and smaller, and will eventually be eliminated by this era. It is only a matter of time.

three

Li Kaifu mentioned in his new book Artificial Intelligence:

In the next 10 years, 50% of human work will be replaced by artificial intelligence.

If you read the relevant reports, you will know that Kai Fu Lee is not alarmist. Artificial intelligence has been constantly infiltrating into our lives.

It can be said that if you don't want to be forced to lose your job in the future, you need to learn to do something that AI cannot do.

And you should start preparing now. Only by jumping out of your comfort zone and increasing your knowledge and experience can you be able to face the complex and changeable society and life.

Of course, going out of your comfort zone does not mean that you blindly do something exciting. For example, quit a high paying job to change careers, or quit school to start a business, etc.

In fact, as long as one thing is new and unfamiliar to you, it is a challenge to your comfort zone.

When you challenge yourself, your comfort zone will continue to expand, and you will also achieve overall self-improvement.

four

When you want to step out of your comfort zone and challenge yourself, don't expect to accomplish it overnight. It's easier to make great progress by starting with small changes.

① Start small and try different ways

For example, you can:

Change the way to work, look for a new way in the old things, and enjoy the new scenery;

Taste new food, try to cook a new dish at least once a week, or go to a new restaurant;

Try new music, try to listen to some music that you don't usually listen to, or have never heard before

For such small things, you can try to make a little change and find a new perspective from the change.

This can help you change from a person who likes to stick to the old comfort, to a curious person who is willing to try new things and walk out of the comfort zone.

② Break an old habit

This habit can be small and simple. For example:

Change the time you watch a play after work every day to read a book you have always wanted to read;

Change the time when you get up in the morning to brush your circle of friends into listening to English and watching the news;

Change the time you spend at home at the end of each week to go to the park, or do a sport

Indeed, it is difficult to try new things and change the habit. If not, it will be easy to get out of the comfort zone.

But it is also important to form new habits and force yourself to do specific things to get out of your comfort zone.

③ Start with small steps

In the process of a person's growth, suddenly making big changes will make people feel crazy, so that you start to procrastinate and take no action against the goal in your heart.

So on the contrary, it is easier for people to accept and adapt by taking small steps.

If you want to have a better figure, you can start high-intensity training without a moment, starting from running for 5 to 10 minutes every week;

If you have social anxiety, don't immediately summon up the courage to talk to people. Try to start with a smile every day;

If you want to broaden your vision by reading, you can start from reading every day, starting from the minimum amount you can accept

In this way, step by step, it is easier to control your discomfort and make you move towards the life you want.

In fact, everyone must feel uncomfortable when trying new things. Because we are used to resisting changes and staying in the comfort zone.

Therefore, you may need to remind yourself to step out of your comfort zone from time to time. Starting with small changes, you can gradually expand your comfort zone in a comfortable pace.

Only in this way can you not become a frog in warm water and be destroyed by your own comfort zone.


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You said

Will wait for me

You say?

I will be with you

It just takes time

I'm waiting for you

one day

Go home from school

It's a bit cloudy

I'll run

I didn't catch up with the rain after all

A naughty boy pulled my arm

I sat there with my weight unsteady

I sat on the ground and cried

you are here

Will it hurt me

At that moment

I'm waiting for you

A year has passed

We're not kids anymore

I took off my childishness

I see you

We've grown up

I no longer wait

First day: reincarnation Yunyan


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What are parents in our hearts. We are always singing how great our parents are. Yes, parents are really great. In my heart, parents are great, but I also think they are cowardly.

There are many people in my family. I have two sisters, two sisters and one brother. Maybe there are so many people that my parents don't care about me! When I was young, I was a fun person. My second sister always gets my parents' love. Therefore, I always quarrel with my second sister to appease my dissatisfaction and hope my parents value me. But because of this, I am always scolded by my parents. Because of this, I always play with people outside. When I see that they always buy food, I want to take money, but I'm afraid of being scolded by my parents. So for the first time in my life, I stole money from my family, bought a lot of food, and played with people outside very late before returning home.

That night when I came home, it was so quiet. It's like the precursor of a storm. I didn't expect it was. As soon as I got home, I was forced to confess whether I had stolen money. I never admit it. But my mother beat me very hard after all, so I said yes. My mother played a little hard that night. I cried all night. The next day, I didn't dare to get up for fear of being beaten by my mother again.

Perhaps that night was too dark and silent. I can never forget. I remembered that night, the corners of my eyes were wet unconsciously.

Gradually, when I was 7 years old, I began to go to school. I began to argue for myself. When my mother scolded me, I always blamed her one by one. They began to care about me, but they still spoiled my second sister too much.

Don't parents want to give us confidence? Why do they only give us inferiority. Do they work hard to educate children? Why do they just talk without proof. Why do you always compare other people's homes, why do you always criticize our mistakes, and why do you always say that we are useless. In China, many parents are like this. Because of this, when studying politics, I always take these words and say how hard my parents work. Maybe they really care about their children, but their actions are killing their children's confidence.

Parents are irreplaceable in my heart, but they are also fearful in my heart. Can you explain why?


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If by "suburb" is meant an urban margin that grows more rapidly than its already developed interior, the process of suburbanization began during the emergence of the industrial city in the second quarter of the nineteenth Before that period the city was a small highly compact cluster in which people moved about on foot and goods were conveyed by horse and But the early factories built in the 1840’s were located along waterways and near railhead s at the edges of cities, and housing was needed for the thousands of people drawn by the prospect of In time, the factories were surrounded by proliferating mill towns of apartments and row houses that abutted the older, main As a defense against this encroachment and to enlarge their tax bases, the cities appropriated their industrial In 1854, for example, the city of Philadelphia annexed most of Philadelphia Similar municipal maneuvers took place in Chicago and in New Indeed, most great cities of the United States achieved such status only by incorporating the communities along their

With the acceleration of industrial growth came acute urban crowding and accompanying social stress-conditions that began to approach disastrous proportions when, in 1888, the first commercially successful electric traction line was Within a few years the horse-drawn trolleys were retired and electric streetcar networks crisscrossed and connected every major urban area, fostering a wave of suburbanization that transformed the compact industrial city into a dispersed This first phase of mass-scale suburbanization was reinforced by the simultaneous emergence of the urban Middle Class, whose desires for homeownership in neighborhoods far from the aging inner city were satisfied by the developers of single-family housing


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The American Revolution was not a sudden and violent overturning of the political and social framework, such as later occurred in France and Russia, when both were already independent Significant changes were ushered in, but they were not What happened was accelerated evolution rather than outright During the conflict itself people went on working and praying, marrying and Most of them were not seriously disturbed by the actual fighting, and many of the more isolated communities scarcely knew that a war was

America’s War of Independence heralded the birth of three modern One was Canada, which received its first large influx of English-speaking population from the thousands of loyalists who fled there from the United Another was Australia, which became a penal colony now that America was no longer available for prisoners and The third newcomer-the United States-based itself squarely on republican

Yet even the political overturn was not so revolutionary as one might In some states, notably Connecticut and Rhode Island, the war largely ratified a colonial self-rule already British officials, everywhere ousted, were replaced by a home-grown governing class, which promptly sought a local substitute for king and