In the third day of the junior year, when the rebellion is serious, the child is unwilling to listen to the parents, and always contradicts and contradicts the parents, even starts to beat and scold the parents. Faced with such a situation, parents must take measures as soon as possible. If parents are slightly negligent at this stage, children may do irreparable things, and parents must pay attention.
How to communicate with children in the rebellious period of junior three
1. Not all children can listen to the truth. For some children who cannot listen to the truth, parents should not blindly put themselves in a more loving position. They should learn to use both grace and authority. After he calms down, parents can come forward to reason with him. At this time, children can easily listen to him.
2. Learn to listen and encourage. When communicating, adults should encourage children to speak out their own ideas and learn to listen to their voices. Sometimes children's ideas are very simple, which may be some small things in ordinary days. But parents usually don't pay attention to them. Don't let children feel that you won't listen to them even if they say so. In that way, they will become more and more closed to themselves and farther away from adults, The relationship between the two sides is very bad.
3. Learn to understand children. There must be a reason for children's rebellion, and there must be a reason for the rebellious psychology of a certain thing or person. As parents, they should be good at understanding children's feelings, thinking from the perspective of children, understanding children fundamentally, understanding their needs and responding to them, so that they can get along with children more easily and harmoniously.
4. Learn to observe and communicate. There are two aspects of observation. We should observe both junior high school children and ourselves. In many cases, parents must change their perspective and observe children's rebellion from the perspective of a third party. Observe the changes of junior high school children and their attitudes towards children.
Parents should not hold their children down by being an old man or something. This is what junior high school children in the rebellious period dislike most. They should communicate with their children like friends. Respect the parents of children. Don't always stare at their children's weaknesses. Don't compare their shortcomings with the strengths of other children.
Why do children become rebellious after entering junior high school
1. Ask the child to obey absolutely. Some parents are almost dictatorial, and children must listen to him and control everything. In addition, they always impose their own ideas on children, which can easily lead to their rebellious mentality. When they were young, they may not be strong enough to resist you. Once they grow up, you will find that you have lost control of them.
2. Excessive nagging. In fact, nagging seems to be a unique skill of every mother, but proper nagging is a manifestation of love for children, but once it exceeds that level, it will make children very upset. For example, when children were young, they nagged them to learn more from xx, not play with bad children, and when they grew up, they nagged about what they should do. The child will be bored if he listens too much and thinks that you are interfering in his life.
Four suggestions for communication between parents and adolescent children
1. Say something "useless" to your child. You can chat with your children about gossip, games, TV dramas, etc. These seemingly "useless" topics can actually help parents understand their children and get closer to each other. If you always want to talk about "useful" topics with your child, he will be upset and confused, and he will not want to communicate with you. This one-way output communication is invalid, and it also hurts the relationship between them.
2. Look squarely at the child's sense of independence. Adolescent children especially hope to be recognized by people around them, and hope that their parents can get along with them equally. When communicating with children, parents should learn how to reasonably transform the roles of peers and elders.
3. Pay attention to the occasion and skills in conversation. Adolescent children are sensitive inside and their emotions fluctuate greatly. Therefore, when talking with children, they should pay attention to time and occasions, pay attention to skills, and learn to observe their appearance.
4. Listen carefully to the children's demands. Adolescent children will have a lot of adolescent troubles, such as difficulty in improving their performance, interpersonal communication between friends, growth and development of body changes, heterosexual emotional changes, and so on. When children come to you to talk, listen carefully and understand the reasons.
If you find a problem you can't solve, first of all, don't deny the child's true feelings, let him feel that his family will always accompany him and support him, and then work with him to find a solution to the problem.
