A child without rules is a family dereliction of duty. We know that family education for children is very important. Children should be nurtured when they are young. Children should be taught to be polite, abide by rules, respect others, establish a good sense of morality, and have a correct view of three aspects. Parents' words and deeds will exert a subtle positive influence on children's lives.
How to educate children without rules
1. Every disobedient child may be very distressing to parents, because we may have a lot of tolerance when our children were young, which can also make many of our children lack certain rules in many aspects, so it may cause many difficulties in the process of constantly changing their children when they grow up, Even trying to change children is no longer so easy.
Therefore, there should be a correct way to educate children and a subjective attitude towards parents. First of all, we should understand what kind of person we want to train our children to be.
2. No rules, no talent. Parents without principles educate children without principles and lose their respect for them. Children need principles, which gives them the soil for growth. Children without principles will often run into a wall and lose their sense of security, thus losing their initiative.
Principles and rules must be based on correct values, otherwise they will be opposed to the public and excluded. "You must leave space for children to fly after the principles and rules. For birds, the rules are not to cut off the wings, but the direction of flight."
3. Teaching by example is the most important. Start from every bit of life, and remind children every moment how to do this thing, and what consequences will be caused if not. Of course, this is just one of them.
The most important thing is to let children gradually form a sense of public welfare. Everyone's greatest attribute is sociality. Only by following the general rules of society, can it be beneficial to others, so that they will restrain themselves from the heart and become stronger gradually.
4. Let children see the consequences of not following the rules. What rules should children follow? Try to let children see the benefits of obeying the rules and the consequences of not obeying the rules. Otherwise, no matter how many rules there are, they are useless.
5. Clear rules and firm implementation. When parents and children make rules together, they should pay attention to the clarity of the rules, so that children can understand them correctly. The stronger the children's sense of participation, the more willing they will be to comply with the rules.
6. Replace self-discipline with heteronomy. Children at this age generally have poor self-discipline. Parents can establish agreements with children to encourage them to participate actively in the contents of the agreements.
The child is very disobedient. What should we do
1. Speak less. Parents always treat their children's mistakes as experienced people, always hoping that they can make fewer mistakes, so they want to convey their own experience to their children, and thus fall into the situation of "chattering". Under such circumstances, even if the child knows that he has made a mistake and that the parents are reasonable, he will feel impatient and unwilling to listen.
This is the "transfinite effect" in psychology, that is, the psychological phenomenon of too much, too strong or too long stimulation, which causes extreme impatience or rebellion. Therefore, when we conduct discipline and education for children, in order to avoid the extreme emotion of both parties, parents should "talk less", and keep concise when dealing with problems and conducting education, rather than lengthy preaching.
2. Respect and listen to your child's ideas. In daily life, parents should communicate with their children more, not only to express their requirements for their children, but also to communicate with their children about their emotions, feelings and ideas. Determine special parent-child time with children to give them high-quality company.
Parents should know more about children, find out the most acceptable way for children, and communicate. Parents are willing to listen to children and put forward more reasonable requirements according to their ability. Children will also be more willing to listen.
How to educate children who don't know manners
1. Pay attention to the details of life. Behavior determines habits. The details of daily life are the most important link for children to develop good manners and habits. Parents should pay special attention to them. For example, when seeing elderly people or passengers who need seats on the bus, parents should take the initiative to set an example for their children and give our seats to people in need.
2. Learn to listen. When others are talking, listen quietly, don't interrupt others' conversation, don't make noise, don't do other things, and tell children that this is respect for others. When there is something that needs to be interrupted, ask the other person and do other things with permission.
