As children grow older and enter adolescence, their sense of independence is constantly developing and changing. In this period, children are easily affected by external factors and develop some bad habits, such as swearing.
How to deal with adolescent children swearing
1. Parents can make progress by retreating. Most of the time, children say dirty words out of curiosity and freshness. As parents, we might as well leave it alone. If we don't respond strongly, children will find it boring. Parents can also respond to their children in a calm state. For example, after the child says dirty words, you can tell the child: it seems that you are interested in learning new words recently, but this word is not polite. Let's see which words are more powerful than it.
2. Ignore your parents first. When a child is angry, angry and swearing, parents should not fight against him. Do not scold him or go back. This will aggravate the conflict. We can not react, ignore, and fight with him, which will strengthen his bad behavior. When children show their politeness, we should give them a positive feedback in time to strengthen their polite words and behaviors.
3. Communicate with children calmly. When the child is calm, we can gently and firmly tell the child not to say dirty words, and express the feelings of parents when they hear the child say dirty words and swear. For example, "Son, I was very angry when I heard you swear. I understand that you just wanted to express some feelings, but I think you can talk to me slowly next time."
4. Teach children to respect and be respected. Children talk back and contradict their parents, which shows that they do not respect their parents. However, if parents themselves do not respect their children, instead, let children develop the habit of abusing their parents, it is worth parents' reflection. In the process of children's growth, parents should always remember to use abusive tone to educate their children, because it is easy to cause children's hatred value, so that children's complaints continue to increase and break out during the rebellious period.
The reason why children love to say dirty words
1. It is to express oneself. We see many adolescent children who think it is cool to say dirty words and then express some emotions or emotions that they cannot express. There is some truth here. Because swearing can give people a sense of power, and on the other hand, swearing also has a rebellious meaning, so many adolescent children will use swearing as a tool for self-expression.
2. In order to gain recognition. Most children say "dirty words" because of the influence of their partners, and they think it is "fashionable" and fashionable. At the same time, in order to have resonance and sense of belonging in front of their partners, they will follow suit. If parents find such a situation in their children, they should communicate with them in time to help them establish correct values and stay away from the source of swearing.
3. Attract attention. Children use "dirty words" to attract others' attention. When someone pays attention, they will feel proud. In this case, parents need to reflect on whether they pay enough attention to their children at ordinary times. Timely adjust the relationship with the child, and the child will gradually balance.
4. The way to vent bad emotions. Adolescent children are prone to power struggles with their parents. Children may use "dirty words" to fight against authority, or to express bad emotions. At this time, the more opposed parents are, the more they want to speak. The best way is not to fight back and quit the conflict.
Characteristics of Adolescent Children
Adolescent children have a strong sense of independence. They don't like to follow the rules of their parents. They like to show their personality. For example, they like personalized clothes, hairstyles and shoes, and they like to use network language. They will put more emphasis on peer relationships and want to gain a sense of belonging among peers. So when students speak online language, they will also speak it.
Adolescent children still have strong vitality. The curse shows the child's aggressiveness. An aggressive child also shows that he is full of vitality. There is a saying "young and vigorous", which is also the truth.
