Juvenile children do not stay at home at night, which must be bad for their parents. At the same time, their parents will be particularly angry. Generally, parents will severely teach their children, or even beat and scold their children after the event. This will only exacerbate the conflict between you. You should pay more attention to your children, and then tell them about the dangers of things. Usually, you should pay more attention to the children's dynamics.
How to deal with minor children who do not stay at night
1. Often chat with children to make them feel relaxed and happy at home.
2. Create some opportunities to let children experience setbacks and constantly improve their mental health.
3. The demands on children are moderate and mistakes are allowed.
4. Dilute the information of leaving, do not show fear, let the children understand that leaving is stupid.
There are undoubtedly many reasons for not staying at night, including subjective factors and external environment.
Adolescent children are more self-centered and have their own ideas. If parents are angry because their children didn't go home, or because they are afraid of speaking some extreme language, children will start to fight against their parents because their self-esteem is damaged.
First of all, parents should find out the reason why the child did not return all night, and tell the child about the consequences by appealing to reason and emotion. Because I am also a mother, and my child is also experiencing puberty. If it is my child, I will speak consciously or unintentionally about self-protection in advance in life. The more depressed the adolescent is, the more rebellious they will become.
Personally, I think that children should be respected and understood. To say the least, even if children do not return all night, it cannot be avoided because of the opposite sex. Now children are relatively precocious. Children should learn about this knowledge in a timely manner and be curious to kill cats. It's nothing to tell, so that children can learn how to protect themselves and not hurt others. Let children learn to control themselves and suppress them more forcefully than their parents. The effect may be better.
Why do children stay up at night
1、 The study pressure is too great, and the parents (teachers) 'education methods are improper. Children always fail to achieve the goals expected by their parents, fail to see good faces, fail to hear good words, and even get scolded and beaten.
2、 Poor frustration ability. Under the exam oriented education system, children pursue scores and rankings. Once they fail to meet the requirements of their parents or are inconsistent with their own requirements, they feel difficult to see because of the so-called self-esteem; Some people who are wronged at school or because of their own cognitive problems will take the way of escape.
3、 Poor interpersonal relationship and maladjustment to environment. Some families have little pressure on their children in learning, but their parents are not good, and sometimes they are angry with their children. Some divorced, not responsible for their children, or regardless, or moody.
Some parents give their children to their grandparents when they are young, or others take them home when they are old. A child's heart is incompatible with his parents, such as strangers. Such a family situation is easy to cause children to run away once there are incentives.
4、 Poor self-control. Children with poor self-control and weak self-awareness are easily seduced by others. When others have the idea of running away from home, they invite them to go together. They follow blindly because of face or fear of losing friends.
5、 The negative impact of mass media. In recent years, some media have brought a lot of bad information to children, making some young and ignorant children want to imitate them and look for a life they yearn for.
How to educate girls who don't stay at night
1. Teach the children reason first! You can tell her: Adolescent girls should learn to protect themselves and never play with the opposite sex outside all night, including children's same-sex friends, because you don't know whether your friends are casual people.
At the same time, as a girl, we must love ourselves and respect ourselves. Only those who love themselves and respect themselves will meet people of equal character. Of course, this kind of preaching, once or twice, is not effective. Girls' good parenting can not be developed in a day or two, it is the result of long-term parental education.
2. Don't scold, but lead positively. If you scold her all the time, and the girl is in a rebellious period, she will do what you don't want her to do. You should first slowly communicate with her, understand the reason why she doesn't stay at night, and then give some examples. The girl has an irreversible accident in her life because she doesn't stay at night.
