In the past few days, I have only seen a small part of the positioning. I went to tidy up my things at the weekend and found some children's education related books I bought before. My girls are in kindergarten. I haven't opened these books yet. I felt guilty and decided to read one book first.
The first sentence of the preface is that if you love children, you should understand their spiritual world.
I think this sentence is both right and wrong. A child doesn't have so much mental world. His ideas are all expressed. If you love your child, please be patient and observe what he is telling you. This is more accurate. To love a child is to learn his language and expression.
On the issue of baby education, I think all the problems can be summarized in a very simple model. Listening support understanding guidance education.
The first step is to listen, understand his language, understand what he wants.
Second, I chose support. Because adults are good at being picky. Often after being picky, it is not easy to support others. What the baby needs most is support.
Third, after a certain time of analysis, we may feel that the baby's behavior does not meet our expectations, or even contradicts our expectations, so we should ask ourselves to understand them at this time.
Step 4: try your best to understand, but still do not agree with the baby's practice, you can try to guide.
The fifth and final step is education.
The psychological laws that competent parents should know most in the appendix. The first three items touched me a lot. Rosenthal effect: if parents give positive psychological hints to the baby for a long time, the baby will be more confident and self strengthening
Over limit effect: the psychological phenomenon that too much, too strong and too long stimulation causes extreme impatience or resistance- When children make mistakes, don't criticize the same thing repeatedly.
Desi effect: In some cases, when people have both internal and external rewards, their motivation for work will not be enhanced, but will be weakened. For example, parents tell their children that if you get 100 points, they will reward you with 100 yuan, which will weaken their interest in learning.
The Dexi effect caused my great thinking. Grapefruit is now in the state of talking to me about conditions for everything. In order to achieve my goals, I will often give grapefruit rewards. This should be the wrong approach.
What exactly is the correct approach?