Many children will become independent when they grow up, and gradually begin to dislike their parents' restrictions and disobey their parents' discipline. From playing with their parents' mobile phones, they gradually want their parents to equip themselves with a mobile phone, which can make many parents face difficulties. If children excessively rely on mobile phones and indulge in all kinds of information or games on mobile phones, it will bring great harm to children. Should parents equip their children with mobile phones? Let's have a look.
Should I buy mobile phones for children
My advice is not to easily equip children with mobile phones. If children have strong self-control, parents can consider whether to equip children with mobile phones according to their age.
As students, we should focus on our studies. We all know the true meaning of the sentence "learning changes our destiny", and we all hope our children can be good at both academic and moral qualities. Parents should not equip their children with mobile phones when they are unable to resist temptation.
If children are in primary school, they are not very supportive of providing mobile phones for their children. For one thing, they are afraid that children have a competitive mind; for another, they do not have self-control; for the third, parents of primary school students are now picking up students on campus, so there is no security concern. If it is really necessary to configure, it is recommended to buy a phone watch to facilitate communication but not to play games.
For children to play with mobile phones, we should not be blocked, let's not control it. Let's understand that it is more important to leave space for children to go out by themselves rather than pressing them step by step!
Why are children addicted to mobile phones
1. Too little communication with family. If a child has too little communication with his family, he will feel lonely. There is no home in his heart, and mobile phones can just make up for his loneliness. So communication between family members is very important.
2. Parents put too much pressure on their children. If a child is under too much pressure, he will try his best to decompress. The best way to decompress is to use mobile phones. If parents expect too much of their children, they will be more disappointed. The child beat, scolded and scolded the child when he failed in the exam. The child also left a shadow in his heart and did not communicate with his parents. He could only play with his mobile phone to relieve the pressure.
3. Psychological needs were not met. In the past, parents were only responsible for keeping children fed and clothed. But now, in addition to meeting their material needs, they should also care about their children's psychological needs. Once children's inner needs are not met, they will lack a sense of security and trust subconsciously, which has a great impact on the formation of character.
How to solve the problem of mobile phone management
1. See what children are looking for in their mobile phones and what they lack in reality. Many chat software may need friends and more interpersonal support; Those who like playing games are very smart, and children may need a sense of achievement; Children who read online novels may lack sense of meaning; Those who use social software may be looking for a sense of belonging.
What parents need to do is to find what their children are missing, and then make up for these missing psychological needs in real life.
2. Behavioral management is to formulate some family rules for mobile phone use. Before making family rules, we should have a standard for our own use of mobile phones. Our parents need to see if we can manage the use of mobile phones by ourselves? If you can't manage well yourself, don't ask your children to manage well. This is the most important point.
When designating family rules, we need to consider whether there are family rules to follow at home. Besides, how about our communication with children? How is the relationship? If there is any trouble in this aspect, it needs to be adjusted first.
