In the face of children's money stealing behavior, parents are inevitably angry, but it is certainly wrong to criticize severely. You must clearly tell your children that what makes you angry is not taking money, but selfishness, recklessness, and using improper practices to obtain money. Before teaching children the code of conduct, parents should also pay attention to the internal emotions and psychological needs behind such behavior.
How should parents educate children who steal money at home
1. Don't treat children like prisoners. An adult with authority should not follow the children in order to find out the truth. It is also better not to "catch the stolen goods" on the spot. This is not criminal investigation, nor is it to lead the enemy into the urn. When you return home, you should not try to extract confessions.
In the matter of education, we should consider not only the psychological endurance of children, but also the image of adults. When parents press their children step by step to tell the truth, explain where the money is going, and mercilessly criticize them, children will feel terrible and dark in the adult world afterwards, and they will not respect their parents. This kind of education result is obviously negative.
2. Give children a certain amount of pocket money. When children reach a certain age, parents can give them a certain amount of pocket money. In modern society, children can also go out and give some money in emergency. Children generally have the concept of pocket money after they are 4 years old. At this time, parents can consider giving some pocket money.
3. Let children learn to save money. The New Year's money and the remaining pocket money will be saved for children, and a current passbook will be opened. They will be deposited in succession. When they really need it, they will take as much as they want. This can not only cultivate children's ability to accumulate funds, but also cultivate their self-control.
Why do children "steal" family money
1. Children need money to shop. Generally, children who "steal money" are almost all over the age of 6. At this time, children have already enjoyed some satisfaction brought by money. When there is a demand, if they want to buy snacks, they will think of needing money.
2. Parents did not take care of the children's shopping needs at that age, and could not meet their children's needs in pocket money distribution.
3. Children have not received relevant education in the process of growing up, and parents have not received education in place. As children grow up day by day, they should gradually "draw a clear line" with their parents, from physical weaning to spiritual weaning. When parents find that children are little by little in contact with society, such as going to school, making friends, etc., they should slowly tell children the rules of the adult world.
In the aspect of "stealing money", we should help children establish a correct concept of "property rights". Help children distinguish the property rights of goods and guide them to establish the concepts of "yours", "mine" and "his".
In the face of children's money theft, parents must adhere to two principles
1. Don't "label" children. What kind of person you say children are, they will become the kind of person you say. " Therefore, in the face of children's money stealing behavior, we must not "question" children by "interrogating prisoners" or force them to admit their mistakes. We suggest that we first use a gentle way to wake them up and let them know that their parents have made mistakes.
2. Correctly guide children's desire. If we simply and rudely solve the problem by "catching the bad guys", our children will feel that they are not good people and hurt their self-esteem. Therefore, before questioning, it is better to calmly analyze the reasons for children's stealing money, so as to find a way to eliminate this behavior.
If the child steals money to buy something and it is reasonable, the mother should be as satisfied as possible. If the child's requirements are unreasonable, the mother should respect and correctly guide the child's desire, such as telling the child that everyone wants what they like when they see it, but this is impossible; Or keep communicating with the child, see what he wants, tell him how to get it, and so on.
