Parents are the first teachers of children, so we should set an example in the process of educating children, standardize ourselves first, and then educate children. In addition to setting an example, parents should also pay attention to communicating with their children frequently. Only through communication can they grasp the children's psychological dynamics in a timely manner, and can they better deal with the children's problems.
How excellent parents educate their children
1. It is more important to develop self-confidence. Self confidence is to believe in your own strength, ability and role. Self confidence is the spiritual pillar of children's success in learning and life. In the process of educating children, developing their self-confidence is even more important than intellectual education.
2. Lead inferiority children to self-confidence. Children's inferiority complex is not innate, but is caused by the wrong way of education and children's low ability to resist setbacks. When a child is enveloped by inferiority complex, his physical and mental development and communication ability will be severely constrained, and his intelligence will not be brought into normal play, they will often begin to degenerate, even despair.
Therefore, parents should encourage their children more than criticize them, let them taste the happiness of success in practice, and realize from success that they are competent and capable, and that they are no worse than others.
3. Respect children. The healthy growth of children is not only reflected in the physical and intellectual, but also in the psychological. A small sapling cannot grow into a towering tree only by watering and fertilizing without seeing the sun. Respect is to children what sunshine is to young trees. Children who are not respected cannot grow into the towering trees expected by their parents.
4. Help children surpass themselves. The height of the heart affects the height of the jump. When educating a child, we should train him to surpass his own ability and break through the height set by himself. As long as his mind does not yield, he may break through obstacles and fears to reach the height of his heart.
5. Teach children to speak with facts. Prejudice is the enemy that prevents people from forming correct understanding. Accurate judgment comes from the investigation of objective facts rather than subjective conjecture. As parents, they should guide their children to learn to speak with evidence and facts, and treat people and things around them objectively and pertinently, without prejudice.
6. To truly understand the needs of children and not blindly pursue false fame. Only what is suitable for oneself is the best. When educating children, parents should really understand their children's psychological needs, know what they really need, and then give. Don't blindly pursue false fame. Give your children whatever they see others give them. It may not be what they need.
Parents' wrong practices in educating their children
1. Over protection. Sometimes, parents pay too much attention to their children's superficial needs and ignore their children's invisible psychological needs. Even if children have excellent congenital conditions, they cannot get the development they deserve. Parents must understand that caring is spiritual communication rather than behavioral intervention. Excessive intervention not only disgusts children, but also hinders their potential development.
2. Overindulgence. Parents obey their children's requirements in everything and do everything for them. Children don't have to do anything, so they tend to become self-centered, headstrong, dependent, late mature, intolerant, and don't know how to take care of themselves. Even though it seems gentle on the surface, when children grow up and need to face problems, they may have sudden personality changes.
3. Try too hard to grow. Some parents force their children to learn to stand and walk ahead of time, regardless of their children's development, resulting in serious physical and mental imbalance of the children, resulting in problems such as irritability, anxiety, indifference, withdrawal, and may also have problems such as refusal to learn, and do not know how to live in harmony with others.
Family education should grasp the following principles
The principle of equality. Research has proved that the argument of equality between children and parents is not only a promotion of mutual love, but also can help children build confidence, distinguish right from wrong, and enrich imagination and creativity. Children should be treated as equals to themselves.
Respect principles. Only when parents respect their children will children respect their parents.
Communication principles. Children's growth is not only material, but also spiritual and emotional needs. When parents ignore their children's spiritual and emotional needs, children and parents have nothing to say. In the long run, it will become more and more awkward for children to get along with their parents.
The principle of freedom. Many parents have strict control over their children, but they are often thankless and even cause tragedy. We should believe in children's ability and give them a space for free development.
