In life, indulging children is a common phenomenon. Most families have only one child. The whole family is worried about this child. They are afraid of falling when holding it in their hands and melting when holding it in their mouth. As long as the child wants, they should be satisfied even if they break the pot and sell iron. However, parents' excessive indulgence and love will not bring much benefit to children, but will let children develop a bad habit of indulgence.
The consequences of indulging children
1. Selfishness, in the one-child family, children receive special treatment for a long time. The whole family is child centered. What the child wants will make the child feel that the good things should belong to him in the long run. What he likes should be owned. He should monopolize toys, eat good things alone, and not be touched by others.
2. It is easy to cause children's character defects. If parents overindulge their children, it is easy to cause children's arrogance, arrogance, selfishness and other defects in character. Because of being indulged and indulged for a long time, children will gradually become self-centered, not considering the feelings of other people, not knowing how to compromise and tolerate. They will also become arrogant and domineering.
3. Lazy and undisciplined. In the eyes of his parents, he is the boss, and nobody can control him. In addition, parents are responsible for eating, drinking, lazing, eating, living, and traveling. They don't want to do anything. They become lazy day by day. Sometimes doing something is also a waste of time, and there is no discipline. In his eyes, he is discipline. He can not listen to others, but others must listen to him, In the future, it is bound to be difficult to get a foothold in society.
4. The lack of ability, as children's ability to communicate, deal with affairs, think, and judge will cause serious deficiencies because they have to stretch out their hands and open their mouths when they are young. The jungle law, survival of the fittest, you can only see the forest in front of you is lush, but you can't see the cruelty of various plants competing for sunshine behind. The society is far more cruel than the forest, and how can children who grew up in a greenhouse without any survival ability make their own way in this cruel world in the future?
The harm of indulging children
1. It will lead to children becoming more and more rebellious. Parents coddle children too much and make children become more and more rebellious. At first, they don't listen to their parents' words. When they reach the age of study, they can't act casually and recklessly like at home. They will often be criticized by teachers and become more and more unacceptable. They will not obey the management of teachers, In the process of teaching children, there is no profit but harm.
2. They don't care for their parents, and they spoil their children too much. They will take it for granted that their parents should love them. They should get their parents' love for them. After parents try their best to take care of their children, they usually get a callous response from their children. Therefore, parents should not spoil their children too much.
3. They can't control their emotions. Most of the spoiled children have bad temper. If parents don't do what they want, they may break out at any time to threaten their parents. This is because parents never get angry with them, or severely discipline them. They become more and more unrestrained to vent their emotions, so that later they do not know how to control their negative emotions.
What should parents do after indulging their children
Parents should help children answer questions. There are some things that children can't understand when they grow up. When children feel confused, parents should grasp their children's desire to solve problems and help them sort out in a timely manner. For example, when children go home and keep talking about something, mothers can naturally talk about some things that they have misunderstood with others, For example, when there is a misunderstanding, you should explain it clearly in a timely manner. If you are right, you should communicate with the other party in a timely manner. If you are wrong, you should find an opportunity to apologize.
Teach children how to treat others. It is necessary for children to treat others when they grow up. When they go out to be guests or come at home, children's advertisements will automatically behave themselves. Parents can give appropriate advice, and the effect is very good. For example, if a guest brings a gift, can Dad remind him properly if he forgot to say something? If the child is not aware of anything, he can say thank you to the guest for the gift. I will thank you on behalf of the child. At this time, children will naturally learn to say thank you.
