Children aged 12 or 13 are in the rebellious period of youth. Children at this stage are the most difficult to discipline, especially girls. They always like to challenge the authority of their parents. They have to try something that their parents do not want to do, which gives parents a headache. They don't know what to do.
How to educate girls aged 12 or 13
1. It is important to give children the right to choose within a certain range. As children grow up, it is important to give them more and more freedom and control over their own lives. You must consciously ask yourself, or even restrain your idea of doing everything for your children, to give them some freedom. Giving children some freedom shows that we trust and respect children, and children will respect us and love us more.
2. We should guide students to fully understand that the rebellious psychology of middle school students is a psychological weakness. Because they are prone to emotional impulsion, they are still immature and lack comprehensive and objective understanding of things, which guides them to constantly enrich their knowledge and improve their ability to perceive society and distinguish between right and wrong.
3. Create a good educational environment. If the school environment affects children's rebellion, parents can help children choose a good school. In this way, children can stay away from past bullying and bad friends, and make new (good) friends. Gradually, children's character will become better.
4. Listen to your child's thoughts. Parents should try to make their children feel that it is natural to do so. The trick is to have a "listening atmosphere" at home all the time. In this way, children will come to their parents to discuss important matters. To achieve this goal, one of the best ways is to spend time with children.
5. Establish a family reward and punishment system and gratitude education. Every time a child's mood is unstable, parents will make a small reminder and registration, make statistics once a week, tell the child the stage of bad mood this week, and tell the child that there will be less next week, and continue to exercise restraint to improve themselves.
How to discipline rebellious girls
1. Father education should be in place to enhance the sense of role and responsibility of family education. At this stage, the child's nagging about his mother has been in a period of collapse. When he heard that his mother did not speak, he was upset, even if he was right, he would not listen to her at all. At this time, my father will follow up and set an example for my daughter's learning and growth.
2. Keep testing. When parents discipline their children, they should always change their ways. When children are young, they usually just talk to their parents and listen to their children. After going to middle school, you should try two-way communication and listen to the children's suggestions to give them a voice. Once a certain method is found to be impractical, the method should be changed at any time and tested continuously until an effective method is found.
3. Think carefully about the request made by the child and respond carefully. The children in the rebellious period will be very angry and it is more difficult to trust their parents if they agree to their children's requirements in a hurry and then go back on their words. Some parents habitually deny, and then negotiate with their children, so that their children are opposed to their parents at the beginning. The correct way is to tell the child that I should think about it carefully first, and then respond in a way that the child can accept.
How to discipline a twelve year old child who is disobedient
1. Don't be wordy. The rebellious children can't stand the parents' wordiness. This is a variety of disgusting behaviors, not the right way of education. Sometimes, parents' painstaking words will make children's rebellion more serious. Therefore, when communicating with children, don't be too wordy.
2. Encourage and support children. Adolescent children begin to show more exploration spirit and initiative. For children at this stage, parents should encourage them more, support their reasonable needs, and make them realize that their parents are my strongest backing.
3. Set an example. As a parent, you must set an example and take the lead. Good habits should be shown to children as far as possible, and bad habits should not be known to them. Otherwise, it will be the responsibility of adults.