Generally speaking, a person who can speak is more likely to be recognized by others. Therefore, when educating children, parents should pay attention to the cultivation of their children's emotional intelligence, be strict with their children, and also pay attention to their own behavior style, so that children can become a polite and talkative person and lay the foundation for their children's success.
How to educate children when they talk nonsense
1. Let children have empathy. The process of children's growth is the process in which parents guide children to make their language and behavior gradually conform to social norms. When a child's innocent words hurt others, if they just mean to criticize the child, it will not play a good role. As a parent, we should let children stand on the other side to experience the feelings of others and guide the development of children's empathy.
2. Pay attention to your words and deeds. We are the subject of children's imitation. When we talk at ordinary times, we should influence children with standard and civilized language. More positive and energetic words, less uncivilized and negative words. Children's language is guarded by parents!
3. Teach children to speak correctly. We should let children know what to say and what not to say, and the places involving other people's privacy and pain should be eliminated. Guide children to speak correctly, and be happy when they speak and others listen. Instead, they will only say that the child is still young.
4. Create a good environment. Language can represent certain ideological content and reflect certain ideological height. We can take children to feel life, broaden their horizons and knowledge, communicate with them more and promote the healthy development of language. Let children do "speak with something", and naturally produce the requirement of speaking.
5. At the gathering of relatives and elders, we will ask the children to say something polite. For example, "Happy New Year" and "Everything goes well", because such words will reflect that children are polite and educated, and others are happy to listen to them, and they are also happy to teach themselves. Speaking of this, let's also think that if the children's words make others unhappy, we parents may also be told that "how to educate children", everything is relative, let the art of speaking run through interpersonal communication.
Why do children like to talk nonsense
1. Parental indulgence. Nowadays, many children are the central part of the family. As long as the children ask their parents to complete as much as possible, and they will leave good things to the children, this has created the idea that children have their own center in the world, so that children will always take themselves as the center in everything, and will only consider their own problems rather than others' feelings.
2. Parents did not set an example for their children. In fact, children's imitation ability is very strong. Through their limited understanding of the world, because parents are the people who contact children most, children see their parents' behavior, and they can't tell whether these behaviors are correct, so they will accept them completely and learn from their parents' behavior.
3. Neglect of EQ education. Many parents will pay more attention to their children's academic performance, that is, IQ. They think that academic performance represents whether a child is excellent, but this view is very one-sided, because academic performance does not represent all of a child, and children can develop in other directions, but the impact of emotional intelligence will be relatively large.
How to teach children to speak
Affirm the other party. Affirmation is a polysemous word, which can be understood as praise, approval and rationality. In the process of communication with children, our timely affirmation is the best gift for children.
Give timely advice. When others seek advice, we give appropriate advice based on ourselves. Research shows that more than 70% of people have a tendency when they ask for opinions from others. They just want to confirm their own ideas. Proper advice will give others some support.
from the heart. Honest advice is more favorable to the other party than hypocritical perfunctory advice. We should set an example, and communicate with others sincerely, so that children can learn to get along with others in this atmosphere.
Give understanding. Everyone is unwilling to listen to blame, because they have already suffered from the inner uneasiness, which is what they need to understand to pacify their uneasy hearts. Whether it's work or life, more understanding and less blame will lead to better development of interpersonal relationships.
