Adolescence is a critical period for the formation of children's thoughts. During this period, children's emotions fluctuate greatly, and they are prone to extreme personality problems. The typical performance is pride, arrogance, suspicion, and mental hypersensitivity. In the face of children's extreme personality, parents should guide children patiently, treat children's emotions rationally, and never hit children.
What to do when encountering extreme students
1. Understand their needs: listen and try to understand their views and feelings. Understand their emotions and ways of thinking, and build the foundation of trust.
2. Give children proper time and space: When children are in adolescence, they need to understand and respect their feelings and needs, and do not excessively interfere with and control their behavior and thinking mode. Parents can give children appropriate time and space to explore their own life and interests, and gradually adjust their emotional needs.
3. Patience and empathy: establish good communication and relationship with them. Understand their uneasiness and fears, and show understanding and respect for their feelings.
4. Stimulate interest: help them find some activities they are interested in and encourage them to participate in them. This can distract them from fixed ideas.
5. Cultivate children's social skills: The extreme personality problems of adolescent children are sometimes caused by the lack of social skills. Therefore, parents need to help their children develop good social skills, such as making friends and resolving conflicts, so that their children can feel more social situations and gradually become confident without anxiety.
How does the irascible child's temper and character form
1. Family atmosphere: The family atmosphere is tense, parents quarrel or beat and scold children and other bad family environment may make children's character become irritable and irritable.
2. Needs are not met: due to the doting of parents, some children cry and make a scene when they are not satisfied. If they are not satisfied, they will lose their temper. Parents must not give in and accommodate, or they will encourage children's temper.
3. Not being paid enough attention: sometimes when children talk about something interesting to their parents, parents often nod or snort carelessly because they are busy with their own affairs, and children will be very angry.
4. Inappropriate parenting style: Overindulgence may also lead to children's temper tantrums. When a child loses his temper occasionally, parents may show some appreciation because the child is still young and the small appearance of losing his temper is very cute. Then the child's behavior of losing his temper will not be curbed, but will grow and form a vicious circle.
5. The parents are too strict with their children: if the child is slightly wrong or fails to do as required or does poorly, the parents will severely reprimand or even beat the child. This approach can lead to two undesirable results. First, make children feel dissatisfied and depressed. Secondly, parents' behavior provides a model for children to follow. Once the environment is appropriate, children will also show the same irritable and aggressive behavior.
How to guide children's extreme personality? Patience is the king's way, worth learning from every parent
1. Be patient with children
How much patience is needed to treat children, only as parents can understand. When you prepare a big meal carefully, he doesn't eat a mouthful; When you have a lot of things to do after he falls asleep, he refuses to sleep anyway; When you are sleepy at night, the little thing is crying all the time... You have to fight your anger and treat your baby calmly.
2. Get along with children as friends
Many parents have little time to accompany their children because of their busy work, and there is no too close communication and exchange with their children, and there is no good parent-child relationship. So that children often cry, in order to arouse parents' attention and concern. Parents should put aside their parents' identity and attitude, try to get along with their children as friends and accompany them more.
3. Reasonably treat children's emotions
When children vent their emotions, parents must treat them rationally, remember not to be angry, and try various ways and words to divert attention. In fact, this method works well for many children. Moreover, children have strong imitation ability, and every word and deed of parents will be imitated by children!
4. Encourage children to socialize
Encourage children to exchange ideas with others and reduce suspicion of others. The paranoid people are used to judging other people's behavior with a gloomy and negative psychology.
5. Create opportunities for children to care for others
Children should learn to help others and understand their difficulties, so as to cultivate their good qualities. People with this disposition should take the initiative to help classmates and friends in difficulty, so that they can feel the happiness of helping others and cultivate their tolerance towards others and the world around them.
