In the process of children's growth, many parents want their children to be grateful and want their children to remember their parents' upbringing. However, parents' ideas and practices are quite different. They require their children to know how to be grateful, but at the same time they spoil their children. As time goes by, children will not know how to be grateful. So if you want to cultivate children's gratitude, parents should do a good job in guiding them.
Children don't know how to be grateful
1. Don't let old people spoil you. The old man's wrong way of doting on children will make them selfish and don't know how to cherish the efforts of others. Therefore, parents should take care of their children themselves so that their children can receive proper care and education.
2. Parents should not bear all the difficulties themselves. Let children know their own difficulties, and let children understand their parents. Only by understanding the hard work of parents can children have the ability to empathize, be more considerate of their parents' difficulties, and be grateful for their parents' efforts.
3. Parents should set an example of gratitude to their children. Children are a mirror of parents' behavior, so parents should set an example and learn to be grateful. In addition to the elderly, they will also be grateful to society and other people. In the words and deeds of parents, children will gradually understand the meaning of gratitude.
4. Parents should pay attention to their children's gratitude. When children express their gratitude and gratitude to their parents, parents should respond to their children in a timely manner to let them know that such behavior is correct, and is also recognized and encouraged, so that they can adhere to this behavior more spontaneously.
The reason why children don't understand gratitude
1. Parents dote on their children too much. In many families, the existence of children is more critical, they are loved, do not do anything. For a long time, the state of children will also make us feel that they have no advantage. After such children enter the society in the future, most of them will not be very good.
Just imagine, if children can't even guarantee their own lives, how can they distract from taking care of their parents? Then parents' life in their later years will not be guaranteed. Maybe sometimes it has something to do with our education of our children in life. Only proper love can let children know how to struggle. Don't immerse yourself in the candied fruits of parents. Children can become more excellent and have the ability to support their parents when they are old.
2. Parents did not set an example, and even abetted children not to be grateful. Some parents also show this extremely unfilial state when they treat their own parents. But in this process, they never considered their own behavior and what kind of impact it would have on their children.
However, children will also learn from this kind of behavior and discourse, so that this kind of unfilial behavior can take root in their hearts. Naturally, no matter how much education parents have, they can't get rid of their impression of their parents' behavior. When I grow up, I will treat my parents in this way without any problems.
What methods are not advisable to cultivate children's gratitude
1. Let children experience more hardships and setbacks. For example, some people say that children today do not know how to be grateful because their living conditions are so good that they should let children experience more hardships, so that they will understand that life is not easy now, and then they will also know how to be grateful. Although there is a certain truth to this, the above setbacks do not refer to those encountered in life, but are set by parents for their children.
In fact, this is impractical. For example, parents have good economic conditions, but in order to cultivate children's gratitude, they wear some patched clothes for their children, which will backfire. This will make children envy others, and then have inferiority complex.
2. Always complain to children. In life, some parents may often complain to their children about how hard it is to earn money, so as to tell them that they should be grateful and study hard to be worthy of their efforts.
In fact, this kind of expression is not advisable for children. In this case, although children will be grateful to their parents, they may also feel some self reproach. They may also feel that they have increased the burden of the family, which is equivalent to putting a yoke on their children.
