Children like to fight. They always use force to solve problems when they encounter problems, which makes parents worried. They have taught their children several times, but the children still don't listen. They will fight when they encounter something unpleasant. Children have the habit of fighting. Parents must take timely measures to help children find appropriate solutions and promote their healthy growth.
How to educate children who love fighting
1. Find out the course and cause of the matter. Before getting involved in the conflict between children, parents should first understand the cause and process of the matter, so as to better handle the conflict for children, resolve the conflict, and better clarify who is right and who is wrong.
It is easy to make other children feel cold hearted if parents are indifferent to one child. This aboveboard bias is easy to attract other children's dissatisfaction, which not only fails to solve the conflicts between children, but also paves the way for the next argument and action.
Therefore, when encountering a child in dispute, parents should listen to the two children explain the process fairly and impartially, and then consider whether they need to intervene in the child's conflict. If they need to intervene, they need to help the children resolve the conflict from an objective perspective.
2. Parents should not take sides. When solving the conflict between children, parents should know not to take sides with any party, let children explain the conflict from their own perspectives, and then parents should deal with the problem from a fair and just perspective. If the other party's children are at fault, the parents should ask for justice for the children, so as to set an example for the children and deter the other party from bullying people at will.
3. Express empathy with children. When a child fights with other children, as a parent, he or she will definitely stop the child from hitting others as soon as possible. The usual way is to criticize and reason with children to make them understand that "it's wrong to hit people". In fact, this often does not have good results.
I think it is more appropriate to divide the fight into two aspects: the event itself and the beating emotion. The first step is to deal with the emotion of fighting. Children's beating is often the expression of anger. When children are angry, they will think that they have sufficient reasons for beating. Therefore, parents should understand children's emotions before reasoning and educating them.
4. Guide children to fully express. After expressing empathy with children, parents need to guide children to fully and completely express why they want to hit people and their emotions at that time. In this process, parents need to show their concentration and patience when expressing to children, listen to children's expression of the whole event, and give children positive responses with eyes, expressions and nods.
The reason why children love fighting
1. To let off steam. We can also often see some babies start beating and crying because their parents don't agree with their requirements. Some babies will hit others because they quarrel with children. Some children will bully the children praised by their teachers and parents. Most of the children hit people because of anger or jealousy.
2. Parents' error demonstration. Most of the time, when parents educate their children, they will inevitably criticize their children, and their children will also cry. Sometimes, in order to prevent their children from crying, the other side will spare no effort to comfort them, and when comforting them, they will help their children to excuse their own problems, so that their children subconsciously think that they are not wrong. This is actually the same nature as "beating the table".
3. Family members lack care and love for their children. When children lack the care of their families, they will also use some ways to gain family relations. For example, if the father has been playing with his mobile phone all the time, the child will disturb his father and sometimes beat his father. This behavior actually shows the lack of love and the lack of love education in the family.
How to educate a son in fighting
1. Parents change their children's goals when their sons hit others. It is difficult for parents to let a child who is beating stop their behavior, but parents can give the children another object that they can hit, such as a pillow, and then let the children hit, so that the children's anger will not have nowhere to vent.
2. Parents teach their sons to express their emotions through communication. It is very effective for children to teach them to express their negative emotions in words. Once children can accurately express their emotions through more direct methods, their aggressive behavior will slowly stop.
